you should proceed with extreme caution.

Even if you aren't Daddy Warbucks, you have enough money to make yourself "interesting" to someone who is out to screw you over.

Believe me, there are a lot more tales of woe than joy on this particular subject.

So, go slowly in the relationship, and make sure you check out the myriad of factors that signal whether or not this is right for you and her before making any major commitments.

Let me ask you this one:  Are you OK with her continuing on in her chosen field and having a SO relationship with her?  If not, abort the mission now.  The world does not need another Capt. Save-a-hoe.

After all, I've been with thousands of women, and that shit goes both ways. Even some hookers have gently "chastised" me for being such a slut, which I found highly amusing.

You've made some really dumb posts in your short time here, but I'll give you the BOD on this one. Yes, a real relationship is possible, but if you want to really find out if money is not part of it, it will be necessary to take money completely out of the equation. IOW If you REALLY want to know if she seriously has feelings for you, you need to stop paying her for sex.

Now, you need to ask yourself, Do you really want to know her true feelings and risk ruining the little fantasy that you (and her) have created?

For the record, I have dated a couple of "agency girls" and if I weren't the pig that I am, I know it could have led to marriage, IF I were the marrying kind that is. The last relationship I broke off, mainly because I KNEW she was in love with me and wanted more than I was capable of giving. and Yes, we took money completely out of the equation a couple of weeks after meeting each other. I think I paid for four or five sessions before she told me that she didn't want my money.

In short, it's possible, but not likely for you to make this work.

I have been seeing a provider regularly at an agency for the past year.  She is really hot with curves off the chart. A couple of times I took her home after her shift.  I also gave her a ride to the supermarket, the drug store and the shopping mall.  The last time I saw her, I treated her to dinner.  In case you are wondering, she did not charge me for the time being with me at dinner.  I am starting to have some emotional involvement with her. She told me that she would consider a serious relationship, even possible marriage.  It is not for my money because she knows I am not wealthy. I want to ask the ladies here...can you ever get involved emotionally with a hobbyist while knowing his history and that he is not wealthy?  And for the gentlemen here, I would like to ask ... can you imaging yourself getting seriously involved with a provider while knowing how many thousands of men she has been with?  So should I or shouldn't I ?

Come on man, it's only four days into the new year. This shouldn't come up for at least a couple more months. BTW, how big is too big?

You did end up marrying a provider? How did it go or how is it going so far?

skepticism, I think a real relationship can arise under any set of circumstances, including this sport.  However, all I hear from you is "some emotinal involvement" and she is already dropping some pretty big ideas around, something tells me that something is not quite right.

Chances are you haven't tasted her pussy before she's gotten a chance to make sure it's fresh.  

But, first of all, a serious involvement doesn't necessarily mean marriage.

she's a hooker and fucks for a living.

From my perspective. Not speaking for anyone but me....
I fall in love so many times and continue to be in love with a few fine gents that return to visit. But that doesn't mean think I get to keep them. Maybe in a Fairy tale everything would work out but all said and done, I doubt it. When you hire me part of what my silent promise to you is that I keep your secret and don't intrude in your private/civvie life. Sometimes a gent will want to push beyond the boundaries that make that difficult.(ie a big chunk off the clock time). So I tuck my emotions and feelings away and stay the course.  

It depends on the two people involved so while there is an answer to your general question of can it happen, there is no answer to your specific question about you and this lady.  

Been there, done that and it didn't work out well. Both financially and emotionally. Beware and remember she makes nice to men for money. Not to say it can't happen and that they are all gold diggers but it's easy to fall into the trap of having feelings for a beautiful woman.

No to mention you knew that lady in question for years before you got hitched.
PS: Since your First Anniversary is coming up, let me wish all the best to you two crazy kids.

Because I would never, ever marry anyone again.  But the fact she's a hooker would have nothing to do with it.  I just suck at being married.

take the money out of the relationship.  I discovered than my (now ex) only married me for financial reasons & then hated me for it.  By all means, the money must stop outside of your picking up the tab say for OTC dates.  Get to know each other.  See where it leads.  
 
Lots of guys fall in l o v e with providers every day.   Could it become something serious, yes.  Those who have been there...  and there are several on this board...  will point out that this is a difficult road.  But not impossible.  Go slow.  Keep your eyes open & your brain turned on.

