Sorry, good reply but I couldn't resist. Good answer from you
Posted By: 2labman
Sounds like you're changing from just vanilla - good for you. There are a lot of flavors out there; you don't have to like them all, but give them a taste to see...
WARNING: You got me started...
Of course you need massage oil, unscented or almond is best if you need discretion. Most women will have a preference, so check with her to see what she likes. Moisturizer will do in a pinch, but don't get it in her naughty bits, can irritate sensitive skin. When you get there, take a short break, wash your hands and use lube for a yoni massage. Bring the Hitachi, assuming that she doesn't already have one and a good blindfold and maybe some earbuds for your phone to listen to music/be kept from hearing anything. That's for starters. Get some soft 3/8" to 1/2" rope at Home Depot and EMT scissors (no clothesline) and spend a few hours on Youtube learning how to use it safely. I'd also suggest bringing a flogger of your own - I don't like being hit with a flogger that has hit anyone else, it's a hygiene thing. That should be plenty for a quite a few hours of introductory play. Remember, floggers aren't just to hit with, they can caress and kiss and tease very nicely, although when your skin gets pinked up a little, it's much more sensitive for whatever kind of touch therapy she wants to apply. The kitchen or mini-bar has ice, you can bring fruit (in-season strawberries are great), some really good chocolate, maybe some truffles. Don't be afraid to switch places and let her take control, the power exchange is wonderfully liberating.
I really enjoy the sensory deprivation sensory play, including the food. Very erotic, very safe, very entertaining for both of you. It's easy to spend hours on foreplay doing this stuff, watch the clock if that's a concern. I'm lucky enough to have a friend that throws the clock out the window when we play.
