Ladies…I’m new at this whole thing and have a question for you. Is it acceptable at the beginning of a session to let a provider know certain things you’d like to accomplish during the session? For instance, I have a certain way that I want to finish. I feel like if I share that before we get started it will be more fluid at the end.
I’m not taking about scripting the whole session out, just the finish.
Thanks!
I always tell my ho that I want to cum deep in her cunt.. She can suck my dick all day long but better be careful.. If she makes me cum that way, I better want my money back.. I don't like to waste my man-juice, you know? Unless of course she is willing to swallow me and prove me that she swallowed. No hanky-panky business.. LMAO..
Yes, you can ask your bitch all you want, but don't ask it over email or text.. Ask her when in the room..
I know some women who would gladly receive your info, if asked face to face at the start of the session, and others that may be turned off. What I have done is wait until after round one is complete and bring it up to her during pillow talk. I know others may disagree with me but that is how I have handled those type situations. The issue is, if you ask her your wants up front and she refuses, it could make for a somewhat awkward situation between the two of you. That is something I avoid with someone I haven't met with previously.
Great point. Sadly one round is all I’m good for these days. That’s why I need to make it count lol!
FWIW what I’d be suggesting would be something that I know is already on the menu. So the provider saying no would be unlikely, rather I’d be worried about killing the mood.
But your fellow mongers, this one included, have strong feelings on the matter. It's your responsibility to tell them if you expect to get it. So yes, tell them.
I learned long ago that my finish, not the mechanics, but the physical characteristics of my orgasm, absolutely require I be clear about what I need from her in order to not have a 'ruined orgasm,' or a partially ruined one. Before I started telling them up front, I left disappointed at some level 4 out of 5 times, or worse. They still sometimes forget and pull away before I'm finished. Yikes.
Again, YES, tell them. You're paying them to provide you a sex service. It's your dime and it's your time, make sure you're an advocate for your own enjoyment! No provider has ever responded in any way except to say some version of..."OK."
Well…not yet anyway. Still hoping some weigh in.
Regardless appreciate your perspective. Makes total sense. Thank you!t
Most gals have set routines that they follow. The reason for this is that they have found these routines to be successful, and therefore it lowers the risk of offending or doing something wrong. Not all gals are that insistent on their routine, and many are very willing to go outside of it, but it is something to consider.
My second thought is that you may miss out on a new experience by limiting the gal to what you insist on. Many is the time that a gal has taught this old dog a new trick, and I have been better off for it.
"I'm really glad to meet you. I really like your reviews, especially the ones that end __________________ , because that's what I like, A LOT. I am so looking forward to that."
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It sure beats, "I read your reviews. I know that every single one of them says you don't allow ____________________ but I'm hoping you'll make an exception in my case."
Ladies…I’m new at this whole thing and have a question for you. Is it acceptable at the beginning of a session to let a provider know certain things you’d like to accomplish during the session? For instance, I have a certain way that I want to finish. I feel like if I share that before we get started it will be more fluid at the end.
I’m not taking about scripting the whole session out, just the finish.
Thanks!
Are you wanting to ask a provider for a specific sex act, or to accommodate you in some way to make finishing a better experience? And is it something that's a dealbreaker that you need covered before booking, or something that can wait until you're face-to-face?
Your question is vague enough to make it hard to know what to suggest you do, and that won't change if it's your fellow mongers talking form experience or a provider replying about their preferences.
Looking at reviews has a low probability of getting you to know whether a girl does something specific you want her to perform, especially if it's a modification of an existing act, e.g., COB. As long as you're not asking her to hang from a chandelier or perform some other dangerous arial maneuver, or to do CIMWS when her profile says "spits it out," you're going to have to spell it out for us understand your situation. You've definitely got me curious though. LMAO.
Lol ok. Let me be more clear. I think you were on the right track in your initial response by the way.
I want to finish standing doggie and when I’m about to cum have the provider drop to her knees and finish me in her mouth. In this scenario I will know based on reviews that CIM is on the menu.
My thought here is that discussing this beforehand (while in the room not in advance) would make for a much more seamless and enjoyable experience. Basically I’d just say ok I’m ready and down she goes.
So the question is, given that I’m new, is this the type of conversation providers and clients have at the beginning of a session and how does that go?
Again, not asking her to do anything that isn’t on the menu.
And by the way appreciate all the input so far!
