I'm noticing a pattern in bigger cities where providers under alias' blast younger up and cummers......with perceived "special treatment"....what is the psychological problem that forces them to bad mouth others to try and make them selves look better.....

This is really sad

You know, like Joe Doaks is running for mayor, but he also runs red lights... etc....

Yea, I don't like it in politics, nor do I like it in the hobby.  It is just counter productive.

Many people engage in this kind of behavior (in all walks of life, not just around here). In this hobby, you see it in concentrated version on CL.

and it often works. we read negative upon negative about someone and some of us believe it. even if we are smart enough to question the "bashers", there's always that "where there's smoke, there's fire" feeling.

All you can do is weigh the evidence; an anonymous comment has less value than a review on a reliable site.

the only fighting between providers that is allowed is naked mud wrestling, preferably with a web-cam operating.

Man law?

Good old fashion Jealousy and insecurity,and yes it is sad.Livie

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It all has to do with Jealousy. Jealousy over a more youthful woman perhaps having clients choose her over the more mature provider and then again there's fury when a gentleman chooses a more mature provider over a young and nubile thing.

I think it just boils down to decency. If you've got no decency or class you're more inclined to bash someone, whether she's old or young. I for one would never bash someone. I refer clients to women I have either talked to or know from other cities if my gentlemen will be visiting, and always extend the hand of friendship. I believe you get out of life what you put into it and I offer honesty, kindness, friendship and a shoulder to any woman who needs it. I am a good friend and that doesn't change just because I am a provider. If I worked in any office or in any other job I would treat the people who held the same position as me with courtesy and respect. I do not view the hobby as any different. I do believe that men can tell the difference between a woman with beauty on the inside and out versus one who only shows it on the out. Just my 2 cents.

I think that you may have hit on something.  I like em all!  young , old , does not matter.  What does matter is that they think, and are fun to be with, and make me think I am special even if for only an hour....   ahhhhh......

Now there is a smart thing that clarence has said..

read the reviews..
read other review sites...

go from there..

providers will bash girls that are popular , no matter what the age..

If a girl has more than 20 pages of reviews..Its called bash central !!

If alias names dont have the cajones' to say it under a real name, There probably isn't much truth to whatever matter is at hand !!

" Someones doing something right "

LOL

And I'm a feminist...its much more productive than bashing each other.  Talk about hating yourself, geez.  Have to hate yourself to bash.

it's called "females".

Some of them do it openly, some more clandestinely, but it is fairly pervasive. No one wants to lose "regulars" who may pay them 5 or 6 figures in given year. So, when it comes down to those, there's often a well placed comment or two against percieved rivals. The best are done as "left handed" compliments (some have made it a real artform).

Of course, let's not forget the exact same thing happens with hobbiests against eachother as well.

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I've heard a few things through the grapevine said about me and the providers (and clients) do not know me. It is pathetic at best! However, it seems to be a local thing - thank goodness! Luckily, almost everything I hear about me is positive, but there will always be someone who lacks self esteem, who is simply mean-spirited and just a loser.  

Gossip does not have an age limit. Gossip thrives with anyone who chooses to listen to it and negatively respond to it. If you have a problem with someone, confront him/her. Otherwise, let it rest.

When someone starts to talk about someone else I interrupt him/her and say, "I do not know that person so I cannot comment." I would not comment even if I had met the person, but it usually stops the gossiper in his/her tracks.  

Unfortunately, gossip is a part of every business but it is more noticable in this type of work. It is sad but reviews should be enough. I doubt that wise gentlemen really care who they think is well liked in the community as long as his companion is good in the sack and makes him feel special. The rest of those whenches can take a hike.

Hugs,
ciara

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is probably bashing you to someone else.  30 years in business has taught me this.  I will never share anything important with someone who routinely rips others behind their backs.  Never join in the bashing, even if you agree with it.
You want the reputation as one who never says bad things about others.  Think how you admire those few people who always adhere to this rule.
Be one of them.

Is it kind?
Is it true?
Is it worthy?

If you can't say yes; then don't say it.

Same church, different pew.

Let's hazard a guess : natural envy, competition, fear of relegation to a Mature/MILF niche market?, fear that one's provider career may be slowing down and/or winding up? And it's back to the civie world, civie relationships, 9-5 jobs, etc...

Fer example, today I saw numerous personal ads on various message boards in whicn midddle-aged women were trolling for young lovers, NSA [assuming thoses posts were legit].  Now, as a younger man, THAT was one of my greatest fantasies ans most avid pursuits.  I managed to fulfill it several times, but I would have perfered to have fulfilled it several thousand times.  I'm green with envy over those little snotnosed young punks now having available to them that which i lusted after for so long, and to  only minimal success.  And had the internet existed back in 1977 when I was fully in the grips of this, well, you ought to be getting the idea by now.

In two words ; human nature.

I know of some extremely disturbing down and dirty tricks. Like outing a lady. I know of a few cases where rock-bottom "specials" were posted on Craig's List in a lady's name-- a trip to Greece for $100.

It amazes me how many believe such obvious attempts to derail a competitors popularity.  

I have yet to meet a top provider who would consider spending her days slighting others to get ahead.  

I doubt I'll ever see a top notch provider repeat such gossip to clients or enlist their assistance in harming her competitors.  

Oh, those innocent, not so bright white nights.  What in the world would a girl do without a few gents who ride the short bus to work each day :P