Do you hobby because of lack of sex?  

If you and your SO had sex 1-4 times a week would you still hobby?

I understand the need to have a companion. Many people do not want to be alone, or lonely, but how important is sex?  

 
I believe having chemistry that is off the chain makes sex greater.

I am always interested in knowing how often those who are in relationships really engage in having sex on a regular basis. I know many people have a higher sex drive, than others. I have heard some of my clients share they never have sex anymore with their SO's.  

Sharing is caring.😘 I pass no judgement. I have had SO's & been married during my time here & all my partners know about my lifestyle. I don't lie.  

After interviewing others for decades I find the majority to have sexless relationships. Prove me wrong. Please & thank you.

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The answer is yes. I have a SO whom I’m deeply committed to but for various reasons has stopped having sex with me. Because my sex drive remains strong, it is a need I fulfill to keep my equilibrium. Seeing someone once a month seems to meet my needs at this age. After enjoying meeting some really interesting women, I’m not sure if I’d stop now if the situation changed.

to bare themselves in what is most likely an unflattering way to a bunch of strangers.  Most will involve failures in relationships that they will want to keep private.  The ones like me, who are single, are more likely to be forthcoming about the way they integrate both providers and SO's into their own lifestyle.  But girlfriends are not the same as spouses, and I never cheated when I was married (admittedly, a few were so short I didn't have time to cheat -  lol), so I don't think I have the kind of experience you are looking for, but if you have a specific question and want an honest answer, you can PM me, because I seem to attract the jealous trolls when I talk about my lifestyle publicly.  Some are probably being triggered as I write this.  Lol

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I've been with my S.O> wife for 39 years plus 3 prior to marriage.  We have a great relationship outside the bedroom and are commited to each other.  

About 19 years ago I asked if she'd like a sensual massage.  We met David at a local hotel and his touch was so good she removed the sheet covering her butt and removed her panties.  I watched as her massaged her and gave her a happy ending with his majic fingers.  The next time we met he got naked and came on her breasts and then she and I screwed in front of him.  The third time they hooked up while I watched.  We eventually got to no condom.  He joined us on trips to South Florida many times.  I was always in a Kali cage when he was with us in Florida.  She'd have him whip and cane my ass while I cleaned her up as she thought that was hot.  When he would visit our house I was usually tied to a chair and made to watch.  Days prior I'd be caged and teased.  It satisfied my cravings.  This went on for like 10 years usually six to eight times a year we'd play.

Then we went to St. Kitts during Covid and met Orlando her now regular lover.  The first time they engaged he sucked her nipples and fingered her to a massive orgasm on our last day there.  They started Sexting and videoing each other and he told her to cut me off.  We meet him in our home town for a drink before they went upstairs without me.  Two and one half hours later I was taking her home totally worn out.  He apparently has at least a 13" cock that is quite thick.  She belongs to him now.  He lives with us on and off and it's the first guy she's ever slept with.  

She knows in her heart that I'm getting relief somewhere as O  only allows her to do Russian on me and that's only when he's not living with us.    I have an extremely high libido at 71 since I work out daily, eat right and really enjoy sex.  She'll never leave me as I satisfy her relationship and financial security (10k a month allowance) and O satisfies her sexual needs.   She gave up sucking me or taking her anally about 15 years ago.  I just need more and thanks to a few special ladies like Princess Lexy, Sophia Padilla and  Blakely Banks I get what I need.

It's a simple question if you don't want to respond no need to be negative. No judgment from me. Life happens. Do you.  

I appreciate the gentlemen who are honest. I greatly respect your candor. I just find the subject very intriguing. Kudos to the ones who have an open relationship. I can understand the envy.  

We are all, so very different.

My SO and me are very compatible and committed, but we haven't had relations for probably 15 years. I'm in my sixties and she's older. I had enough, and started hobbying.  I don't want her to know, but if she found out she'd probably say whatever.  Or, I'd be a lot poorer, but so would she.

Most on here review ladies. In that process, those ladies often figure out who that person is because they can connect the details to their session. And, in most cases, those ladies require real information, like their names, and sometimes more. Many guys prefer it not even be known they have a significant other. While many understand why providers screen, it's still an uncomfortable part of the process. Putting out even more details that can be connected to their names is very personal and not something many want to share.

