Gregory12 raises an interesting point below ...

I would love it if providers call me by my first name during our sessions -- it would add more intimacy and GFE flavor to our session.  Especially if she shouts it out during passionate moments!  But I find this almost never happens.

Just curious why providers choose not to address you by name -- any thoughts?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kgWP-Nb-0U&feature=related





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So they don't make a mistake and call you by the wrong name - which would do more harm than not calling you by your correct name...

Let's face it - even to a low volume lady who sees 1 or 2 clients a day, or even less, you and I, and our names, are not particularly memorable, unless we've developed a long term relationship. Even then I suspect there is the danger that they could accidentally call you by their favorite client's or lover's name accidentally.

I hate the "sweetie" "hon" "baby" etc. stuff. My favs don't use them. But I don't get called by my name very much either - even with ladies I've seen many times.

Another thought - maybe it personalizes it too much for some of the ladies....

Whatever - I'm with you - it would make a difference to me - a difference that would probably be rewarded frequent regular visits and with my legendary generosity - if a lady used my name regularly.

Once you become a regular it's quite common to be called by your first name. On a first date with a first rate lady it may be as well. I've had quite a few agency gals that I'm quite certain could not remember my name two minutes after they got off the phone with the booker. Honestly it's not a priority for me on a first date.

Who wants to hear "Fuck me Smelly...fuck my smelly cunt??" :-/

xoM

And don't expect them to remember mine.
That's what I like about the hobby.

With my business, part of the allure for clients to be able to develop a friendship over time. So not only do I learn their name, but also get to know about loads of special things that make up their lives. I would be happy to call my date whatever he wanted, after all this is a service industry of sorts!
--Sitara Devi

Any provider worth their salt knows what name their next client goes by. However, the problem for me was that you guys have different aliases for everything from email to board handles and honestly most of the time I had no clue what you wanted to be referred by. Hence, I think that's where you find (especially on the first date) the sweetie, hon and baby stuff.

I don't think so much that we don't know your names but that we've no clue as to which name would trip your trigger if we were so inclined to call out said name. To this day, I still don't know some of my most appreciated hobbyist friends' real first names. -e

Oddly enough, though, it is usually unlikely to happen during my first session with someone.  For some reason, I'm a little shy the first time I am with someone; I'm more likely to call their name the next time, and the time after that, and the time after that... and... well, you get it. That said, I make more than enough noise.. lol.. I've always been insanely loud... what can I say?

' A Gregory's perspective.......

Well - since I use Gregory or some basic variation thereof for all of my hobbying related activities including board handles, screening service user names, and email addresses, I'd think that it would not be too hard to figure out that Gregory is a good bet '

Not sure how you screen effectively or check ID wthout knowing the guy's real name.

Nothing in this industry is a good bet. How about if you guys want to be to be referred to by a given name you just introduce yourselves during the first contact or meeting as such? It's only rocket science when you're in the dark trying to decipher code from reality. -e

Right on!

It is easy to get lost in all the names some gentlemen use, especially for those of us who try to exercise discretion and NOT keep any records of even most favorite friends.

Plus, I have to admit, unless I am in public and need to call my date's attention, chances are pretty high that I won't use his name.  Be it a civvie date or "business".  But then it could be just me.

To quote Gregory: "I hate the "sweetie" "hon" "baby" etc. stuff."

I do too when with a lady that clearly doesn't remember my name.  If she can't remember my name, then her just keeping the talk anonymous is better than calling me by a fake endearment.

I've not once in my almost three year stint as a nationally reviewed provider checked a reference or required anything other than a respectful inquiry of my availability. In fact, the moment I ever felt I needed to check a gentleman's references was the moment I decided not to see him. I operated on gut instinct which always served me well.

What I take offense to in this particular thread is the idea that providers are incapable of remembering their clients names. -e

Thanks for spelling it out for me...

of remembering clients names.

That's why it's such a big mystery to me and why my speculation runs wide on this topic.

As often as it has been discussed, you would think that providers would realize that this is important to some clients. In the past I have not seen very many of the ladies weighing in on this topic....

however

I will take your advice and formally introduce myself to the lady I am meeting for the first time on Wednesday, and see if this makes a difference....

Cheers

Gregory
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' Well, the bottom line is this: call me anything, just don't call me late for pussy.......eom

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And I applaud the fact that you are taking a proactive approach. And I also understand that if she doesn't address you by the name you give her I'm toast. Ha! -e

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.....me by it  I end up thinking ……..
Who the fuck is livie. lol

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Because we don't remember it

you've dashed her high expectations of provider - kind!

