Here is my situation...

I have a stalker on his board that come out every-once in awhile to trash talk "warn" hobbyist about me (Im a 5 star provider...not sure why he is trying SO HARD to kill my business, its nearly impossible to do but yet, he keeps on going...)

This part, I could care less, he actually get me even more business cause hobbyist are actually checking if I'm as bad as he says and quickly realise that It's not close to be true, so this guy wants to affect me but at the end, he is only helping me more so this is not even the problem I'm concerned about

This is my REEL concern:
He is using a alias (DAH! Everyone knows alias are here to replace the balls that you so desperately missing!)

To me, this man is obviously deranged or must be seriously tormented at night. He can be just a no life or he can be a predator on this board...WHO KNOWS???

Now, he only shows his dark side trough an alias but who knows if his real handle doesn't have 3-4 legitimate reviews and His all account will look normal when really this man can potentially be dangerous???

How about this guy is so focused on hurting me that he will actually book me with his reel handle not leaving me no clue is actually the stalker who was trash talking the day before???


Those aliases should GO!!!

It fakes the all system of knowing who we really dealing with!
Why a hobbyist will never say the word whore with their handle but feel its OK to do so with an alias???
Balls balls balls guys...you have any???

If a provider wont see you because of something you said on a thread...well maybe she has all the right to do so!
Some hobbyist wont see me because of things I voice out my opinion about but at least it was me, They know who I am and what I stand for vs us providers who are being manipulated with his alias BS!



QUESTION:
In society...when you having a discussion with someone, do you wear a mask?
Would you think its completely rude if someone will talk to you with a mask on?
Would you take the individual seriously if he would communicate only with a mask on?
How much credibility you think you really have hiding behind a mask???

TER, please ask yourself those questions

Alias is a mask so people can hide who they really are
Isn't it TER all about the truth?
Isn't it TER all about helping devising the good from the bad???

So why giving the hobbyist the chance to be who they aren't?

i have never used an alias and never will..most are harmless jerks or rabble rousers here to stir the pot..but as you say ..some could be downright dangerous..TER knows who is who..i would report it to TER admin if you know his handle..they will monitor him..if any threats or derogatory comments are made..they will deal with it..members have been banned for far less..

I like my alias, I used it, and I will use it.
I have balls and they are bigger than the average.
I never used it to stalk or creep anyone.
I use it so that I can hide my good pooner name.

If a "stalker" does illegal things, report him.
If you want a safer environment, maybe you are in the wrong line of work.
If aliases are gone providers should use their real names.
If providers have things to lose, we have more to lose.

Wow... is this a poem or what?

Aliases do have useful positive aspects too. Sometimes it helps protect providers as well when someone wants to ask advice on what may be a sensitive topic for her and not reveal her identity through their review history for example.

E.g. - you and a provider get into an unusual situation (she wants to do something with you off the clock or she has an issue that's not her fault for example) and you want some advice from other hobbyists but don't want to reveal her identity and make her look bad because she might be in your review history.

I'm not belittling your issue and I do hope you get it resolved satisfactorily before something happens - just pointing out that aliases are not always used for bad purposes and abolishing them entirely may be a little too sweeping a solution.

Good luck!

It is one thing to use an alias for only shit talking that really does no one harm, but another thing to be malicious and hide behind one because you lack the balls to let everyone know your real board identity. How can a provider dispute an alias review if she has no damn clue who it is or if she saw the person...she can't, which makes the entire idea of their discretion utterly useless. It allows them to be able to get away with lies and bs, that they would be called out for if they were man enough to post under their handle. Fkin peons make me sick.

WTF doofus your "handle" is NOT your real name, and if you don't have the balls to post under a fk board handle no one says you HAVE TO post at all. So we should find a new line of work just because we want to protect ourselves...that's really original lemme tell ya. The same could be said for ANY profession that involves women being alone with random dipshits who are clueless, not just here. Real Estate Agents and Home Health Providers have also been assaulted and raped...should they too find another profession? Talk about a dumb ass statement.


And um..who says YOU have more to lose than we do? Most of you who bitch the loudest about your personal info. getting out, work at the damn Home Depot or some Offshore job where no one gives a rat's ass about how many hookers you sleep with. Worried about your wife you mean? Oh shit, here's some help with that...keep your d*ck in your pants lol.




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Dang, I'm really out of the loop - derp. I'm almost positive they didn't allow that before for the exact reasons you mentioned.

through an alias. You give me refs of course but claim you have no board handle. Your only reason for seeing me is to write a bad review just because I handed you your ass on the boards, and you do just that. No way for me to know it was you, and if you save the email exchange between us no one is the wiser. What TER can't really do is say what happened during a date...all they have to go on is that we saw each other and the guy's word is usually the one they take. I can't prove I did every damn thing in my power to please you, and you were just an asshole. Twisted shit.

