If you plan things right....You could have activities before AND after.
prefer to give You an appetizer first...in Your room...then go out to dinner...something lite...and have Fun..Flirt..and get You all worked Up again...so You can hardly wait for me to give You dessert...dinner dates are whatever You want it to be 
Ladies have generally preferred spending private time before and after dinner. Dinner serves as a pleasant interlude and recovery period.
It is important to have a congenial companion, though. I recommend seeing someone a number of times more briefly before you make that sort of investment though. I'm become a bit more cautious due to some disappointments.
what kind of disappointments have you had with these type of experiences?
Let's just say that a down to earth companion who does not go all diva on the waitstaff is a good thing. More than that I don't care to say.
You need to have confidence that the lady can comport herself in public in a manner that does not cause you embarrassment.
I've had a couple of gentlemen, who were perfectly charming and polite to me, behave horribly with the restaurant staff. It is immensely embarrassing.
I have found many traveling gentlemen that like to arrange a dinner date with me. Personally, I prefer to play before I eat. Most the men I dine with state the same preference. Jet lag, extra curricular activities, and full stomachs seem to keep us from playing again after we eat.
However, there is always the regular dinner then dessert option. I just chose to eat very lightly and take the rest "to go". That way, after I work up an appetite after dessert, I have something to eat once I return home. I also like to reminisce about the interlude while eating. Makes me reconnect with my date.
I also have a number of men that like to do lunch instead of dinner. Those gents usually the ones that are local to San Diego vs. travelers.
I believe there is nothing like sharing food, conversation, and intimacy. Then again, I only go on one date on any given day and limit myself to about 3 dates per week. That is how I keep things more personal.
Now I am hungry! For dinner AND dessert! lol
Tracy Tyme
To see how damn bad you want it! Just watch as she orders a $75 meal, with everything, including dessert totally coated in garlic! She will drink Martinis and replace the olives with cocktail onions.
Now starts the flirting and she offers to pass her 1/2 chewed snail from her mouth to yours (cooked in garlic butter).
After dinner it's back to your room. She blasts you with heated breating on the elevator, trying to push her garlic soaked tongue into your mouth.
You get to the room, she removes her clothing piece by piece right to the bed. Notice she does NOT stop in the bathroom to brush her teeth. There is much broccoli stuck between each tooth , to garnish the ever strengthening garlic.
She gives you a warm, inviting, sexy, GREEN smile, and says "Do You want me"?
You think to yourself....WTF? I spent 2k so far for her time, her meal with 6 onion martinis, the room, ...
So now what, not only does she reek of onions and garlic,, she just reached up to help you get your pants undone, and she farted! What if you get in bed, and she thinks its a really cute trick to pull a "dutch oven " on you with the next fart!
Think you'll even attemt DATY, or DoggY?
This story has NO happy ending..........
HOW DAMN BAD DO YOU WANT IT?????? 
How Bad did You want it and did You get it...this is a Funny story...and I have the feeling it could be true...but I hope Not...I have always had an Awesome time on dinner dates and opps...I Will admit...I sometimes forget about the time because I am having sooo much Fun...but I have been fortunate...that guys have Not complained...whew
fear that it could! LOL I really don't want it THAT DAMN BAD!
so it only makes sense to combine the two.
I've had the meal before, during and after the bedroom fun, and I think after works best because you don't have to worry about what the digestive system is going to do during the sex part.
I find that nearly all providers I've met have been good dinner companions, and able to put up with my prattle while regaling me with stories of their own. (Sometimes I wonder if putting up with chit-chat is more work than the sex.)
Another benefit is appearing in public with a young beautiful woman. I know that everyone watching knows the score, and the jealous looks of all are a never ending source of delight.
I really enjoy fine dining. Even more than with sex, it is not much fun to do it alone. I don't know if I have been lucky or have chosen carefully, but I have never been disappointed by my date's behavior. Quite the contrary, in fact. My favorite dinner companion is not only a delight to view and to talk with, she is quite knowledgeable about food and wine. A recent meal with her came awfully close to sex in terms of enjoyment.
I love dressing up for a dinner date. Flirting and chatting at a nice restaurant. Having room service deliver is also so much fun.
The connection, intimacy. Meeting a true gentleman who wants to spend time with a lady. If you find the right woman and experiment with this type of date, I think you'll see why some prefer it.
