I don't concern myself with a gentleman's personal life.  I'm more concerned with what kind of experience him and I are going to have togther.  I see men that are married, divorced, nover been married, etc.  There is nothing sick about what you're doing.  If the hobby fits your lifestyle right now then kudos to you.  No one else can tell you what is best for you.


Happy Hobbying!!
Becca Blossoms

I'm long divorced, have grown kids.  But, never have I had a problem with a provider because I'm not married.  In fact, I can't even remember a provider that asked if I was married.  Sometimes, it has come up in conversation, but never been a problem.

Swim

In my experience, eventually Fav ladies have learned my maritial status but often not first meetings.
NO, do not buy a ring.  Tell the truth.  D.  No time or maybe interest to invest in a relationship.

Providers are right to be concerned & simply pay attention.  It's VERY easy for guys to fall for ladies we have great sex with...  especially repeatedly.  I combat this by rotating a few Favorites.  For me at least, seeing a single provider could be hazzardous emotionally.  
Falling for a provider would mean I'd have to stop seeing her or she'd refuse to see me.  

I don't think you have anything to worry about.  Just know the risks & keep your eyes open.
skb

"Have you been having sex with my husband?"

Divorced guys like myself may be less prone to wanting to get too deeply involved, once burned, twice shy, and all that.

And there have been enough stories on these boards about married guys who want to run away from their wife and kids and take up with a provider as Mr. Save-a-ho.

I started out single and it wasn't a problem. When I got asked that question I thought I must be doing something right. Of course the truth didn't hurt either. After a break I came back and the names and faces had changed, but it was the same game. My cash was still desired more than me.

"Many providers prefer married guys due to the lack of drama"

Why would there be less drama with a married guy? Isn't it more likely his wife might find his secret phone numbers and harass the provider?
On the other side of the coin,if you are single looking for one night stands with civvies, it is a good idea to wear a wedding ring. Civvies love a challenge when knowing he won't call her every two hours.

..."Why would there be less drama with a married guy?"...

Because quad, married guys have more to lose if they really misbehave. It's called divorce and way more money than the hourly rate of a provider.

He needs to keep his hobbying very quiet and behave.

Many providers prefer married guys due to the lack of drama.  I am single and I don't THINK it has ever been a problem, but I would love to get the opinions of the ladies out there.  Should I buy a  ring and wear it to our appointment?  Should I just leave this fact out?  Every lady asks if I am married. I don't offer it up, but I do tell them the truth.

Hobbying fits my lifestlye at this point in time.  I own a business and have kids and really don't have the time to invest in a relationship.  I promise that I have never or would never stalk anyone, nor do I have expect us to be in a relationship after the first time we are together.  Third date maybe, but not one.

Or are you divorced?  Many/most of the providers I know fall into this category, so I don't think they would hold that against you.  As a man who is truly single, i.e., never married and with no kids, I can only say that this has never been held against me.

I'm single as well, and hobbied for over a year. The ladies seem fine with me being older and single. Not sure about the young single guys out.

I've been single for a while and like you, I don't have time to get involved with anyone or even meet them for that matter.  I've never had issues about it and actually have developed some off hours friendships with a couple TER acquaintances.

but a single man is more open with his time and might be available when most have to be home. A day that would normally be quiet and boring could be livend up with that new single man who wants to play. I love Sunday afternoon delight but don't count on a married man being free.

I'm always happy to find a friendly face married or single who wants to share time with me. I enjoy getting to know my friends and whatever they wish to share I will listen. I don't think one needs to fake anything on either side and being yourself will give you more pleasure. Besides, most men take their rings off before cuming to my front door. The tan test is a dead give away here in Florida.

Kisses Haley

literbike  'He needs to keep his hobbying very quiet and behave."

OK that makes sense looking at how a lot of guys are.. I reckon we are all different.
Even when I was a teen I told no one about what girls I was having sex with, and I do remember most guys told about all of them.. So I think you are saying single guys would tend to advertise their provider experiences to others not in the hobby, just like they talked about their teen age flings.
I have never told any guys I know outside the hobby world, about any of my provider experiences.
First its none of their business what I do with my personal life and Second I would be afraid the Civvy ladies I know would find out and ostracize me.  

