Putting aside special reasons why a man couldn't climax during a session (use of anti depressants, ED, etc). If you can't climax during a session, should us providers take as a sign the spark is gone? This question is under the assumption that you've seen that provider somewhat regularly.  

yes i had 2 session with my atf that i didn't came.  It's not her fault and it's not chemistry related, because when i saw my atf later date (week later) i came like a bucket.  Both time I had too much things going on in my mind and i guess wasn't focus, whatever the reason is, it's on me, not the provider nor the chemistry.

"special" reasons of course. Reasons like seeing five girls in a day, drinking a full bottle of tequila during the session, the list goes on and on.

There are a lot of factors that can contribute...

Many of the same issues that affect a woman'sability to cum can affect a man. Things like stress, being preoccupied, alcohol/drugs, fatigue, dehydration, blood suger issues, blood pressure issues, health in genral, and many other things can affect our ability to temporarily preform even if we still desire the woman we are with. It is a myth we are always on and ready to go. So no a man's falure to get there is not always a reflection on the lady he is with or his opinion on her.

I've had several sessions with amazing ladies where no cups were jad.  It's all me due to being a fat chef that's treated his body like an amusement park ride, and as I've gotten older condoms suck more and more.  I'm actually pretty cool with a giving/recieving oral/making out/getting a killer massage session!

If I run into that situation I take a break. It means I don't have my A game together (not enough rest or fucking too much). Sometimes the provider gains too much weight and legs and ass get too big. I saw one provider back in 2008 things were fine, in 2015 her legs got too big. She admitted that she had gain to much weight.  

Sorry to say, I think he may have checked out mentally.... he may have moved on.

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Once I was just too worn out from a 100 hour work week plus travel, and my ATF tried her best but no go.  Funny thing was, she was tired that night also so she couldn't come either.  Maybe it was a sympathetic reaction.     Anyway, after a few hours rest we made up for it the next morning--the spark was definitely alive, and still is over 3 years later.

If there are no health reasons and he doesn't cum, he should have spent his time elsewhere.  

James and I plan to get it on.

you should be able to ignite it again.

The best most memorable sex I ever had I didn't pop.

In my case a provider became a regular precisely because she could hit all the right buttons while offering me pretty much all that I ever wanted in a menu.

as much mental as physical. If his mind "isn't right" due to work or personal issues, it may be difficult for him to concentrate.

First round is a given. Most of the time good for two. Sometimes it doesn't happen but I always have fun trying. Personally, I just enjoy the act of having sex. As a single man the intimacy can be just as enjoyable(that's a lie)as the sex. It does come close.

I'm in my early 50s, and I can count on one hand the number of times I've ejaculated into a condom in my lifetime. There is just no sensation there for me. Oral, on the other hand, I just can't get enough of. If CIM is on the table I'm all in (ba dum bump!), and if it's not, then right up to the moment of truth is good enough with a HJ finish

believe me, i've lost more erections than brain cells, and i took lsd all thru college!  (don't worry, i passed with flying colors.  thank you folks, tip the waitresses and good night!)

If a guy can come at all...  he can probably come with a HJ.  If things have progressed to that point...  the time is ending & even if it isn't exhaustion is looming...  I have an understanding with my Favs, to finish things anyway they can.  With new friends, I've been known to ask for a HJ finish... and never been refused.  I wouldn't suggest a gal quit too soon...  suggest she ask "Try something else?"  Maybe a different position or action.
   
I think it is the elephant in the room...  he probably knows if he's close & it's going to happen.  One gal told me point blank "I don't quit" which I am glad but if it's not hitting the right spot, nothing IS going to happen (at least for me).   I can finish, if that sweet spot is hit...  I need to finish...  How looses it's importance.

It could be something as simple and dumb as getting horny from the anticipation of seeing you, and he rubs one out.  Then he can't cum when he sees you.  This has happened to me a a couple times.  Don't be losing sleep over it.

I will always get one out.  The second round may or may not happen, if it doesnt (and not for lack of trying) its on me, not her.  Now if she is doing a disinterested/half hearted try or just can't be bothered to try, its on her and I won't see her again.  The repeat biz goes to those who are eager and willing to try at least!

in my opinion - just as providers have off days, I believe clients do as well even though they booked.  Sometimes it happens.  Give the client the benefit of the doubt.  Personally, it has not happened to me...but I do not take any chances meaning I do not masturbate before I see a provider.  I know of some hobbyists that do masturbate before seeing a provider in order to last longer.

I couldn't finish because I flat out ran out of breath.  The provider was not happy either...as I laid on my back, gasping for breath, she kept lifting my still hard cock and looking at me as if to say Well? WTF?
I apologized profusely, but I was done.