Getting rid of the alias thing won't solve the problem though I am afraid. Guys can just get a new handle every week like many of the old guard have done, and poof...they are still around. TER can't police the members and keep us safe...really, that is our job.







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I like my alias, I used it, and I will use it.
     Good for you.
I have balls and they are bigger than the average.
     Saying "I have balls" proves nothing. Show us; and how big is the average testicle, anyway?
I never used it to stalk or creep anyone.
     Should we be impressed? Does it mean that NOBODY abuses their alias?
I use it so that I can hide my good pooner name.
    Wait, so you ARE hiding behind an alias? For what purpose? I thought you had balls?

If a "stalker" does illegal things, report him.
     Yeah, stalkers always make it that easy. Nice insight.
If you want a safer environment, maybe you are in the wrong line of work.
     uhhh... so, "shut up whore, just sit at home and wait to die?"
If aliases are gone providers should use their real names.
     Yeah, because your TER handle is your real name. You are an idiot.
If providers have things to lose, we have more to lose.
     What do you have to lose by a provider looking for help dealing with a stalker?
     And if you have so much to lose, maybe you are in the wrong hobby? Hmmm?

Wow... is this a poem or what?
   No, it is not. A poem has rhyme or rhythm, meter and meaning. You have two moronic quatrains that start with the same word. Nice try, Shortfellow.

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I love the pic of you with the dolphin!!

I'm sorry to tell you that you are shouting into the wind, many have complained to TER about aliases, to no avail. They did reduce the number of aliases a while back to One, so it shows that they are hearing the complaints, but not willing to do away with aliases completely.

I was close to a provider years back who had a very serious problem with a stalker. We were able to deal with it, but it caused her sleepless nights for the better part of a year. Most stalkers are impotent assholes who will never actually lift a finger to come near you, but you are smart to treat them all as dangerous, and take every precaution to protect yourself. I'm not a VIP at the moment so can't send you a PM, but if you would like, I will send an e-mail to your hobby address with some miscellaneous information about things my friend did to protect herself... just let me know, I don't want to bother you if you don't need it.

Good luck!

Frenchie my love!  What a wonderful surprise to find you on here!

Yes you are so right.  People who have no balls hide behind an alias to say the things they could and would never have the guts to say to your face!  They are cowards.   TER seems to be one-sided with "the truth" as its about telling "the truth" about the providers but not about the clients.

Thank goodness their is a website called  NationalBlackList that we providers can use.

TER needs to be more fair and balanced in regards to not allowing hobbyists to hide behind multiple aliases.  After all, fair is fair!


Bon Nuit!

Madsion

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I'm sorry to hear that you have a stalker who is trying to ruin your business..

I love it
Couldnt say it better

Keep your mask on sweetie, I am not looking for a safe line of work, I all most died this summer on my vacation break, danger is all around us...no need to do this job to know that.

All im asking is why TER give a chance to the hobbyist to be jerk and hide instead to keep it reel like we do.

This is why communication and advice can be dine trough the MEN SECTION ONLY

No need aliases there right?

You did not prove NO POINT AS FAR AS WHY ALIASES ARE NECESSARY

Eom

Eom

Why you yelling at midboss? He doesn't mean you any harm.

And stop putting eom INSIDE the message, you silly little croissant!  

-- Modified on 11/7/2012 9:10:01 PM

Don't worry, hun.
If the stalker doesn't have the balls to say things to you under his real account, I don't think he'll have the balls to do anything in person!

Chill mademoiselle! I'm not arguing with you

I wasn't out to argue with you and as you can see I didn't use an alias myself. As I was alluding to when I said I was trying to play devil's advocate I was merely trying to mention the opposite side to aliases from what you've mentioned. I've seen them used for useful purposes too is all I was saying and I'm just not an advocate for sweeping generalizations.

I believe even on the reviewer's board you can quickly check someone's review history out so if someone accidentally says something bad about a provider and it can be inferred from his history who it is then he may inadvertently have slighted her - and since it's on the reviewers board the provider would not even have the chance to respond.

Looking at just one side of a contentious issue doesn't always lead to the best solution. As I said, I hope you get your issue resolved and if it means abolishing aliases I'm okay with it. I just wanted a reasoned discussion instead of a knee-jerk response

I know I can run my mouth off but it's usually all in jest...unless I'm serious. Lol. Cheers!

i havnt read all the responses yet, so if this has already been said, im sorry for repeating...but you may have very well just given this man the idea to book you and do some awful thing by bringing the topic up. not to make light of the situation, but i would think he was harmless, just an idiot that likes to play games and has found one he likes to screw with. may have never even thought of taking it further...until you brought the possibility up. shoulda just talked to a an admin that could ban him or take some kind of action, rather than just giving him more ideas on how to get to you. just my opinion.

