Just had a weird experience that I can't shake off.  booked a two-girl session and during the session the provider asked me what I wanted her to do.  I asked for them to make out, and she said they could kiss, but not with tongue.

My mistake is asking why.  She told me "because something bad happened to me when I was young."

Suffice to say, that made me limp.  Ever since that moment, her words keep echoing in my head.  Do you think I am being overly sensitive because it's making me think about quitting or taking a long break.  Or is it just me?

Hey LA_riot, that is f**ked.  but I know what you mean about something not being able to get out of your head.  Sometimes people say things without thinking through the implications.  If someone is going to offer two girl sessions they ought to think through how the conversations might go.
 My suggestion would be to do a search for someone in your area who is into GFE and DFK and take a little time to look at likely candidates ads for any hint that they are really into tongues.  Then I would pick one and ride the pony again to see if it diminishes the sound of her words in your head.  If it still bothers you then maybe taking a break for a while makes sense, but I would hate to have a troubled provider make the hobby not fun for you.  There are a couple of other things to consider.  Feel free to PM me if you want other ideas.
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That you don't ask a question of the witness on the stand unless you already know what the answer will be.

I think that rule also applies in the types of situations you describe.

went with it... turned out that the lady in question wanted to talk about it... I listened.  Was good for both of us.  Sometimes what looks bad turns out better than ok.  but I have to go with you.... never ask a question unless ya know - or have a pretty accurate feel for the answer.

That is what makes civie dating so mind numbing.

At least with hobbying - you know most of the answers going in...  only a couple can surprise you... and they are usually questions that you are not likely to ask.

Oh, and by the way, for the record - today in modern science - grants are NEVER awarded to truly open science where the answer is  not known... funding always goes to those proposed studies where the results are all but guaranteed...  sad, little true innovation/speculation... in this country.

that's b/c there are too many applicants for too little funding....but proven innovators with a good track record have no problem being funded.A real problem is that those who control the funds want "results" to retain their own jobs in the bureaucratic hierarchy both in government and academia.....  

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This is another of my many, many hot buttons...  While the US took the lead in science and technology in the 60's through the 90's we are now in danger of loosing our technical edge.  There are many examples of tech. being exported offshore....   but hey, what do I know.... once I patented a conversation on a beach... Venice Beach to be precise... but that is just me... lol....   I do worry - and more than I used to worry - cause now I have kids.

Thanks for the honest responses.  Nice to be able to be able to discuss these issues instead of internalizing everything.

To give a little more clarification of the situation, I made sure that she had pretty good performance reviews and that she was listed as "yes, really bi."  On a sidenote, I guess further expansion on 3-some reviews would be nice additional feature on TER.

Anyway, another thing that caught me off guard was actually getting an honest response from her which i attribute to being young and relatively new to the biz.  All the providers in the past knew how to work it, both physically and mentally.  They always had the perfect response to every question or comment that would lead to me being more aroused.

I mean, that's why I started hobbying in the first place.  I liked the fact that I could get my needs fulfilled without having to worry about the other person.  I know it's a bit selfish, but when I'm ready to be considerate or worry about the needs or concerns or deal with the baggage of another person, that's when I'll get in a relationship again.

Until then, I just want to enjoy myself.  It sounds cold, but I don't want to deal with a person.  I want a fantasy.  Isn't that what I'm paying for?  Because for me, I don't see it as paying for "it".  I have many options to get "it" for free if I wanted it, but I'm not prepared to deal with the potential headaches that may accompany it at tis time in my life.  I see it as I'm paying for piece of mind.

All my previous experiences have been stellar.  It's just that this one just killed it majorly and I'm not looking forward to being placed in that kind of position again and having to pay for it as well.

I think the whole structure of this hobby or business is just that lack of conventional rules.  It is not reciprocal, we are renting a fantasy.
 In terms of your decision on what to do, it doesn't have to be written in concrete.
Good luck.
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