Didnt really know how to title this post to really get to the heart of the question. So please disregard any meaning there. Bascially I want to know what kind of an experience I can recieve from a little hobbying. Allow me to clarify.

I've only engaged with a provider once. It was a quick thing as I was offered this experience while visiting a local nudey bar. When getting multiple lapdances, your sexed up good and ready and easy prey I suppose!
The experience was fast and mechanical. Definitly not GFE as it was, get you hard, get to work, get the hell out. I didnt enjoy this really as I suppose I would prefer to take my time and enjoy more than just the act of " getting off ".

I know I would prefer the DATY, the LFK or DFK, the oral in any format.. As well as a lot of petting. Now I've seen a lot of providers that seem to excel at this and I've read reveiews backing it up. GREAT, where do I sign? Well heres the twist. Now while I'm not a hairy, ugly, smelly mess, I am overweight. I'm not pushing 3 bills, but I have no problem saying that I am a chubby lil bastard! Now I know these ladies are professionals and this probably is a stupid question, I have to wonder. It has to be easier for a provider to get into it with your average guy. So my ultimate finish to this drawn out inquiry is, will I most likely get a good GFE session with a provider in my situation?
I know this is probably a very subjective question based on the provider I would meet with, but I'd like to see if anyone has insight. I've been interested in trying some hobbying as of late, but I know that if I have a bad, mechanical experience, I will most likely leave frustrated and give up on the idea.


So if any of the providers of hobbyist would indulge me, I'd like to hear what you think.

heheh since I'm almost assured someones going to mention, " how bout a diet there bucko? " I'll just say in advance, its in the works.

Thanks in advance.

The Noob

You have money right?  

Then don't worry about it...

Most of us will not have a problem with your weight. The important things are good hygiene, being respectful and treating her like a lady. This will score major points with the her. OK now, find some ladies, that float your boat, read the reviews, if she offers what you are looking for and then go for it.

Good Luck and Have Fun!

Kelly~







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I think that because you are over weight you must be suffering from low self esteem.  too be sure it would be better if your desire for the things you mentioned will give you more fortitude to diet successfully.  That being said, as long as you present a neat clean well dressed appearence with a positive aattitude you should more than be okay.
If you are in doubt I would suggest you deal with an agency such as http://www.belledejour.net/schedule.htm, speak to Kim, explain truthfully you fears and I promise you she will steer
you in the write direction.  I have known personaaly guys in your position that have learned to live with themselve the way they are and are leading a relatively normal life.

Be well and be safe.

BM

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So long as you practice excellent hygiene and are respectful, I can't see any lady having a problem with a gentlemans weight.  I personally prefer a lil meat on the bone on my men or my women.  I met one gentleman who was so damn skinny I just couldn't get into him and had to politely withdrawl from his invitation...silly huh...I am a lil thick but don't qualify as a BBW. I have very strong solid thighs and would be afraid I would accidentally crush him....seriously.  I am not attracted to someone who looks fragile and am not insured for liability and can't rish hurting him.  That being said...I just love cock no matter what size/shape/weight it comes to me in!  Sex is a beautiful thing, but to truely enjoy it you need to find comfort in your own skin first.  I have a few stretch marks and it used to completely close me off when someone touched my stomach because of it, now I am completely comfortable in my own skin even on a bad day and I fell that my sexual release is sooo much more intense since I have let go of my insecurities and found self love.  Just my .02

do you think all of the guys here R studs? welcome to the hobby.relax and enjoy yourself. treat these ladies right and they will treat U like a prince.

My instinct tells me that most really good providers do not see much difference between an "average guy" and a "chubby lil bastard", as long as both are clean, courteous and personable. Based on the way you write, the ladies will like you.

One tip - when looking for your GFE provider, find someone whose reviewers emphasize how she made them feel.

... than any moment you spend with a provider at this stage.  If you are very overweight and sick from it, PM me and I may have some ideas.

There are few movie star types amongst us hobbyists. Most of the ladies in this community are more concerned with your hygene, personality and demeanor. Along with your donation envelope bring a positive attitude, a sense of humor and a dash of chivalry and you will be a hit with the ladies.
   
BTW- I was carrying 25lbs of extra weight when I started hobbying. I'm living proof that frequent "Sport-Sex" is a good thing.

  YKSY.

