So today I saw on another service that a porn actress was going to be in my town.  I had heard of her before, but had not seen a lot of her video work so I went online and checked out a few of her videos.  She looked great and seemed very at ease on camera.  On the first video I checked out, she provided her male costar with milk out of her rather attractive nipples.  Loved that.  So I texted her booking assistant (figured she had an assistant) and asked her for the rate for this lady while in town.  Got a text right back with the info.  Quite expensive, but then again, a well known actress so not surprising.  I then asked the assistant if she was still lactating as I had seen in a video she had online.  Wow...the shit storm I got back.  "How dare I ask that question"  Accused me of being inappropriate etc.  The same video clip was on her twitter account.  I only asked if she was still lactating.

about any sexual services, I think you were okay to ask about lactating.

Fair enough question but NOT before you've been verified.  
I find I can ask "specific" questions, within reason, AFTER  
I've been vetted. That's MY first rule in communication ...
just MHO ... at that point, I'll even find myself being seduced  
by the provider, and sometimes, even by her assistant.

As stated before, I don't see a problem with what you asked.  If anything it sets the expectation bar.  If lactating is your thing and you're seeking a provider that lactates the it is your right to ask these questions.  Shame on whoever it was that had a problem with it.  Pretty audacious if you think about it, provider advertises or hints at lactating knowing that there is a serious market out there for said services then catches attitude when someone asks "Are you still lactating?"  

you want, but timing is everything. EVERY TIME.
Make a friend first then ask away.

I don't ask questions like that first thing, but waiting until after verification shouldn't be necessary. Especially since it wasn't explicitly sexual (depending upon how he phrased it).

From your post - In your research (not her advertising). you found out that she had done some lactation porn.  I am assuming that this was not a service advertised.  

I just don't understand the urgency. I'm sure there are women you can ask anything whenever you'd like. No problem with that. I might knock someone's bedside manner but never their desires.  

Everyone knows you shouldn't ask about sexual services regardless of what is shown on Twitter...I wondered myself if lactation could be considered a "sexual service" but I think it's a bit of a grey area.  Perhaps the assistant assumed it was and responded in the same way she would have if you asked if she did greek...ect.

It seems like something legitimate to inquire about. Proper phrasing or content is often the key to avoid offending someone or raising their ire.

May the "assistant" was BSC. Happens all the time

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Well hell... if she's twittering away about it, that would be different -  

.. if it happens "all the time", maybe you can learn from it? You set your rules, I set mine and she sets hers. (btw, I'm not directing this to anyone in particular) If we reach common ground, we have a good time and do it again, and again, and again ...well I do 😉

There isn't any urgency. Some of us just don't set hard rules about when to ask things. I have asked more specific questions pre-verification, as I said, and I've never been turned down after asking. I've never been turned down by a provider at all since I joined P411, so I've never been especially worried about jeopardizing anything.  

I would have gone on the date, and perhaps asked then while more in the flow of things, or mentioned that I liked the video.
We are talking about a woman here, not a cow.
Just my opinion...

an email deleted immediately. I'm surprised so many guys think that's an acceptable topic for emails in this arena. Definitely in a dark gray area. But I'd personally not answer an email that asked me that. Not worth it to take the chance.