The anonymity of the internet lends itself to this type of conduct, whether it be on a hooker/hobbyist board like TER or
another blog, or emails. Some people will say and act out in ways they never otherwise would anywhere else where they are in public, are seen, are known. In the privacy of the internet, they are free to act out, to be whoever they want to be, good or evil, without any repercussions. One can develop a persona and live it out. And you can do this using one handle. Or you might use an alias in addition to your handle and have multiple personae, multiple personalities - kind of like online schizophrenia or a cyberschizoid. To varying degrees, all of us here do this. We have a persona attached with our respective handles. The providers, here, have a persona separate from their real personality, which may/may not be similar to their TER online persona. Its all about being an extension of ourselves, or being someone different, someone who we really aren't.  It is living out our fantasies - which is the essence of hobbying. But, like anything else, it can be carried to extremes when individuals' personae shift too much toward the Mr. Hyde, toward the sick, mean and evil as they hide in anonymity or even as they stalk and/or get carried away in living out their internet fantasy with bizarre fantasies and desires that would be beyond the pale, unacceptable to most people in the real word.

All of this is just a long way of saying that, to a degree, we can expect people to act out, but that we all need to be involved and call people on their behavior when they step over the line. Some people can just never learn where the
fun ends and pain toward someone else begins....

what HARM does an alias do? answer me that. if someone wants to harm you, harrass you, or anything else...they need no alias. the alias doesnt make it possible to do so, and the lack of one doesnt make it impossible. who is to say there isnt someone with 5 or more accounts on here? they could harrass you from one account, and if anything happens, switch to another. the alias isnt the issue, the guy is.

Wow! You're rough, London!....

stalking you offline which happens to many top ladies who don't need biz like you don't need too...but watch out for those who will wait til you leave your incall or find out your real life info and stalk you! It's the worst ever because you can't ever really come back to TER, they stalk and what will you do? How do you prove that so and so found you offline? You can't..he continues on TER and you have to be utr to avoid him noticing you and sharing the real life details he learned from stalking you.......

But in your case if you're talking about someone who likes to stalk you online...it will happen..they will create many ways to ruin or effect your online biz. If it's on TER, let them know. They are great people who have tools in place to keep their valuable members safe and comfortable.

I used my situation as an exemple, just to show aliases fake the all system and could be dangerous.
Aliases give a chance to talk mad s*** and hide who you truly are!

Personally, I only deal with real gents, I always verify who I deal with and I have enough regulars not to have to post too often to make new friends. The odds of this happening are low, however I wanted to point out that in this type of situations, aliases are potentially dangerous as hobbyist can use it to hide their REAL personality.

When I say I'm scared, It's more about the thought of a perfect stranger digging in your life and try to make you look bad JUST BECAUSE...
I would understand if that dude has a legit reason...but unfortunately he doesn't.
Its very disturbing to know some people are trying to make a happiness fairy look bad!

Sad sad world

I wish I could express myself in the right english
But I couldn't say it better.
Aliases helps those sickos pushing their sick twisted world to the next level! YOU NAILED THAT ONE.

So again: why such a great site would help sickos being even worst sickos?

My persona is: I'm a super hero on a mission to save the world one orgasm at a time.
I have WAY more fun being a happiness fairy than a hustler bitch who is out to get your trust funds...
And Karma is a bitch, I do believe in it!

I wish people would have more fun on here being the "super gent" vs the "internet no life troll", I think they would get more gratification!!!

How miserable your life must be when you surround yourself with hatred?

Ho no
Thats why I boooed him

Who have you contacted at TER?  No results and you are frighten get an advocate that works within systemS.  People don't know what's available to them.

Miss Frenchie,

Sorry you are having problems.  I am a former alias user and would like to see them come back.  TER now allows only one alias per handle.  Does not take long for regular readers to figure out what handle is behind an active alias.  If you think my post (so far) has nothing to do with your problems...you are right!  You have an enemy somewhere.  

Your reputation on TER can easily be checked by looking at your reviews.  I just did that (please put me on your mailing list for when you visit Boston).  Anyone who tries to badmouth you on TER is just identifying him or herself as a liar/troublemaker.

I hope you are able to deal with your issues effectively.  Blaming your troubles on alias posts will not help.  You are just wasting your time/energy using that argument.

people can create new handles as their alias,,,either way the behavior that shouldn't be allowed here either way...aliases aren't the problem though....a perfect example thread ways just pulled...all of the insulting offenders weren't aliases but new handles with no reviews, pretty obvious the intent of the new handles, to insult this one provider who they never even met in real life,,,sad.

