The one that never had real life experience with real life rape.

As any rape survivor if she has these fantasies, but make sure you do it from safe distance.

I have a friend who claims to have been with hundreds of women (mostly civie). He says he has figured something out, he says most women have on some level, conscious or subconcsious, domination and rape fantasy. He says many will never tell you, but if you know how to push the right buttons, they like to be contolled and or dominated by a man in a sexual way, even so called "nice girls". He says this is why girls don't go for nice guys because they don't know how to tap into these fantasies, even if they can't articulate it or won't say it. Thoughts?

I think a lot of women do appreciate a powerful man in the bedroom...

One time, I did look at BDSM message boards (and networking websites), and I counted the number of female and male dominants, and I counted the number of female and male submissives.  Statistically, there does seem to be a significantly larger number of male dominants and female submissives, but that is in the BDSM world, not in the vanilla world.

I think, in real life, it's better to GENTLY and politely bring up these topics with women because there are a lot of women out there, who have been raped or sexually assaulted, and this is a sensitive thing, so you don't wanna just bust out with your "Master Rapist" character in the bedroom.

I have done some edgy play that involved "rape fantasies" with different people, but it was discussed beforehand.  When a guy is aggressive to me, and it's not discussed beforehand, I find that extremely off-putting.  But, that's just me.

There are a lot of women out there who appreciate a male aggressor, but I think you have to make sure that is the type of woman you are dealing with first.  Otherwise, you can really hurt the lady, psychologically or physically.

But taboo as the subject is the guy who said it has been with a lot of women and he must be doing something they like or he is b.s.ing me because I roomed with him for a while and saw him bring a number of women home and some would come back.

Rape fantasies are common among women who have never been sexually assaulted, but even if a woman entertains those fantasies, that does not necessarily mean that she is Interested in play-acting the fantasies.  

You mentioned that most girls don't like "nice guys."

I think this boils down to confidence.

All people are subconsciously attracted to a confident person as opposed to an insecure person.

Confidence and (rape-like) sexual aggression are two totally different things.

Most rapists, in real life, do not have good self esteem, by the way.

Sounds like a line straight out of one of their hand-books. Being one of the few women who's mastered PUA I see right through all the moves but I'll use it on guys and they always seem to fall in love..... Must be doing something right!

raw animal sex with rape fantasies. I can imagine that even in both types of fantasy, at least on an unconscious level, there is a "safe word."

I have been dying to try out my pepper spray

I've had some women tell me to "Fight for it.", and I did, and both got our jollies in doing so.

This is quite different from forcing yourself on someone who is unwilling.

is that women don't go for nice guys because they confuse nice guys with guys that have no backbone. It's too bad too. It took me a while to realize there was a difference. Now that I have, my private dating life has improved tremendously.

Lol I didn't say he was advocating actually assaulting anyone, as far as I know he was not physically harming anyone or doing anything against anyone's will. I only roomed with the guy for 6 months though and haven't seen him since.

Yes! I dated a woman who told me this. She said before me she only dated guys who aggressively pursued her but she wasn't happy with the type of guys she was dating because she said they were not relationship material - pick up and relationships take entirely different skill sets. She said she figured out that by only dating certain type of guy who approached her in certain way she was passively letting a certain type of guy pick her instead of actively selecting guys with qualities she preferred.

Yes I am familiar with PUA but I don't think that's what he was talking about, he was talking on more of a purely sexual basis. And I don't think a good looking woman needs PUA to get a guy, just smile at a guy and watch him get sprung lol

Does this douchbag have a micropenis and wants to go all caveman on a chick because he feels inadequate and needs to" show 'em a thing or two"? Just let me see him and see how this pans out. Hope he has great health insurance. He'll need it after I rip his head off and shit down his neck.

If he is a real man he will know the differnce between being an Alpha male and just being a first class low life POS. Spicing things up in the bedroom works for both. Respect must always come first!

See link.

It's related to the fact that women like confidant dominant men.

...But not assholes.  There is a big difference.

Real rapists are assholes struggling with feelings of inferiority.  They are losers who gain power through rape.  They feel more up only when they can force someone else down.

The 'rapists' that women fantasize about are winners who take what they deserve.  They don't need to bring themselves up -- they're already 'up'.  The woman is elevated when a self-assured alpha forcefully 'chooses' her.

Get it?  In one situation the woman is degraded.  In the other situation she is being elevated.  One is an insult.  The other is a compliment.  

You wanna pick up a hooker?  Step 1: Don't treat her like one.

Probably spot on -_o , neither me or my roomie who is also female have been actually raped fortunately, but both have rape fantasies.

don't necessarily have to do with being or liking a "nice guy" or a "bad boy". I've done rape role-play but outside of the scene the men were sweethearts. Enjoying a dominant man in the bedroom doesn't equate to liking an asshole.

Do I have to subscribe? I would like to interpret!

I think that is the notion that was being aluded to. The guy I know who made the statement is actially a soft spoken guy. I think he was referring more to psychlogical triggers, although I am none to sure what those are.

An ex of mine, who happened to also be from Japan and a year older than me, insisted that she liked it when I would "push her down" during sex. Frankly, it always freaked me out. At 5'7" and 185 lbs I was 7 inches taller and about 70 pounds heavier I didn't really have to work hard to "dominate" her.

Never really my style, and I don't think it ever will be. I can understand women getting off on it, but men that have this kinda of fantasy(raping, not being the rapee) definitely give me an icky feeling.

Does this "rape fantasy/domination" theory only pertain to rape or sexual abuse in a whole? I know a few girls who like to be dominated who have been sexually abused. Why do men like to be dominated? In my personal life, I love a bit of domination! I could even do it outside of "just sex" with the right person. I'M GEEETTTTINNN A BOOONEEER!

He has only seen looser women, I mean, uneducated women with no self respect and self confidence. With his attitude, I doubt any normal women will ever find him attractive.

He himself is a looser.

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I don't know that its my place to condemn or condone, but I do know that some of the women he dated were attorneys and other professional women. But I will say that it appears that some of his theory has to some extent been validated by some of the posters on this board. I will reiterate that I am not advocating or condoning anything physical harmful or against anyone's will. What I am talking about is consensual fantasy-roleplay between two adults.