"She Thought She’d Married a Rich Chinese Farmer. She Hadn’t."
http://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/27/world/asia/pakistan-china-trafficking.html
and should have been more suspicious. There are a lot more hot-looking Chinese women than there are Pakistani women, so any Chinese guy that is supposedly wealthy that can't get a good-looking Chinese wife is not telling the whole story. Someone should have told this girl there is no such thing as a free lunch.
As the article (or general historical knowledge) makes clear, China's "one child" policy led to an excess of males over females in the current marriage age population. (There have been many accusations that Chinese families would use female infanticide in order to guarantee that they could raise a son to carry on the family name.)
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The current M:F is approximately 106:100. That difference MIGHT seem small but it is past the tipping point of "desperation" that compels unmarried young men with few prospects to seek wives from abroad ... even if they have to use false pretenses to recruit those wives.
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There was a pretty good movie called "Picture Bride" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Picture_Bride_(film) about the practice in Hawaii in the early 1900s. Japanese men flocked to Hawaii for jobs on the plantations. They had to import prospective Japanese wives from Japan. It has been speculated that mrfisher, a strong advocate and promoter of pineapple juice, might have interests Hawaiian pineapple plantations which began flourishing back then.
http://get2hawaii.com/history-pineapple-hawaii/
and should have been more suspicious. There are a lot more hot-looking Chinese women than there are Pakistani women, so any Chinese guy that is supposedly wealthy that can't get a good-looking Chinese wife is not telling the whole story. Someone should have told this girl there is no such thing as a free lunch.
of 106:100, but if you factor in wealth, it might be more like 2 or 3:10,000. Even though China is the fastest growing producer of NEW millionaire households (a reasonable benchmark to call someone "wealthy") in the past ten years (according to Forbes magazine), these millionaires represent a very small percentage of the population (less than 0.002%, compared to 11% of millionaire households in the US). So my point was that this girl should have been suspicious about WHY a guy with "wealth" would need to enter into an "arranged" marriage with a girl from another country. I bet there were some gorgeous "middle-class" Chinese girls who would love to marry a newly-minted Chinese millionaire, or even a half-a-millionaire, but these same girls would not want a "poor farmer."
I think its probably the same pitch the Kgirl agency's use to lure Kgirls to work in the US, i.e., that there is a possibility that they will meet a rich American as a customer who will marry them. While this has happened only about six times that I know of in LA (where I know MOST of what is going on in Kgirl-land), the girls still flock here with this hope. If the Pakistani girl was extraordinarily beautiful (by ANY standard, not just compared to other mustachioed Pakistani women), then it would be more plausible that she might marry better if she looked internationally. According to the photo you included, I don't think anyone would consider her "beautiful" in the normal sense of the word. So again, why wasn't she suspicious?
I can think of dozens of Asian hookers who have found American husbands and who are still here in this country, most of them getting divorced shortly after gaining their citizenship or permanent residence status of course, this includes more than a couple of ex GF's of mine who I knew were looking for husbands when I dated them.
Ironically just the night before last I had one of those "trafficked girls" working at an AMP spend the night with me. She is most definitely looking for a husband and she has even stopped accepting my money, except for the house fee of course in the hopes that I fall in love with her and marry her so she can stay here, She also started calling me "husband" in her text messages to me. lol Alas, she's barking up the wrong tree, but you can't blame a girl for trying. lol
I completely agree that a "rich" farmer, even in China, where Imp is absolutely correct about the prospects of the "average" Chinese guy in finding a wife, a truly "rich" guy, even if he's completely repulsive is going to find ZERO problems in finding a wife. Chinese families are very eager to "marry off" their daughters, daughters have ALWAYS been second class citizens in China, and marrying a daughter off to even someone from a "good family" is considered a success, finding someone actually rich to marry one's daughter is like hitting the lottery.
BTW, is ANYONE here really surprised that a man would LIE to get a woman? Come on now, men have been lying about everything under the sun in order to score pussy since the caveman days. I mean look right here on TER, look at how many lies guys will tell just to get a hooker or SB to have sex with them.
dozens of Kgirls who have compromised after failing to find that rich American and married young Korean-American guys, oftentimes younger than themselves. My number 6 was the number I know that married "rich" Americans. When I say "rich", I'm using the Kgirl definition, which is a guy that makes at least twice what a Kgirl makes in a month when she is working full bore (8/day x 6 days a week), so someone in the mid to high six-figure range annually. Many give up on winning the lottery with a rich guy and settle for one of the local Korean boys. A young Korean guy of late-20's still living with his parents will think HE won the lottery with an experienced 35 yo Kgirl. She just needs to hang in their long enough to get her permanent green card, then its back to work. Lol
I agree with your statement but its only half of the picture. Yes, you can't blame a girl for trying, but you also can't blame us for milking it for a little while before we let them know we're not marriage material. Lol
Most of the girls I know that found American husbands did NOT find "rich" American husbands, the overwhelming majority had to "settle" for what they could get in order to stay in this country. That said, one of my exes, a Thai girl that i dated for about a year did find herself a "rich guy" after we broke up, She was miserable though and told me several times that she was so sad that it wasn't me that she married. We kept in touch all through her marriage until after her divorce was final and her residence status was assured, at which point she tried to get back with me, but alas she had gained about 30 lbs during her duration and I am sure you can guess how that ended. lol
I am not sure which statement you are calling "half the picture" Yes, I have been VERY guilty of "milking it for a while" before letting the girl know that I am not marriage material, I was doing just that as recently as Sunday night. lol, but that's not the lying I was talking about here. I was talking about the poor saps that have to lie to hookers and SB's just so they will even fuck them "for money" How many of these pathetic losers have you seen here over the years whining about how they can't even get a paid date? And the same thing goes for the Sugar Bowl.
losers that do get ONE paid date and then can't seem to figure out why the girl is ghosting them after that. WE know why and could put up a list of "offenses" they have committed against hookerdom just from info in their posts, but even a list might not help them get their act together. Some guys are so lacking in basic social skills that they think they have them when they don't. lol
But just how big a loser do you have to be when you can't even get a hooker to fuck you for money?
I might not ever want to get married again, but I'd hate it even more if I actually wanted to get married and no one wanted me. I'll accept the fact that a lot of these women are looking at me as husband material even If I'm not interested. I think it's kind of like the hot women who get mad at guys for "ogling them" I always tell them "enjoy it while it lasts, you're going to miss all the attention when you're old and fat and guys aren't going to give you a second look"
that once you have learned the seduction skills to get a woman into you bed, you never really lose them, BUT . . . . . . . .
other factors come into play that just makes it more practical to pay as you get older. Maybe you experienced the same things I did, but for me, it became a huge time suck with the flirty texting 6 or 8 times a day, the coffee dates, dinners, etc., and the bigger the age difference between you and the girl, the more care and feeding they require until it makes it not worth it anymore. If I want to talk politics, I can do it in one-fourth the time with you or Jake. I don't need to waste my time trying to 'splain things to a hot 30 yo that I really just want to fuck, and that's it. Money gives you instant access to the pussy of your choice, and a clean getaway afterwards. What more could we want at 60 years old? Lol
I couldn't help it, I was on the Dole.
(Sometimes I just slay myself.)