I don't like the word "retired," but I don't have to earn a living anymore. Sometimes I get real inspired about something and can't get it out of my mind for weeks, months, until I get it done or get enough done to drop it.

It's from work only.   Certainly not the hobby, and my resources will allow me to play indefinitely...  

Yes, at times the whole process can be overly complex.  Probably why I prefer to see the same small circle of ladies on a repeated basis.  Some prefer to constantly seek out someone, that's never really been my interest.  I'm lucky that I'm comfortable enough with each of them to let them constantly switch things and explore

....No it is not overly complex. Thanks to TER it is easy. I find the research part fun. I always book a few days in advance and as for not being in the mood when the time arrives - no way! The only pain is that I have to take a train into Manhattan instead of already being there and fucking on an extended lunch break. But even that isn't so bad because while I am there I do other things afterwards. Not only that, I have more money in retirement than when I was working. Life just got a huge upgrade.

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It beets posting inane BS on the boards all day.

It is a part of the anticipation, and anticipation is one thing that never disappoints.  

I'm not retired, but am financially secure (not wealthy), and despite one bad career decision a couple of years ago that took me off a great career track,  find myself in a low-stress/low-effort job that till pays decently - and I am simply going to "ride it" to the end.  But I want to hobby when I want to hobby....meaning basically on my own time when I'm in that mood.  The concept of planning out days is unappealing to me for many of the same reasons you outlined...who knows how I will feel on Saturday at 2pm....which is probably why I gravitate more to agencies (with a waiting bevy of potential new friends) than independents (I assume if I had more indies in my rotation, I could cut the arrangement time dramatically).  I think I will be even more this way once I retire.

To me, it sounds like you're depressed and have lost your zest for life.  

I get laid a lot more days than days I don't and I never schedule in advance.

I get it.  
Wouldn't worry about it because it's really just retirement mode.  
The only hassle I find is pre scheduling so I rarely do that.  
It's easy enough to find same day fun unless you in a rural area.

cut yourself shaving your balls. It seems you've complicated this more than you have to. I understand the process as i enjoy knowing my date will appreciate me being as fresh as her. I want her to want to devour me as much as I want to devour her.  

do you shower and shave in between? And I don't mean with both of them at the same time. I also agree with the ease of getting laid the same day... just not as often as you profess.  

I have to travel from out of state to a large southern city to see good providers (we just don't have them here). I usually do Sundays, leaving on Saturday morning and getting home Sunday evening. I'm gone 36 hours.

I think the word you are looking for is spontaneity

I have those moments when it feels like a million pins need to align, but then realize I'm inviting that feeling. The hobby has no monopoly on stress. If I had a different line of work, there'd be a whole new set of pins to contend with. I had to let go of the concerns I was needlessly creating and learn to enjoy the ritual of preparation. I started playing music and podcasts I love while getting ready. I started filling 'dead time', such as when a client is a little late, by catching up with friends by email or going through bookmarked articles rather than counting the seconds and letting anxiety build. The point is to take each stress point and examine if it should be adjusted or discarded.

When seeing a second (or third or fourth) woman in the same day, I of course do shower again, but it's rare that I will also shave again. I will sometimes when on vacation have morning sex, shower, shave, do morning and afternoon stuff and then shower and shave again in the evening before going out again.

I remind myself that I am about to have a sexual experience that is way beyond the majority of experiences that I had before I started doing this. I wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't better.

So if I understand what you're saying, you'd like the process to be as simple as ordering a pizza. I can't disagree.

You should see his sick posts on the P&R. He thinks its "good" that 5 cops died in Dallas, so when you read his posts here, keep that in the back of your mind.

I'm not retired yet, I don't really need the income so much as I need to work. I'm a pussy-o-Holic, but I'm just as much a work-o-Holic. I've set the age of 70 to retire, but when I do retire I'll have a volunteer gig set up. I just can't imagine what the hell I'd do all day when I retire, I can only play so much golf.

