Guys, if you ran across a provider on a "dating/ hook up" site, would you still see her for free and keep her secret or, if you didn't know, would you want her to eventually tell you

You are on that site for a purpose and obviously, you two are enjoying each other's company.  Whatever information you have decided to keep or share is up to each person.   Why wreck the whole thing?

If I met a woman on a "hook up" site, I would not expect a LTR to develop. Well, that's relative, isn't it. Having "relationships" that, as close friends, go back to the 60's & 70's, LTR might mean something different to me. But it's hard to imagine having met a woman through a hook up service and remaining in touch for decades.

Dear Sexy Jaye:
Just wondering when you are on the date and you become intimate with him imagine the questions regarding your sexual abilities and proficiencies. Also he would begin to inquire inordinately about your immense experience in this field. At this point, would you begin to become suspicious about the sequence of following questions and if he would arrive at that magic occupation? Although you could probably tell him that you had an internship out west several years ago when you were in undergrad, but you decided not to take the job. Or you could tell him that you have always had an extremely hedonistic personality with an immense predilection for the libidinal arts.  That will really get him thinking as well. Finally however you put it, he is going so Hmm in a good was and in an inquisitive way.  Just hope his inquiry does lead him to do further investigations of you.

It would mean she trusts me and respects me, but I get it isn't first date material. If I know she provided and after we started to become a real couple she still wasn't forthcoming I would approach her. I am married to a sex worker so the job isn't a deal breaker but if she doesn't trust me with her life, that is. If you like the guy sooner or later both has to be open and honest with who you are. How one makes a living is part of who you are.

Dear Ms. Young:
Not that you would be one to hoodwink anyone but would you say that you are getting tricky when you are tricking?  Also would it be the aura and the setting to see how are you could take it in a traditional ordinary setting since you have so much game as a woman?

That is what I'd assume. And I'd probably pass unless I wanted to book her. This goes triple if she uses the same pics for both sites.

Hassle free cock every once in awhile.... Do what I want to do & with the type of a Hotty I like... I do this when I tour... On my downtime.... Woo whoo!!!

SD/SB deals less that P4P.  I'd be cautious about getting too deeply invested emotionally or financially before the other foot drops.   Now it might be possible for Escorts to look for love & possibly an exit strategy from the business...  Still you'll not know.  It's hard to be guarded & still open to relationships IF YOU ARE AVAILABLE.

I totally agree...

I am handicapped in the "dating" aspect. I am intimate/ sexual way before I am interested in "dating" someone so the questions about experience and things happen first. You can't hide or dumb down how well you know your way around a cock and once you have rocked his world which leaves him to wonder. I find true "dating" way too revealing and I often get choked up with someone really wanting to know the REAL me. When that happens I usually bail on the whole thing and just get something superficial with the next one. Don't worry I am in therapy for this, she gets paid to help me figure out my shit. LOL!

All providers are women/ sisters/ daughters/ mothers FIRST! I highly doubt any woman is going to provide or really want to provide forever. So, before you assume a woman that provides is on dating site just to suck more money out of men is in my opinion, wrong! I am sorry that you think we (providers) are that screwed up that we don't want or are incapable of real and true loving relationships. Having a BF/ GF is hardly an exit strategy, most providers have a BF/ GF while in the business. Whether we (providers) are on P411 or EHarmony, just check out and consider who the lady is first and respect her no matter what, that is a better approach. Always being guarded, you can miss out on so much, instead just go with the flow, you might have fun or a really interesting story to tell!  

If a guy had that on a dating profile, I probably wouldn't consider dating him nor would I take him seriously. Hmmm, I guess it goes both ways now doesn't it? Interesting!

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Assuming your reason for going through the dating site routine was more than casting for a sugar daddy, do you truly believe  this is the right path to seeking a genuine relationship? I mean, given the circumstances? I don't know what other avenues are open to you, but you must have experienced people in a lot of circles to give you several alternatives.