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Yeah, you just want a personal touch to an already available act. By all means, go for it. I engineer the finishing act pretty close to finishing because... it's always spur of the moment depending on circumstances when I'm finishing. The other night I wanted fuck a girls boobs to nut sooo baaad, but while she was sucking me and I was getting close, a huge wad of warm saliva started rushing over my balls, and I mean it felt like it just came out of the microwave. That was so phenomenal, and: boobs, big ones on a young girl, went out the window, and CIM was in.
But since you actually know what want for the nut, absolutely explain it ahead of time so you're not trying to get her to understand last minute or, with foreign gash, fiddling endlessly with a phone translator if it requires more than some hand gestures and manual placement of body parts (that was a description of my process 😂😂😭😭😭). Oh hell yeah, just tell up front and remind her later. Sounds like fun, btw. Hubba hubba. 🌽
MalachaiPhl,
When you first contact the lady/Ladies by phone or email.....That's when you need to lay everything out (Before setting an actual "SESSION"). Just to see if she still wants to see you or not, then go from there.
Asking about specific sex acts on first contact is a guarantee any sane provider will refuse further contact. Virtually every escort but you will shut him off for this. Your advice here is worse than useless.
you tell her you would like to finish with someone better-looking than her.
In case anyone is interested, had my session today. Told her at the beginning of the session specifically how I wanted to finish. She was totally cool with my request and boy did she ever deliver. Hottest sex I’ve ever had!
Glad it worked out for you. I would never have a problem w someone telling me what they like. But I am not scripted or whatever was said. I go with the flow. I feel that when someone has it all planned out in their head the reality comes up short. But with what you wanted I get it. It's not like you wanted a play by play lay out. But sometimes the best sex comes from winging it. But I guess money sometimes makes people feel that they have to make it worth it. I hate to sound braggy but I think I always make it worth it.
Hello SexyStephie,
I just checked your website and had to go take a cold shower! You are a very stunning woman!!
Are you ever in the northeast? (Please say "yes")
TOMD
Ahh you're too sweet. I am planning on going to Delaware soon. Maybe you are close?
I love it when gentlemen tell me what they like, especially running up to the date via WhatsApp or email. That way I know how to push all the right buttons
great communication upfront I find leads to the best time privately 😉 just my personal opinion.
to see a few different ladies posting to a thread!
Hello!
Austin provider here and YES! Please absolutely ask for what you want! But like others have said, don't do that until, you are in person. No explicit texts or emails EVER.
A good provider will want to know what your preferences are. If she can accommodate she will, if not, she will let you know.
I for one LOVE when my clients communicate their needs. Everyone is so different and it's helpful to know what you like. Hope that helps! Stay safe and have fun! 😘
Jasper
I see today is your first day posting. Your website gallery is very attractive. I see you have a TER profile with three reviews.
If you "claim" your profile on TER, then you are allowed to link your profile to your board posts, so future customers will be able to ask you in advance when booking if your TER profile is "up to date" without ever mentioning specific services, or else you just tell them to check your TER profile to see what's on the menu. It's a win-win for everyone.
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I love to hear what you like and what works for you.
Once we meet I like to have a little talk time and ice breaker conversation. This is one of the many reasons I tell new friends that I prefer our first meeting to be at least an Hour and half or two hour appointment. Much of the fun is getting to know a little about each other. You have the advantage of our reviews but we have to go off of what you tell us and /or read your body language. I will often playfully ask if you are a one , two or more popper. If you say one then I am going to take time and help you last as long as you can. If its two or more then we get the first out of the way and use the time between to get to know each other and build up to the next go around.
If the conversation opens itself to being able to ask how one likes to finish I will ask.
Point being, If you have a particular way you want or need to finish , don't be shy , tell her! Tell your provider what you like and what turns you on. It makes a better time for both of you,
For me, I would have no problem at all with my date sharing his preferences with me. In fact, I welcome it!
This is also the main reason I schedule dates for 1.5 hr minimum.
I truly enjoy getting to know my date! I pride myself in connecting with my date on all levels and LOVE to have him share his fantasies with me over a glass of (insert drink of choice here) in a relaxed and unrushed environment.
So yes, please tell me all your wishes. If I can make them come true, I absolutely will.
Xoxo
For the simple reason you're one of the most stunning women I've ever had the pleasure to meet (albeit a long time ago).
I, for one, appreciate input from the distaff side of this funscape.
Judging by all your amazing reviews, I don't see the need to say anything - you seem to have it all covered! LOL!