I dont even read all that mess when its a long thread -

I read the first post and reply -  LOL

High expectations apparently do not extend to some of the supposedly high end providers. (Look up the terms you're not familiar with, girlos.) -e

and not even an improper one, sadly..... '

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I know it is not PC for me to say this, but I have known the name...real name...of *almost* all of the ladies I have seen, and neither one of us usually had had a problem remembering our names (whether we use them or not)...because we communicate as real people.

Without that communication, something would be missing for me...and without making noise, something would also be missing for me.

Katie, I'm already calling out your name, and I haven't even met you...yet.

Suppose in a provider’s “real life,” she calls her partner pet names (e.g.,  sweetie, baby, hon, sugar cakes, sweet pea, etc.) and she believes that in order to provide a true GFE experience she should treat her clients as she would a “real” boyfriend or partner, thus calling the client pet names! This is just another explanation for why some providers use pet names. On the other hand, others may just forget the names of their clients! Not good.
I guess Dale Carnegie had a good point about remembering names...

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If a provider makes no attempt to call me by my name during the date I simply will not see the provider again even if the rest of the date was great.

A name is personal and something to be proud of. If you don't like your name you might as well change it.

IMO when a provider calls you by your name it adds a little extra intimacy and trust to a relationship. FUCK ME HARD XXXX IS MUCH BETTER THAN FUCK ME HARD.

I've seen many ladies who have addressed me by my name whenever we talk or are in private.  But in the throes of ecstasy and passion, I wouldn't mind hearing my name just once but it rarely happens.

If things are going real well and I am caught up in the activity, sometimes I am so focused on what we are doing and how good it feels that names escape me. Nothing personal. If you asked me my name then, I may have a hard time.

God
Yes
You almost had it.
Right there
Shit, I lost it.
Aren't you done?
I need to go pee.
Oh, I have to get that call.
We're out of time.

Ok, from now on, I'm going to wear name-tags. One on my jacket, one on my shirt for when the jacket comes off, one taped to my chest for when the shirt comes off, on on my inner thigh so it can be easily read when the lady is pleasuring me, and one on my back for the massage......

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I think that I've got at least 3, but I always include the real one, FWIW.

I have the same problem because I know most of my friends by their real & stage names.  As a result, I'm often guilty of the "sweetie" tag myself.

Calling a client by his first name to the point where he notices it is not a priority for me either-particularly with first time guests.

At the point where I call him his name, he probably knows my real name.
I'm a good provider (well-reviewed AND well-received) but I don't patronize my guests with "baby" or saying their name over and over as though I have an inkling about who they are or as if I have a right to access them in that way.

I convey real love and intimacy through my actions- not through words and I doubt that any of my clients notice that I don't call them John when I'm making love to them like there is no tomorrow.

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Holy Hell -
Who in the mother of soup EVER said I was upscale hahahahha

Im from Buffalo and charge 200 an hour -

Some girls give me too much power-
It makes me giggle  !

"Do that THING AGAIN!!!"

' that's ok - I've been called worse things..... but I get to do the tail pinning....eom '

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I have seen only one provider in the year I have been doing this. I have probably seen her 10 times including an overnight and once with another provider friend of hers. She has always called me by my name.

My question is this, do providers want to be called by their "name"? The fake name they have in order to keep safety in their lives. I don't call her by her fake name (except in public) and I don't know her real name (which I shouldn't). I would think calling out a fake name during an intense moment might ruin the feeling of the moment somewhere in her mind.

b-

the ladies I've gotten to know really well and who are successful long term in this biz are very compartmentalized. There business persona is highly developed and they come to think of themselves as a whole 'nother person when they're working. Even personality traits are different sometimes from their "real" selves. The ladies I know so fully identify with their biz name that if I called them their real name (which I know in many cases) during the throws of ecstasy, it would shock them......

certainly it's not wrong to avoid using client names for whatever reason or to admit that the reason is that it is easy to forget the right name

however

since this topic has been coming up like clockwork here and a significant number of potential clients over time have mentioned that they would prefer to be called by name,

it can only be construed as good business to develop the skill of matching names to faces and remembering the names.

I have a great deal of trouble with this myself....

Yea!! name tags! Can I draw pretty flowers and race cars on them first?giggles

This topic has been coming up over and over amongst the same posters who are not necessarily representative of the business at large.

Again:

I do not think it is good business to routinely refer to clients by their name; to me it is on par with calling them 'baby'.  Saying "Peter this" "Peter that" during session is not a priority until they are an established client.

If a client can't wait for genuine sentiment and is instead preoccupied with faux affection i.e. mentioning their name repeatedly that's probably not a client I want anyway.

Personally (and my guests reflect this preference) I want clients who are reserved and don't walk into my door with unrealistic expectations or their heart on their sleeves.
I give eye contact, I give real kisses-I have to reserve some personalization for those who I establish a relationship with.

I am an exceptionally well-reviewed GFE provider.

Different strokes, different folks.



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