from like...highschool... I don't know where it went, but it's a vague memory now. In the actual moment, the fun is still there, but the lead up...eh...I have other shit to do and think about, and I'm not all that concerned about the outcome of later plans - the result will always be whatever I want it to be because MY fun depends on no other person. One way or another, I am going to have fun if that's what I set out to do, with or without her.

Fucking is fun...but just thinking about it?...once upon a time I'd be like an 8 year-old heading to an amusement park if I had pussy on deck, but now I don't have any feelings about it. It's like the NFL pregame shows - push mute and find something better to do than speculate, until kickoff.

Hello all you sexy people!

My first actual thread on the General Board, but I have a "date" tonight and I've been excited all morning...just knowing that in X number of hours I'm going to be having some incredible sex with a beautiful woman puts a smile on my face and a spring in my step almost as much as the ones I have after a session.

I know a lot of hobbyists have spur-of-the-moment urges or needs, so they make same day appointments and race around to "bust a nut", but for me, nothing compares to that thrill of knowing that I've got a "sure thing" lined up.  I feel the same way about taking providers out to eat.  In the civvie world, I LOVE the dating but HATE the waiting, which is why I really enjoy the hobby...all throughout the dinner and the small talk, we both know what will be happening shortly and I LOVE that buzz.

Just wondering if any of the rest of you love the anticipation as much as I do, or if you could care less, and just want what you want when you want it.  And ladies, how about you?  Is the anticipation something you enjoy too?  

Just curious...

I have never met a provider that does the whole date routine, but the drive to the incall location is what kills me. Especially traffic!

It gives me a reason to get through the work week, and then I have Sunday to decompress and come back down to earth.

I generally schedule my dates about a week in advance.  Have never done a same day meeting, aside from a gal I hooked up with at a Meet n Greet for after the party.  Thought she was just too hot to pass up.

It's one of the reasons why we like to hobby right?  Although I do like dating and going on a date and knowing pretty much if I'm gettig laid or not.  What bugs me and why I hobby is the after-math of sex with a civvie women.  They call you ever five mintues....want to know where you are.....why you are NOT with them.  The drama is crazy.  That's why love the hobby!!!  No strings attached....no phone calls and crazy girls at your door step

Its a little different for the ladies.  Sure, every once in a while, there will be a guy that I am intrigued by-- maybe because ive gotten to know him a bit ahead of time (hehe), or someone whose references really gush about him, or someone who schedules an unusual first session (like a social event, vacation, etc...)..  These will set a guy apart and make me excited.

But for the most part, since we see more guys than you do ladies, and most sessions are generally the same, (plus we dont really know who you are or what you look like), its not really anticipation, more like butterflies....

...Especially when we know the guy is really excited.  Some guys only play like once or twice a year so its a BIG deal to them when they see a provider.  If we know that, it does put a lot of pressure on us to look perfect and perform perfectly.  My nervousness always comes from hoping the guy will be attracted to me and like me.  

So to answer your question, from my perspective at least, its not anticipation as much as nerves.

Fair enough Honest...and that's the response I was expecting mostly from the ladies.  However as you said, there is that sense of intrigue once in awhile with a client, so forgive me if I press you on that line a bit, out of curiousity.

You mentioned during an unusual first session (social event, vacation, etc.), and it's to THAT that I'm more curious about from a provider's perspective.  As I said I love a dinner date pre-play time to help build up the anticipation that I so enjoy.  How about for you on those "special occasion" first dates...do you then enjoy the build up, flirty behavior and anticipatory byplay as much as we do?  I imagine it would depend on the client, but, if there is a little bit of a click, does it heighten the experience for you, or is it just "par for the course".  As an example, let's say if a first date actually IS a vacation...on the drive or flight there, can the whole build up be such that you simply can't wait to get started, whether it's upon arrival or even by pulling over to the side of the road, or heading to the airplane lav (overrated so I'm told)?

I like that response.  Gives a bit of insight into the other half of the equation.  

I like to schedule out a bit also. I dont go nuts but it will cross my mind and I will feel the excitment.  I personally like follow on dates, where you know what to expect. The first time is usually filled with butterflies.  And you wonder if she will like me or going screaming down the hall.   It is really cool when I met with ladies from the boards.  I kinda feel like I know them a bit but the first time is still a killer.

Oh sure, definitely!!!  

In the case of meeting someone for the first time and we are going on vacation, I get REALLY excited!!!  Like on the plane, I'll fantasize about seeing him for the first time near baggage claim and giving him a big, flirty hug and kiss and shoot him some flirty looks...  

The sex, though, is not really something I really anticipate or fantasize about (before meeting) simply because I dont know who he'll be or what he'll look like.  For example, even if I exchange flirty emails with a guy up until the session, I still know in the back of my mind that he may bald or extremely "robust" so no need to get too riled up.

You guys have our photos and reviews to build a picture of us.  But ladies are pretty much in the dark until we meet...

***However, the time that I REALLY anticipate seeing a guy is on subsequent sessions, if our first session was really hot!!!  Oh my god.  I'll sit there and fantasize about the guy all week, until our session day.  

Sorry if my answer was weird.

WTF? Are we in high school now?

"Some guys only play like once or twice a year so its a BIG deal to them when they see a provider. If we know that, it does put a lot of pressure on us to look perfect and perform perfectly. "

Is there anything we can say or do beforehand to make you feel better about the upcoming date?  I fit in this category, I am just starting out in the provider space and rather than opting for seeing a whole bunch of providers, I have a very small number of higher end providers I plan to see, to make the experience nicer... but I don't want to put any pressure on the provider, and I want them to have a good time also.  

As for clients being attracted to you, I think providers should take some comfort in the fact that guys who go to see providers less often have probably done a lot of research and already have a healthy (or perhaps somewhat unhealthy in cases) attraction to you beforehand from reading the website, reviews, etc, not to mention that simply being guys your looks provide a base level of attraction as well.  So you already have some things going in your favor that will help make the client happy simply seeing you even if some things go a bit wrong in the middle of the visit.

As a client I actually feel a bit of what you are feeling, hoping the provider will like be enough that she will have a good time also, and that she will not be offended or freaked out by something I say or do.  But I agree with the original poster that there is a nice feeling of anticipation knowing that something sexy is happening that day, even if the details are a mystery.

Not weird at all! Perfectly captures what I hoped might be an honest provider's response.

Yum! Same here, gorgeous! Hope your Tennessee gentlemen are treating you well.