Why don't you report him to administration? An IP address is the same regardless of what name he uses. If he is relentlessly making trouble for you, especially when the things he says contradict you reviews, they will do something about it.   I would also post his info on the provider board as well as make note of it with any verification sites that you know he is part of.  This would not make you a trouble maker, it would make you someone who commands respect and you follow through on consequences when someone does not give it to you.  Beyond that, don't waste your time or energy with him.

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=66590&boardID=7&page=#66590

so what you have haters? Understand it and move on..keep it off the boards,,,men who don't get into drama don't want that,,,read and understand a post before trippin...so the previous post was explaining about good use of aliases...if you're not tripping than learn how to better communicate with the written form because that's how it seems...good luck

There is an alias detection service available for some providers , a small fee of an hour or overnight   depending on her reviews .
 If you have no interest in  bartering try asking on the provider only board your alias in question identity.

 What I find hilarious , sending an alias a PM through his TER handle while telling him funny alias, Ben Franklin as example .
Most guys won't reply and change to another alias .

Aliases are a cinch to decipher .
 
   


 

Use the contact us link & let TER handle it.

... are coming from.

However, consider this little sentence from the first webpage (a.k.a. Disclaimer page) you see when you type in TER's web address:

"Therefore, everything contained here is fiction and is for your entertainment and amusement only."

Do you honestly believe that by doing away with the 'alias' function that this above sentence will become false? No!!

So, TER isn't about the truth because TER allows people in the forums to tell lies and backstab each other on a daily basis due to the above sentence from the Disclaimer page.

Serpius

Just 2 hooker attacks? I shouldn't use my alias for this post
C'mon girls. Bring it on!

I like my alias, I used it, and I will use it.
    Good for you.
- Thanks

I have balls and they are bigger than the average.
    Saying "I have balls" proves nothing. Show us; and how big is the average testicle, anyway?
- average testicular volume is 18 cm³ per testis, with normal size ranging from 12 cm³ to 30 cm³. The average testicle size after puberty measures up to around 2 inches long, 0.8 inches in breadth, and 1.2 inches in height (5 x 2 x 3 cm). Measurement in the living adult is done in two basic ways:
* comparing the testicle with ellipsoids of known sizes (orchidometer).
* measuring the length, depth and width with a ruler, a pair of calipers or ultrasound imaging.
The volume is then calculated using the formula for the volume of an ellipsoid: 4/3 π × (length/2) × (width/2) × (depth/2)

I never used it to stalk or creep anyone.
    Should we be impressed? Does it mean that NOBODY abuses their alias?
- Calm down it's just a statement. You should congratulate me.

I use it so that I can hide my good pooner name.
   Wait, so you ARE hiding behind an alias? For what purpose? I thought you had balls?
- Answers to your questions are in the line above.

If a "stalker" does illegal things, report him.
    Yeah, stalkers always make it that easy. Nice insight.
- So aliases are not the only problem

If you want a safer environment, maybe you are in the wrong line of work.
    uhhh... so, "shut up whore, just sit at home and wait to die?"
- Exactly my point... wait... no

If aliases are gone providers should use their real names.
    Yeah, because your TER handle is your real name. You are an idiot.
- No it's not. And why are you telling me idiot? Take it back please

If providers have things to lose, we have more to lose.
    What do you have to lose by a provider looking for help dealing with a stalker?
    And if you have so much to lose, maybe you are in the wrong hobby? Hmmm?
- No I'm not in the wrong hobby. I like the excitement.
- I say again, hobbyists have more to lose than providers.

Wow... is this a poem or what?
  No, it is not. A poem has rhyme or rhythm, meter and meaning. You have two moronic quatrains that start with the same word. Nice try, Shortfellow.
- Poem: (Noun) a composition in verse, especially one that is characterized by a highly developed artistic form and by the use of heightened language and rhythm to express an intensely imaginative interpretation of the subject.
- Best artists never appreciated in their time.

above this? Forget the word hooker...how does HYPOCRITE make you feel? Now, it all makes sense why you only pick on certain providers...JEALOUS much? Not getting enough attention are we? Get a shrink. You don't write any better than she does either, so I would not go there lol. Your commas should be periods, and sentences normally begin with a capital letter.




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Thank you for those advice who are worse my 401K right now
LOL

the thread you attached as NOTHING TO DO WITH THE SUBJECT so I guess you were just trying to find a way to hate too!

Thanks!!! Now people will realize that I was feature on showtime serie gigolo and that the other providers in SD weren't too happy about it...
The only thing you just did is letting people know that I'm a little TV star...


I LOVE IT, I dont even have to do any marketting, my haterrs do that for me!
Too cool

better but I'm disguising it, you know?
She's a sexy girl, and I'm not jealous, I was giving advice from an older provider, it's smart to stay away from drama...,,,...

boards...you're an attractive lady, if business if fine with how you act on the boards, then you don't need to take my advice,,,if it's not, than use the advice...no big deal...take care