I'm guessing you aren't into them due to the fact that they probably wouldn't jump into bed with you in the first five minutes like a provider does. Most relationships with civies take a lot of effort, time and far more money then it costs to hire a provider. Provider relationships might be giving you a false sense of reality when it comes to women where if you cant get what you want immediately you aren't in to them. I'll have to admit plunking down a wad of cash and going straight to the prize is more fun but in the long run less fulfilling.

But what the fuck do I really know about you. You are a screen name and a paragraph. That's it. Best of luck!

It's A GREAT thing!!

I do the same thing.  My problem is when I go on one date it seems to turn into a long term relationship overnight.  I'm sick of hearing drama and some chick bringing me down.  I'm happy as shit fucking providers....I get what I need without all the DRAMA and bullshit.  Again, I'm a HAPPY go lucky guy...I never have DRAMA unless it relates to a chick.   I'd much rather pay and leave...and have hot chicks with NO DRAMA.  That's why most of us see providers.  I can get liad tonight for free at a bar....however, she will be calling tomorrow to ask me...."how are you"...did you have fun last night....when are we going to see eachother again?   NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I'm done with that shit

i keep calling 1-800-hot-stud

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i think oleMcdonald gave you pertinent advice hon.

the problem that I see is if that you completely rely on getting sex from providers, you start getting used to it -- that's it's immediately available with very little effort.  It's not the case in the "real" world.    I didn't start the hobbying until late (in my mid 30s, I'm in my 40s now) and I have had several long civvie relationships before I even discovered hobbying.    But even then I think it has affected my dating life.  Depending on your type of personality - if you are easily addicted, if you want to go the easy route for sex, etc. it can absolutely affect your view on dating.   It seems most "civvie" guys date to get to the point of having sex then discover if they want to continue a relationship.  But knowing you don't have to do that, you can just call your ATF, does it keep you from pursing a civvie girl any further than a second date?  You gotta figure our what your lack of motivation is.  Did you give the girl a fair shake?  Why make more of an effort if you just want to fuck?  Are you really looking to have a long term relationship?  You have to ask those questions to yourself.

My opinion, of course.  You're a young guy, and in this part of your life, your interaction with women now is going to set the theme of your interactions for years to come.  Myself, I was lucky enough around late high school and early college age to have some good role models for how to "be a boyfriend."  You know, how to make a girl feel special, how to choose ways to have a nice time together, etiquette for sleeping together, and so on. So i got a lot of practice at this.  I'm still good at it, and I have never had to be more than 4 weeks between women in my life.  I'm not rich, I'm not a stud, but I am a relationship magnet.  I worry about what lessons you are learning by seeing primarily providers right now.  Is that what you want to do your whole life?