It's really suspicious when a guy asks a million different questions before the date. If there's too many I just dismiss him as LE or a time waster. I'm more open to discussing wants and needs once I'm sure he's not LE.
when you do not have to deal with so many questions/requests?
Does it matter when prior to the date, he/she has several requests and asks
a number of questions on boundaries?
I would most likely be nervous with too many questions at least prior to knowing the client.
Do you have a lot of requests?
Does it bother you a bit when he/she does?
Your thoughts if any?
The providers back'n'forth with me was too much. Got my Spidy Sense
it usually turns out to be pain-in-the-ass hard to please client
usually the type that starts to annoy the provider the minute this client walks through the door...
you do the best you can to please this type of clients, and often you think session went well,then they go and trash you in the review
Glad to see your back on the boards, Freya.
you do the best you can to please this type of clients, and often you think session went well,then they go and trash you in the review
In closing: if you are seeing a girl for the first time..make sure she's at least in the same realm of what you're looking for. And if you are a return client..requests are actually pretty nice. Oh! Keep in mind though..if u have a lingerie demand for each date and you see her often..a gift card to a lingerie shop means the world
I refuse to talk about anything that may be incriminating via call/text before hand if we never met . But once meet and I know your not LE I would like to know your desires so I can fulfill them . I don't mind a little direction at all I like a man who knows what he wants I hate when I ask a guy what he likes and gives the same old answer " I like everything" lol no you don't.. So if I wanna put my finger in your butt are you gonna be cool with that lol prob not ....
I get excited
Questions or requests don't really bother me, I understand where they come from. I'm comfortable communicating with someone who has been screened
Carolina, what is usually the range of questions that a person would ask of you? Are most of them reasonable or are some of them outrageous?
Questions or requests don't really bother me, I understand where they come from. I'm comfortable communicating with someone who has been screened.
now before i begin with a new lady i ask her if she would mind certain things and i ask if she wants a safe word.
these all come from earlier occurrences where the lady stopped in the middle of everything and objected to what i was saying/doing. so now i want to know from the git-go what is on and what is off the table.
also i always like the lady to know i am open to honest communication about what she likes and doesn't like.
The best times I've ever had are when hardly a word is spoken. I find passion flows a lot more organically when it's played like jazz rather than read like a recipe from a cookbook.
Or they don't have the confidence to perform and they might need some guidance
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Yes, there's such a thing as too much ... of anything.
But AFTER I'm screened and verified, communication before during and/or afterward is fine with me. I'm not a provider, but I'm certainly half of the equation ... it helps if you are confident enough to handle the answer without "wilting" under pressure.
If there was any sense of pressure, I'm looking elsewgere.
Now I know why Carolina (and others as confident) are sooooo appealing ... so very comfortable in her skin, Giving and Receiving. Been there? No. AGELESS ... always
How do I know ... if you have to ask, don't. ... lol
too many questions! 😉
...and ready for you to play.😎
...it's interesting, but also stressful. It means that I will have to take the lead and I prefer the provider to do that. It also means that I may be "training" someone on my dime. When I first started as a hobbyist I thought that it would be a fun thing to do, but now I will politely pass on the offer.
you might just find the right student one day. my two current atfs both had to be schooled in what i enjoy, as they neither one had done it before. they both took to it like ducks to water and i couldn't imagine any ladies being better at my preference
and therefore pretty much know what is and what is not on the menu.
When there are surprises, they are usually happy ones
starts to dampen excitement. A significant question or two, fine (after screening). More than that would seem likely to increase risk that someone is going to get irritated or spooked.
As MrFisher said, good homework tends to alleviate the need for excessive detail in questions and endless communications back and forth.
I'll caveat by saying that yes, there are some activities where agreement in detail is more essential and the session and limits must be clear.
In general, I doubt a lot of extra detail benefits a normal GFE session.
Through correspondence I don't like a lot of back and forth, but the more specific (within reason) the better.
I think sometimes people build up such grand expectations and unfortunately in the real world, expectation vs reality usually differ vastly, usually not in favor of the former. I'm happy to be able to provide one of those rare moments where fantasy and expectation sync. The more specific a person is about this, the more likely it is that I can provide exactly what they've been envisioning.
It's really suspicious when a guy asks a million different questions before the date. If there's too many I just dismiss him as LE or a time waster. I'm more open to discussing wants and needs once I'm sure he's not LE.
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