Seeing as I have "hooked up" for many more years than I have provided, I can't say I haven't met my share of weirdos and had some questionable situations, but even with all the "screening" in the hobby, the ultimate blind date for us, it has NEVER been 100% safe. With either activity, you have to trust your gut and just as bad as your pussy throbs for the thought of a new guy touching you, you have to listen to those voices... Female intuition is the strongest weapon we have, we have to use it! It also helps to let someone know where you will be for the next hour or so or to check on you, for the just in cases. By the grace of God, I have never had any issue with hooking up, and I do realize the risk of harm, but my urges for strange sex is just too strong and all the "safety" of the hobby doesn't always cut it. I have actually felt more pressure and a higher instance for an unsavory situation from guys being a sex worker than not. The expectation and agression that some guys have towards entertainers, or women in general, is scary. Unfortunately, the stigma of women being in control of their sexuality and actually liking sex and wanting sex may never go away.

Everyone worries about exposing their lives to others and then being rejected. I know that's why I mask some aspects of myself. Probably many of these board personas are about that, too. Pretty common stuff, that. But there's also this annoying thing that if someone gets to know me, and likes me, eventually there would be a demand for fidelity, and the whole menagerie of sexual partners would scamper out of my life. No more new faces, no more gorgeous bodies--that scares me. Anything like that going on with you?

As much as the dating websites have progressed over the years, and with so many people on them truly looking for love, when that time has come for me to find something a little more stable and meaningful, I would weigh that option. A few years ago, I have met some good non sexual friends from dating sites. I have also paid money for a dating service to "match" me where I would go out on actual dates with my "match" and report back on how it went, and while that experience was horrible, I would probably do it again. I guess I would be open to meeting that "special one" where ever I meet him; online, grocery store, swing party, etc. LOL! As long as we are in the relationship for the same goals and are both content, who's to say the relationship is not genuine and would not last?

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If you are boat happy with each other today, you're likely to be happy tomorrow.

The real life story isn't as great as the fantasy... Defense mechanism, YES. Do I do this a lot, YES. But part of the solution is realizing the problem. HA! So I do open myself up to some. And at the end of the day, I am a bonafide commitment phobe, I realize I want to commit eventually, but will I be fully monogamous to one person ever? I don't think so. A traditional relationship with monogamy may not work for me. I have had an "open" relationship, which worked for a while, but it is much harder to maintain. Besides, I get the nature of men, and I don't expect one man to sexually be content with one pussy forever and ever. It's about as real as Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. If he can get some variety then why can't I?

You each could sleep around as much as you want, but you had to have breakfast, lunch and dinner together until death do you part--could you agree to that?

And of course she would be. How could any resist your charm, intellect, and drop dead good looks!

Hookers market themselves? Really? Who knew?

God you're priceless.  

Several times.  Always kept the secrets in confidence.  I even contacted 2, they were using the site to get business.  Not saying all do, just the 2 I contacted.  Still kept the secret.

I know what I have against him. He is lame, clueless, spineless, and he will never even rent a clue, and rather than learn with time, if anything he is getting worse by the day. but that's what I have against him.  I guess I was wanting to compare notes. lmao

Never got more than a few winks and initial email contacts that never worked out.  If it had been a P4P provider then they never went through with it far enough to even try to get together, so I'd say it was lousy advertising.  I think most of those sites are nothing more than money pits.  If I'm gonna spend cash, I'm going to find a provider honest enough to advertise as a provider and actually provide.  The games played on those sites are stupid and frustrating.

It is uncivilized to talk about others. I consider it was worst rudeness one can do to another.

No matter how you meet, I think a relationship that reaches a certain point in terms of commitment and expectations demands honesty and disclosure. It's about respecting your partner. Keep in mind, this could be asked in the reverse... what if you knew a guy you met on a dating website was a hobbyist? What would YOU want?

coming from the gentlemen of this world spewing the word 'commitment'. Come on. Men can NEVER be monogamous, so there's your answer. There's no 'commitment or expectation demands' involved anywhere in this world or any world for that matter. That's BS on a stick. Men fuck, that's what they do. There's nothing emotionally involved. Period.  

by going deeper.  "Men can NEVER be monogamous?" LMAO.  I can't. GaG can't.  Lots of us can't. But.....wait for it....we're on a hooker board!  But do we represent all men?  Not a chance.  This just proves you have a slanted and ignorant view of men.  I have several friends who are in very long term marriages and are totally monogamous.  A;ways have been. And there's no chance they'll change.  They are very happy.  That's not me by a long shot, but that's the difference between us. You think you know everything.  I know I don't. Even so, I know so much more than you it's just ludicrous.  And, Minnie, you will never, ever understand.  Please stop trying.  You will hurt your little brain.