I am now single after 19 years of marriage. My kids are young adults.

I never sensed that providers have problems with that. On the contrary, they love hanging out with me. Perhaps they feel safe that, like you, that I was -- and still is -- a family man and NOT some kind of psycho.

I never offer up that I'm single but I often deliberately bring up my kids to see them how they react and let them ask questions if they like to continue that line of conversation.

On the other hand, perhaps I'm just a dripping hunk of man candy.

I think it might be an issue if you are single and YOUNG.  People hobby for diffrent reasons. I hobby simply becuase I dont want a relationship right now. I work a ridiculeus amount of hrs in a week and dont need the constant nagging that comes with a SO.  I also  dont need the drama that comes with the bar scene"why didnt u call me?"  Fuck that......    


We dont pay providers to come see us....we pay them to go away afterwards.....

the fact that you are even asking this question here probably qualifies as you a demented, sick man. LOL
just saying
heck I coudn't resist

sick.I don't see a problem you're not hurting anyone.I don't ask the gentleman if they are married or not but some volunteer this info.I wouldn't be purchasing a ring or wearing one so the providers think you're married.Shouldn't be an issue I have not had drama w/a single guy or married.

I am single never been married and very busy.  I should be allowed to go on all the rides?

I don't see any problem here

Everyone hobbies for different reasons.  Many of them were mentioned here in this thread.  Personally, it makes no difference to me whether a gentleman is married or not, as long as he always IS a gentleman with me and other ladies that he frequents.  Single men have as much of a right to hobby as married men.  

Marriage is not for me. My encounter with a provider is just that, an encounter. I don't want to become infatuated with her or stalk her. I have had the wonderful experience of being with many drop dead gorgeous and skilled providers. When my visit with them was done, I went on my way. I have way too much to do in life, I don't have time to become infatuated or stalk.

I routinely get asked by providers and civvies why I am not married or have a girlfriend. My simple answer to providers is that regardless of how beautiful or skilled a woman is, I get bored with a her if I have sex with her more than a handful of times.

And probably the most unlikely to be sick guy here!

I have to say it true, I  do believe many if friends are married.  Do I care?  No, their businessd is their business.  Why do some look towards escorts?  For that exact reason, your business is your business..I don't don't need to know anything about it.  Am I going to cal you or text you out of the blue? I wouldn't dare.  Your secret is always safe with me, I have nothing to gain.

One provider told me she just want to have wild sex and in her words "I don't like those single guys who wants to wine and dine me and then ask me to marry them .. ". She's said 'enough is enough'.  

But there are also providers who as "are you married?" .. I donno what that means.  Maybe they are a looking for a relationship with benefits.

Why would it be sick?  Hobbying is for anyone who wants to do so, has the means and time. If it fits your lifestyle married, single or attached GREAT.  I DO NOT EVER lol ask a guys relationship situation or lack thereof ..... if he brings it up somehow before or during or after a visit or several it doesn't bother me lol you call me I won't call you.

Wow, Not at all I think it's hot!! We all know providers do it better anyways, right. To me it means you want the more experienced fuck or ??  You should give me a call sometime. I'm not a stalker I promise. Besides it's not stalking if you really really love someone , right?? LOL!! LOL!!! Just teasing really, but I do get a kick out of that line. Do what and who you want love, life is too short not to.
Milf Kelly
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Just don't leave money at home

Why the hell would they care as they want your money

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Most girls like to ask this question because a lot of dudes do not want any excess perfume, glitter, makeup or anything to get them in trouble with their significant others.  I think it's perfectly normal and can be a wonderful experience as far as dating as long as the ground rules are laid out.

XXX-Giselle

I have several regulars that are single (or going thru a divorce) and or your same reasons chose the drama free avenue of being a hobbiest, then to dating. They KNOW they are going to end up VERY content and happy at the end of our date., without the ridiculous games that come with dating. I am sure when you (and they) are ready to change that they will. BUT in the meantime, I think it makes complete sense. And Hey, I am the best girlfriend they will ever have (fr an hour or 2 at a time
Good luck!