Hi everyone. Been around a bit but new to the boards. Next week is my second anniversary with my absolute fave. She's the best. By far. We've traveled extensively and have spent dozens of days and nights together. She often tells other ladies we're close to I've "changed her life" and I know she's changed mine. She's smart, incredibly hot, has massive 'skills' and is just a damn great person to be around her. I don't think in the last 18 months I've gone a week without seeing her.  

In all this time you've spent together over the past two years, has this woman ever given you any hint that she wants more than a mutually-beneficial P4P relationship with you?  None?

Danger MrMisunderstood! Danger!

Telling her you love her should be music to her ears ... she can expect years of money and gifts.  She can probably start slacking off on performance and still expect you to worship at her feet.

Great story..what a crock..love your new alias..

There is no way on Earth that saying I love you to her is going to upset any apple cart.

I would be inclined to leave myself a small "out" by saying something like,  "I appreciate the warmth and love you have shown me during our time together, and I hope you know I have the same feelings for you."

I'd write most of what you had in mind, put it in a nice card but I'd leave out the "I love You" lingo....But that's me. Word the note just alittle different...If you really feel the need to say the words "I love You", then say it to her face, it has a affect...good  or.....Holy shit bad...lol

Just wanted to complete the line from the song....

signing your home over to her.  

I hadn't noticed lol. Just tell her your feelings, life is too short to not.

I've probably bought her jewelry that's worth more than a nice condo so I don't think more material items are what's called for here. Thanks though.

I'm sorry you're so unhappy in life. I truly hope things turn around for you!

It also happens to be a very realistic way of looking at them.

Damn, so many people covering up so much. Just freaking talk to her if you want to . The worst thing that could happen is she doesn't want to see you again. The best.......
At least you then know where you stand. And she also knows.
All these high school guys love to be playing games.
How many of them are married and give advice about something they haven't experienced.  

Dude, nowhere in your OP did you say she's done anything for you other provide service paid for.
She cook you dinner, spend lots of time OTC?
Changing her life might mean financially to her.

Based on the sheer volume of times you have seen her, I am sure she has given you some OTC time here and there (one would hope based on the amount of cash that has transferred from your wallet to hers). But have you ever really gotten the hint/ or feeling that she looks at you as more than a hobbyist? That she would want to date you in the civilian world?  Chances are no.    

There absolutely can be loving feelings in this private world here. Unfortunately it seems sometimes people will get a slap in the face for having them thou.  

but as a woman who has been around here for many years and has seen countless "I have fallen for a hooker and can't get up" posts, what do you think the odds that this "love" he feels is reciprocated? and by "love" I don't mean "loves him as a client" or "loves his money" lol

Of course there can be loving feelings in this world.  

Just how many "I have fallen for a hooker" posts are we going to read, knowing full well the feelings only run one way, without having a bit of fun at the OP's expense?  

HA!
Oh, I agree that these types of posts are always met with derisive mocking. Didn't mean to imply any surprise there. I do think this one is a little bit different because he seems to be saying "this is where I'm at, what do you think about me telling her so?" He's not one of those who adds and I just know she loves me too.

With a few exceptions of course. Quite frankly I wish they would give PS full "mod powers" on that board so he could keep it drama free like (believe it or not) I did way back a thousand years ago when I moderated that board.  

As long as they're not forced on her. Just say what you said here.  Tell her you feel strongly about her and that she's special to you.  Make it clear that you're not trying to cross any lines by revealing this, and it isn't your intent to impose a relationship on her.  You want to keep things just the way they are, but you just wanted her to know what she means to you.  You consider her a friend and that's that.  

Hi there! Thanks for all your thoughtful opinions. You're right. I have been treated pretty well here but my mail box here is quite another matter. I did receive one very nice message from a gal who went above and beyond to be sweet and thoughtful and helpful. The rest of the messages? Not so sweet. Rather nasty I'd say. Including one from poster MacDaddy. What's his deal? He seems really uh desperate and jaded? And like a total loser. Seems like a master douchebag.

Smooth and sophisticated is not exactly his style. lol

Yes he did mention that rather obscene act. And as I said I agree, my treatment here has proven rather even handed. No complaints here. I think you're quite clear where you stand. Should I report back to you on how things go?

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but I am sure the entire class would love to hear how it goes.

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the truth. Better sooner than later. I have a feeling she drops you like a ten pound turd. Sorry.

You miss my point. Nowhere do I say that I think she'd date me in a non P4P environment. I know where I stand. I don't want to marry her. I don't want her to move in. I just want her to know how deeply I care for her. I think she knows but I want to be definitive. I don't want to "save her" from P4P and don't get into other facets of her business.  

And yes I've been here for a while and have seen it on BOTH sides.  Who's to say it hasn't happen to me? The grey area between Strictly P4P and a personal relationship happens a lot here.  

I think you should go ahead and tell her how much she means to you. I think it is a great thing that someone can walk into someone's life and change who you are no matter if it is a escort or not. We are all real people to. An you even said she feels the same for you. Do not be shy to say how you feel. I bet it will make her day as well.

once or twice or maybe 3 times.  If you have a caring, loving bone in your body anywhere and can view this on a metaphysical state, yes love happens for those kind of individuals. It's not all that uncommon...but love can be defined as many things to many different types of people.  

She may feel the same way about you.  I have witnessed providers falling in love with their clients it is natural.  One provider retired & married her long time regular, and they are very happily still together years later.  Chemistry is everything.  Do not listen, or take advise from these group of guys here.  Listen to your heart, honey.  Step out of your comfort zone.

a real fucking tool..

how do i meet someone like you ?

you could always eat your own shit,,and i bet you are a regular fucking gourmet shithead..

i bet you do fuckface..

You must tell her dude how you really feel if it has not happened already. To me in this world you must be willing to be totally vulnerable 100%. EOM

There have been lots of good points here. I think Love is wonderful and everyone should be able to experience it as long as possible. After all we are all humans with emotions. The difference is how you met and what your relationship consist of. What makes this hobby so great is to be able to play out your fantasies conveniently but there's a silver lining. Not every experience is as real as it feels. Feelings can confuse your logic.

I had favourites tell me they loved me and guess what? I loved them too...still do for some that I do not even see anymore,they are sweet memories. Just don't expect it too last but enjoy the relation while it last.
In my case the end was my favourite of all time becoming a grandfather (!) ,went gaga over the baby and lost the money and time for me, I admit she was cute lol.