In that regard, do providers have any issues with the race of the person (if client is not caucasian or balck or hispanic)? Any helpful responses or experiences are appreciated.

Hygiene is the first and foremost important part. Then comes, respect and courtesy.

Hugs,
Ciara

I think I have a very good idea where you are coming from. I'll share with you some thoughts in general but also give you some advice.

Advice first so you can skip the rest if you like:  Here is where a VIP membership can be extremely helpful.  Get one if you don't already have it.  Do very thorough searches for the activities and attributes you are interested in.  The true GFE atmosphere leaps off the computer screen in the way the guys describe the date.  Then PM some of the more experienced guys and ask them some of these same questions.  I can't speak for all the guys on here but I'd much rather answer a PM that ponders the question of how someone who's a little overweight will be treated than many of the ones I get about very specific acts offered.    Don't book one hour appointments. You're guaranteed not to get a GFE the first time you see a lady if it's only for one hour. No human being can make the connection you're looking fo that fast and save enough time to rock your world. I'd say that the length of your appointment is a clue to the provider of the type of experience you're looking for.    Also when you contact them discuss some of this.  These are conversations they're likely to be willing to engage in. Much better than the yaaahoo who calls up and asks can you suck a golf ball through a garden hose??? Click.    Anyway tell them you're looking for a GFE date, that you're concerned there may not be a connection because you don't look like Brad Pitt (do any of us?) and that you just wanted to talk about it in advance.  I think you'll get a lot of clues as to how things will go, if you have that frank discussion.  Lastly, it's an imperfect hobby. Just like any one night stand in college, ya just never know EXACTLY how things will turn out. But thanks to review boards and such you can stack the odds in your favor.


Other stuff:  sounds like I have it worse off than you. The one thing I've come to realize is that for the date to go the way I hope it will I need to either talk to the lady way before hand to sort of set the stage, or I need to take charge when the date starts.  Unfortunately taking charge is very difficult when you have self esteem problems as a result of your weight or looks.  But not all the providers can be great GFEs and take charge kind of girls.  I feel agency girls (which I'm not sure if they really are GFE) will talk your ear off if you let them. (Can you blame a girl looking for time off after her 6th date of the day??!!)  So I just need to reconcile myself to the fact that my youthful days of picking up girls in bars has been replaced by this.  What my looks could get me before my wallet gets me now (the opportunity). So now I need to make that opportunity work out well.  So think back, how did I fuck the daylights out of those coeds? I seduced them. these girls are still the same girls.  If you want something you gotta ask. And the way you ask is gonna determine their level of enthusiasm.  It's the same in our everyday lives. Confidence is everything!

Not all look at race, but yes, some may. It's up to the individual's taste. My only suggestion is to ask the provider, that you are choosing to see, and see what her answer may be. If she is not into a certain race, look, or whatever, then move on gracefully, for you can bring your business elsewhere..

Mel



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We've had our disagreements, but on this I couldn't agree with you more.  She's one of a kind.

same sweetness and wisdom.

Thank you, Sir D

I felt it was time for a name change I am glad that you like...purr purr

Mel

Feel 'em, fuck 'em, forget 'em.  What's the dif?

I cringe when I receive requests from a client and they include the phrase "I am a well built/attractive blah blah blah".  I just know it's not going to be fun and 9 times out of 10 I reject them.  Flaws are what make you human, and I find that guys with a realistic perception of their body image are much more fun.  Remember, women aren't as turned on by the visuals as men.  To us, it's a brain thing.  Sense of humor, intelligence and respect are the number one turn ons for me.

If other gals' experiences are anything like mine, playmates come in all types.
I have seen tall ones, short ones, big ones, little ones, and everything in between. Amputees, pace-makers and insulin pumps, burn victims, seriously obese (400+), and other conditions a bit more delicate.
No, it doesn't matter. I enjoy the person, and I do my best to let them enjoy me.
Truthfully, some of the most obnoxious and least desirable fellas have been the ones who think they are all that. They send me emails telling me about their enormous manhood and their gorgeous bod, and how my time with them is going to be so phenomenal that I should review them. A lot of the time I won't even schedule those guys. Ugh. Like I want to deal with that ego for an hour or two.
Relax. If you honestly believe yourself to be unacceptable, be completely forthright in your request to the provider of your choice. Let her decide if she wants to meet with you or not. I think you will be pleasantly surprised.

Kimi

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