You might be right about the depression. Sort of beachcomber type of muddling through and getting uncomfortable when I have to up the energy. And the only thing about being retired is that I'm out of the rhythm of making deadlines and running a tight schedule.

best bet is to find a handful of ladies you click with, and just rotate amongst them

never am i not in the mood to go to a date i've made.  quite the opposite.  i tingle in anticipation all week long.  am currently getting ready for an afternoon date w/a new lady who i made this appt with a week ago...very excited!!

and a gal a day is about all i can handle!

We should organize a retirement board.  Here are the criteria:

Just not having to shift energy modes from getting/selling work to doing the work to schmoozing to working out, work shopping, networking and communicating with the people I worked with--switching from all that to sleeping late and muddling around, spending time by myself, and just no longer wearing a watch or even needing to know what time of day it is--it's getting to be sort of a shock to the system when scheduling anything comes back into play.

Because I understand the complexity of setting up a date and making everything as 'ideal' as can be.  

it's only stressful when something else in my life unexpectedly intrudes at the same time frame as my appointed dates.  

...sounds like you have the same kind of complexity feeling.

I agree with Jack. You can't "unsay" some of the things you said on P&R, personally I hope you stay miserable with an attitude like yours.

I call bullshit.  A provider a day:  $350 x 7 x 52 = $127,400/year

I am not sure of all your troubles but you should seek help. When someone like yourself feels the need to trash innocent people who have been murdered, your issues are too deep for this board to solve. I wish you the best Wicked Brut but please for your own sake get some help to deal with all of these problems you have. They are treatable. Good luck to you. BB

I've only topped six figures two years, but close on most of the rest.  I know a lot of guys in LA that spend this much.

similar style to me.  80% of my hobby hours are with regulars, which is a little more relaxed than seeing someone new.  However, I'm not retired, so I also have to work my hobby hours each week around my work schedule, so add that to the stress the OP describes and you have my world.  

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I can kind of relate to what you are saying and I'm not even retired yet.  Arranging a date does take more effort that I once thought it would. And you didn't even mention the worry about getting busted either by LE or SO and ruining the rest of your life.

It is different after you retire (still have a problem with that word) only if you let your life get soon laid back that ANY structured time seems a jolt. For the first couple of years I didn't hobby at all, but I had an extremely active social life. And I had a lot of business stuff to tend to and did a little traveling and such.

but I guarantee you there were a few years where I averaged OVER one hooker everyday, I can't tell you the exact numbers, but I know there were only a couple of dozen days when I was too busy or just didn't care to get laid, but there were several dozen days where I saw two, three or even more women in a single day.  

It's the other stuff. But count our blessings.

WTF man? It's not that complicated. KEEP IT SIMPLE.

"I spent half my money on gambling, alcohol and wild women. The other half I wasted.”

it was a joke.

challenge is finding time to P4P.

though I will start by saying Indon't find things too complicated,  It takes some time and planning, but pleasure delayed is often please enhanced.  
I was interested in your comment that you don't have to work for a living so you don't. I am in my mid 70s and have a long varied and  --for me--interesting career.  I now run a very busy highly specialized practice with 8 other professionals who report to me.  I am responsible for quality, I tend to see the most needy patients, I --like the others- cover 1 week in four (two are on at once and one des not cover.) From Friday at 5 pm until one week later I get calls day and night and often go without sleep.  I am responsible for detail, finances, quality of care, and (this is the worst) monitoring compliance with really time and soul eating record keeping because we constantly need to prove we are not cheating the government and insurers---you know how we doctors love to lie and cheat.
The point is I love what I do. I have not needed to work for many for years and yet I would almost always rather do what I do than almost anything else I could be doing.  It sound really corny but relieving suffering, prolonging a life, being really present for someone in pain or dying or losing a loved one and making a loving difference is an incredible gift I am given daily.  
Patients always ask me with a bit of anxiety if I plan to retire soon.  No way as long as I am healthy and competent.  
It does interfere with he hobby on occasion.......oh well.

Unfortunately, my situation is less lucky. I am no longer able to do what I loved doing all my life. At least it feels that way, though I suppose if I struggled hard enough for it I might find a way of "fitting into the discipline."

happens to me often.