I have often wished men were more accepting of a woman's appearance as we are of them; and it is one difference that has made me sad over the years.

I know, if I were still married, that watching my 'husband' from across the room, dozing in the chair, and seeing him for exactly as he is - thinning hair, a widening waistline, etc. does not alter how you feel. There's that unconditional love and nurturing that sees them still the way they were when you met; or sees them as 'seasoned' and better. I'm thankful for that.

And it's a bit of that that transfers to your clients. It's about 'them'. Being able to want them to be happy, satisfied, nurtured, comfortable; and grateful always..because they've chosen you to provide that.
Some times are easier than others. And to the sweet, gentle man who appreciates it - well, you want to give him the moon!

Most ugly women get married, so men are not quite as shallow as we are often made out to be.  However, we are not visiting a provider for romance, but rather for a fantasy fulfillment.  We all dream, and our dreams are always looking for the best.  Do you dream of a vacation to a hovel next to a garbage dump?  No you dream about a hotel on the Riviera.  Same with men, when we fantasy about the “lady of our dreams”, she is a looker!   The catch is of course that every man defines “looker” differently.

The article was about the growing social and legal backlash by divorced fathers who find out that they're not the biological father of the children they're forced by state laws to support, a topic of significant interest all on it's own... but a section of the article discussed the sociological and anthropological pressures that lead women to stray, and it detailed some interesting findings on the subject HowAndWhy raises.

Per the article, men are in general much more "visual" creatures, significantly more likely to treat overall physical appearance as a major sorting criteria in choosing a mate (whether for a night or a lifetime) and this tendency stays more or less constant throughout their life.  Women, on the other hand, tend to treat overall physical appearance as less important than "emotional" criteria such as whether the guy has a good personality, treats them well, can financially support them, etc.... EXCEPT when they're ovulating!  During that "peak" time in the middle of their cycle, women tend to shift gears and seak out the best physical specimen with which to make a baby, rather than the "supportive" male they want the rest of the month.  This shift varies in strength from woman to woman, but in a significant percentage of women it can be strong enough to override religous, moral and social pressures to the contrary... add in a wife tired of, frustrated with or mad at the hubby for whatever reason, and it's not surprizing that the advent of easy and reliable paternity testing has flushed out a huge number of "not my child" cases across the country.  Hell, what's surprizing is that there aren't more cases!

Anyway, it seems that there's more to the old "men want physical beauty while women don't" than we've been led to believe all these years...


-- Modified on 12/8/2003 6:23:52 PM