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And this is the reason why I never understood the "ATF" thing....
LookingToParty 3015 reads
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I mean, of course I can understand that if someone provides EXCELLENT service, it is easier to simply become a repeat customer rather than repeatedly paying your money and taking your chances. It isn't my style, I prefer variety, but I do understand it.

What I don't understand is developing a "relationship" beyond anything that can simply be described as "pleasant" and "professional". Some guys here wax poetic about their relationship with their "ATF", and I keep thinking "isn't that what a SigO is for?".

Like Aphroditez said...there is simply too much potential for trouble from both sides of the equation. To me, the whole point of the "business transaction" part of the hobby is so that neither party forgets what the REAL DEAL is. I guess it doesn't always work though...

Lemme see...a MARRIED provider who falls in love with a MARRIED client. Me thinks this person probably doesn't seek out or maintain the healthest relationships in her life.

Glad to see you escaped relatively harm free...

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-- Modified on 4/16/2003 3:17:47 PM

ShakenUp6834 reads

Update on breaking it off with a provider that said she was in love with me...many of you wanted an update on how I did it and what happened.  Talk about a true GFE...this was the same as breaking up with a GF.  Same tears, screaming, begging, anger, accusations, not taking no for an answer...I was told I had mislead her with my interest, generosity, conversations, helping with other job projects, etc.  Gave her the wrong impression...
But I think it is over and so far no recriminations.  Lessons learned:  1. okay to say "I love it" but be careful about "I love you" even if you paid for the privilege of saying it...
2. Don't try to get too interested in her other life  3. Don't
give up more personal information than you absolutely have to - placing that much trust in a provider can give her the wrong impression.  3.  Keep the intimacy to the sessions - phone and email love letters can be misinterpreted  4. Keep moving...I got into a comfort zone with repeat sessions..she got into more than that..  And of course...YMMV.

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aphroditez6992 reads

is prevalent in all the points that you mention.  It is possible to have a close relationship with a lady without lines being crossed.  It depends on where an individuals head is at on both sides of the fence.

A client who has become a friend has termed it the Pretty Woman syndrome.  Too many ladies are looking for their knight in shining armor and too many gents play on that.  On the other side of the coin, too many gents get too attached and become prime targets from charlettons that will take them for the ride of their life.  

There are all types of individuals in this forum.  It is very important and maybe more so here in this community to take things at a snails crawl to see where an individuals mindset is before taking things to the next level.  

Lauren

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sedonasandiego3227 reads

Lauren,
Excellently put. One thing I have to keep in mind is that my mind must always remember that this is a 'business' arrangement. I'm PAID to remember that- for myself, and sometimes even, for him. This is for the BEST for both parties, and it's not always easy to do.
While I do provide a true GFE experience, my feelings are genuine, and not fake. I DO enjoy their company, the intimacy, etc, and that is all real, they can be assured, but I will always remember what Sheen said (what the heck is his name??) that (in regards to Providers) he's not paying for their services, he's paying for them to LEAVE. Therefore, the way I interpret that, is that the pleasurable experience is as it should be and in the set parameters, but what you're actually paid for is your SEPARATION (mind, body, emotions, information, etc.).
I adore my guys, because in fact, I DO, but I am PAID not to fall in love, get needy, be hopeful, etc...

Love,
Sedona

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LookingToParty3016 reads

I mean, of course I can understand that if someone provides EXCELLENT service, it is easier to simply become a repeat customer rather than repeatedly paying your money and taking your chances. It isn't my style, I prefer variety, but I do understand it.

What I don't understand is developing a "relationship" beyond anything that can simply be described as "pleasant" and "professional". Some guys here wax poetic about their relationship with their "ATF", and I keep thinking "isn't that what a SigO is for?".

Like Aphroditez said...there is simply too much potential for trouble from both sides of the equation. To me, the whole point of the "business transaction" part of the hobby is so that neither party forgets what the REAL DEAL is. I guess it doesn't always work though...

Lemme see...a MARRIED provider who falls in love with a MARRIED client. Me thinks this person probably doesn't seek out or maintain the healthest relationships in her life.

Glad to see you escaped relatively harm free...

-- Modified on 4/16/2003 11:23:41 AM

-- Modified on 4/16/2003 3:17:47 PM

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