 
To be clear, I'm not criticizing you for asking. Answering is a personal choice we can all make. I'm poking fun at the fact you ended it with "sharing is caring."

Times two on what Greyhaired2 says. Sometimes men's sexual desires extends past a woman's. No harm or fowl on either side. Thankfully we have many very hot providers here on TER to help us through this stage of life.  

When I was in a relationship it was not about lacking sex, I never dated anyone who didn't wanna sleep with me regularly and I would end the relationship if sex was lacking. It's about two things, control and variety. If you have money to buy food would you beg for it and rely on  strangers to give it to you? Even if someone came by everyday to give you food they could do it as a way to control you, start rewarding you with it if you do what they say and deny it if you don't. If you instead use your money to buy your own food 100% guaranteed, you have control over your hunger and do not need to beg for it or let someone use hunger and food as a way to control you, you can accept free food from a nice person but if they try to ask for favors you leave them and order uber eats instead, if your helping someone cause they agreed to give you food but decide to stop and expect free support you leave and go out to eat and even if your real close with a sushi chef who gives you free sushi every day for life wouldn't you start to crave a pizza or a steak? Even if you love eating sushi you'd want to eat other food too. Now switch food with sex.

I’ve been married to my SO for 35 years and dated her for 4 years before we were married. We have a wonderful marriage, but the sex with my SO stopped for the most part about 10 years ago or so…it hasn’t stopped all together, but for instance, the last time we had sex alone with each other was close to about a year ago (so we’re just about due for another, Lol). I’ve been in this hobby for about the past 15 years or so and I’ve seen many different girls over the years. Up until very recently, my SO did not know anything about my hobby ing and to my knowledge she is currently not having any sex with any other guy. About a year ago she started to get suspicious that I was sleeping around when she smelled a body cream or body oil on me. We spoke about it, and that’s when I told her about the women I’ve been having sex with. She wasn’t upset or angry, but she was taken back and curious and wanted to know more…what type of girls I was sleeping with, what we do, etc. One day when I arrived home after seeing my regular girl (ATF), my wife seemed like she knew that I just had sex with another woman and she asked how it was and what we did. She wasn’t upset or anything. She was just interested in hearing some of them more intimate details for some reason. Then she shocked me when she asked to possibly go with me the next time. She wasn’t not kidding, she was very serious when she asked. She said that she wanted to know what it was like personally. I did not know what to say other than “I would check“. I knew my ATF saw couples and other women, because I was actually with her and her friend a couple of times. After having sex with my ATF about a week later, I asked her about my wife and told her about what my wife had requested. Even after explaining that my wife had never been with another woman before, never even kissed another woman on the lips before, she was all good with it and said that she will take it slow with her. When I got home, I did not bring anything up, until my wife asked me if I spoke with her about having the two of us see her. Now I knew that my wife was not joking, so I told her that I will ask for the next time. About two weeks later when I made an appointment to see my ATF, I asked her if it would be a good day to bring my wife. My ATF said absolutely, and that she would be looking forward to it, again I explained and asked her to take it slow and easy with my wife because she’s never been with another woman before, Lol. When we arrived, before I even had a chance to introduce my wife, she grabbed my wife by the face and stuck her tongue deep inside of my wife’s mouth to the back of her throat kissing her very aggressively. My wife was clearly in shock and froze, she didn’t seem to kiss her back or respond until my ATF got a hold of my wife’s tongue and started sucking it really aggressively as she literally pulled my wife’s shirt and bra off while never coming up for air, in what literally seemed like a good 10 minutes or so and then we were all off to the races. So much for taking it slow…Lol. The 90 minutes of what seemed like nonstop sex that followed was a total blur, but so wild and amazing! We left there with stupid, silly, smiles on our faces. In the car, she was almost speechless on the way home, except to say that she wanted to go back again, and more often. Ever since that first time, my wife has gone back there with me periodically, we even went to a swingers party together with another couple that we were friends with and had an evening of non stop sex with them and with another couple that was there. She pretty much knows where and when I go and what I do now, and we both don’t speak about it very often other than when she goes with me to see my ATF…but thankfully we both don’t have any issue with my hobby ing.