A little activity before is always nice to get the juices flowing. I like the initial meeting in private with a whole lot of kissing and something to let me know what dessert will be waiting in the room for me after dinner. I also like playtime in the car on our way. Finding little hidden corners to steal a kiss and some naughty tease is fun to.
Kisses Haley
Sounds more than vaguely familiar!
I offer only dinner dates and longer.
With new friends, I like to get to know eachother over food. The seduction, the sensuality, flirtations, wearing sexy lingerie under clothing... the whole process... it just feels natural to start with food in a decadent atmosphere and let things flow naturally.
With those I've already met, I have reversed the order of things (when it feels natural, I really enjoy those I see more than once).... and on overnights I enjoy meeting in the lobby/lounge before going to the room to model lingerie and change for dinner. It's a total tease, heightens the anticipation, and by the time dinner is over with both of us are totally turned on.
There's nothing quite like meeting a beautiful lady early in the evening, having a little something for an appetizer first, then going to dinner. After having a nice dinner, complete with flirting, and building expectations, you can return for a sweet dessert. This is my favorite way to spend an evening.
but i love dinner dates.
i get to get out of the hotel room and have fun! It doesnt have to be "dinner" per se.
it could be (hint hint) a Yankees game, Steelers game, we could just wander the city, go out dancing...
but yes. i also like them because i get fed. sigh. i love food...it could be a steak dinner of just a quick bite to eat. (hint...i am in love with cheeseburgers)
"dinner dates", to me, are a chance for the both of us to have fun in our own little world. The best dinner date to date is when a gent and i had our fun, went to a NASA lecture (i am bit of a nerd) and then went out to eat. it was awesome!
(and i got fed)
oh, i like going to NASCAR races too...
(hint hint)
with a new friend, I see a dinner date as time to get to know one another, to feel more comfortable and relaxed. Many Gentlemen want the company of a Lady with them for more than an hour or so.
With some of my well known friends, yes the play time can often come first then we go to dinner and maybe play again afterwards.
Its all in what works best for you...what you want and what you feel comfortable with. Just roll with it!
The wonderful lady whom I enjoy spending time with more than any other is a perfect dining companion. We typically "play" before dinner, sometimes going out but usually me cooking, and always share a few bottles of great wine. Her knowledge of, and appreciation for, fine food and wine is something we share in common and a source of enjoyment for me. She is as great a companion out of the bedroom as she is in it. And she is as charming to anyone who serves us as she is to me.
I believe you can tell a lot about a person by watching how they treat a stranger, store clerk or the waitstaff. And she is a gem.
I have tried all 3 ways. Play then dinner, dinner then play, and the all time favorite play-dinner-play.
All where with women who I enjoy spending time with for more than just sex, with the exception of the play,eat,play they have all been off the clock at her invitation.
Some of us like spending time with a lady. There is so much more to a lady than the wam bam. If thats all you want then a 15 min appt should suffice.
I like adventure with a lady and if our time is latter concluded with a little intimate play time all the better. Weather its dinner out with flirting, sailing, beach time, a picnic or a hike, time with a seductive lady is priceless.
I don't think it means a 15 minute appointment is the answer, but it does sound like a dinner date is not going to fulfill the OP's primary interest. Nothing wrong with that; they aren't for everyone.
If you enjoy conversation, flirting, laughing together, and getting to know one another over good food, then a dinner date will be enjoyable. However, if you don't enjoy those things with the ladies you see, and the dinner part of the evening sounds like a boring ordeal you have to suffer through to enjoy the prize at the end, please don't schedule a dinner date! Both of you will have a miserable time. Stick with what makes you happy. 
Some of the most delightful 'dates' I have had were when we really clicked during a session and went out for dinner afterwards - off the clock and purely for the pleasure of combining good company and good food.
Even better, but rarer, were the couple of times when I was invited to stay for dinner after the session and the lady cooked dinner for us.
So there are all kinds of ways this plays out but these experiences, thought uncommon, are the best of all.
Good luck,
MH50
Its ALWAYS one of my favorite dates weather
before or after . Many request the "date"
appointment and is a wonderful way for a gentleman
to show his thanks and respect for a lady.
There are several reasons people enjoy this
particular type of date one being to distract
from the typical visit to his room as more than just a "provider" . I can't tell you how many times I am asked to join someone for dinner both before and after and it really does help both learn about each other. Like any other business the build of a friendly professional relationship over dinner isn't a thing of the past it's a a path to future meets.
