The truth is way over rated anyways.  Can you just imagine how painful it would be to someone to be told this?

How often has the truth set you free?

I can think of a lot of times that lies have done more good than bad.

This is clearly one of them.

There is only one person in the world that you  should never lie to, and that is yourself.

... is that rarely does anyone tell the complete truth in re: sexual performance.  It's a very sensitive subject for anyone to really address truthfully.  I'd say this even *more* true for Providers than civies (maybe?), but nonetheless this goes beyond the hobby.

It's one of the reasons why so many guys think that there's "nothing wrong" with them, but thinks everyone else has a problem. LOL.

Re: And do we all tell the truth?

Critiques that I've received:
1) "Why do you smile so much, its distracting"
   - obvious answer applies
2) "Stop making me laugh"
   - this one really threw my ego for a bit. lol
     Depending on my mood and the girl I simply
     can't resist joking around. Plus I find it
     Cute when a lady will loss concentration or
     just rolls over laughing. Its a rare    
     disarmament, and as long as it is my
     personality and not performance that they're
     laughing at, I'm good!
3) "you are too quite"
  - I'm naturally a quite person until I get to
    know ya. Plus see above, some ladies don't
    react well. Had one that decided to shut her
    eyes for the remainder of the time because
    she said that she "couldn't look at me
    without laughing." That was just brutal! lol

p.s.- I'm always open to positive critiques of my performance. If a lady doesn't say anything, the guy will generally go on thinking that he is fine.
Please, just avoid the cold lifeless stare. I only got this once from a civie and ouch.

with pretty danged honest ladies; most of whom I'd like to see in Congress. LOL

I have a hierarchy of values such that I believe a lesser wrong committed to prevent or fix a greater wrong is a net good. If I lie to an armed robber and thereby induce him to load his gun with blanks -- that's a net good.

Deception is so incredibly prevalent in humans that it clearly evolved for a net-beneficial purpose. It is also, just so you know, not limited to humans. Corvids (magpies, crows, ravens, etc.) also show the ability.

There are times where lying like a rug is the absolute best thing and, yes, I have absolutely told women how fantastic they were if (and only if) by doing so I didn't set them up for later disappointment by doing so.

But I also have decided that in some cases the women would be more hurt in the long run by failing to tell them, so I fessed up and then helped.

So its very case by case.

Me? I know I'm at best so-so in bed in some respects. (fine in others.) Since I already know that, I can state it outright and without embarassment -- and that leaves opportunity for improvement that could never occur if I weren't aware of the deficiency.

But I use the strategy of indirect approach. I start talking about Kant's nuomenal world, and pretty soon, by comparison, anything physical I do seems a vast improvement and a welcome relief. The special theory of relativity comes to the rescue! (*grin*)

I've had inexperienced ladies "think" they know how to "get a guy off."  They "manhandle" my manhood in a malicious manner.  And while they do this, they wonder why my engorged weinie dries up cause up to that point in time, things were WONderful.  The few times I have spoken up - even on this one singular activity, the lady has often said, "thanks for telling me, let me try a different approach" - that is, if she is into pleasing her partner.  Even when i have asked to be tied up and teased with torture, it pays to be specific about what gets you going and what is a show stopper.

Oft - it is not that the other person is a "bad" lover, rather they just do not know YOUR preferences... adn what gets one going.... as I say, may be a show stopper for others.

Why on earth would either a client or a provider want to create a confrontation with a total stranger?  If it sucks I don't go back. Simple.  I know my ATF's both have pretty healthy DNS lists but neither is crazy enough to tell a guy while he is still in the room that she won't be seeing him again.

I would see most of the ladies I have seen again.  Most of the time it is a matter of logistics with work schedule and their location.  Yes, there are some ladies where there was no chemistry.  As the saying goes, YMMV.

point him in the right directions lol, be verbally encouraging about whatever good stuff he does and steer him in a different direction when he's floundering.

I always appreciate it anyway.

NOW - I realize that some guys think that they are God's gift and that their routine is rockin'. By definition they ain't because every lady is unique. I realize that these guys are not predisposed to listen.

Hell - males in general aren't terribly dispopsed to listen well when all the blood has left their brain for their - well - you know '

But, *trying* to communicate is appreciated by many of us

I tell them they're great. They never are. Lies are inluded in my fee.