If I were to have a relationship again, I'd be eager and proud to be in a relationship with a provider, they are after all my favorite people. I wouldn't mind if she was still providing, and the number of men she's been with is a turn on if anything.  

I have the propensity to be considerably more verbose.

And a courageous one.

I'm way too selfish.

But now I am cured. And I have told all my friends that if I tell them I'm getting married again they should shoot me.

I really shouldn't say too much since it's been just under a year, but having a long distance relationship has a lot of merit.  We are very different in a lot of ways.  For example she is a night person and I'm a day person, at least in order to hold my job. I'm also a neat freak and she's a hoarder*, so the separate abodes work better.

We get together 5-6 times a year and that is really great when we do.  Otherwise we talk daily.  We've more or less been carrying on this way for the last 9 years anyways.  We decided to tie the knot to show our respective families and friends that we were really serious about each other.  Plus it was an excuse for a really great party.

I think more people ought to consider this lifestyle.

*No sniggering!

On the other hand, never say never.    

But if you can't do it without thinking about all of the other people she's fucked, then DON'T. You'll kill the relationship before it has a chance to breathe. If it makes you feel any better, she's chosen you out of all the guys she's been with. That's gotta be worth something to you - take it, move forward and don't look back. And really, all things must end, so just fucking have a good time while you're at it.

what difference how many men she's been with, any more than how many women I've been with? And as for continuing to escort, if she wants to continue, why not? Concern about such things stems from being conditioned your whole life to feel a sense of ownership of "your woman" and that you are supposed to feel a certain way about female promiscuity. Do your best to shed those beliefs and feelings, it's quite freeing and may allow you to see possibilities you've not seen before and experience your life in a much different, and I'll wager more satisfying, way. I will almost certainly not go down this path, for many reasons, but none of them have anything to do with a girl being a provider. If it feels like this is a real thing for you go for if...if you're wrong you'll find out in a hurry.

The cast of characters was about as strange as you could imagine.

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The way you met should not be such a huge deal if you are secure with yourself and know its just her occupation.
Many ladies meet great guys in the hobby.

Really like my ATF a lot. Such a Sweetheart and so Adorable. Would I Marry her? She's asked me to. I'll have to give this alot of serious thought. As of now I'm not sure. As for me being involved with her knowing she's seen alot of guys? Well that's how I met her. So I can't make a judgment call on that.

would be NO WAY!

I'd start with New Hampshire and go from there

I have many male friends that I love being with and dont want money from.  
          I dont think just because a lady escorts that means she wants money from every male she meets.....
  Most escorts make enough thier own money and they fuck who they wanna fuck in thier real life and he need not give her money,  
I fuck plenty of guys and sleep over thier apt or just have a random fuck and i wouldnt want thier money, we need to have fun too, !!!!
 I tend to like guys with tats, in my own age group, nice body nice face.

an established elite provider.

It can happen, shit it happened to me till one night she came to our appointment late, she looked like her had a great time before me and looked ragged, that was the does of reality that I needed and then I woke up.And something I remember awhile ago, if you're feeling like you're something special, then read her reviews, that should snap you out of it.

i lie to myself. She lies to me. I lie to her. Goods times for all. Isn't fiction all a lie?

I too have been married twice and I always say try it once and if it doesn't work out , give it a second try as everything deserves a second chance......but if that one doesn't work and you go to the well a third time, then your a dumbass!!

but not about the way she truly feels about you.

Those of us who figured it out after only fucking up once, call guys who need the lesson repeated a dumbass.

Now that said, those guys smart enough to have avoided marriage altogether are probably laughing at all of us dumbasses who ever got married even once.

you're both human beings, of course you can fall in love. Just try to separate the fantasy from the reality and keep your perspective.
The fact that she's been a provider would not bother me in the slightest. I could say, who am I to throw stones, lol?
But remember, you're a guy, and you're getting some really hot sex, and it's hard not to equate that with love.

Even though I'm probably somewhat unique  as a client in this mishmash of hos and bros  I feel love or some level of it with all  the relatively  few ladies I see. After a long and loving relationship with my wife she died. I mourned  for several years but I not only missed her but I missed the intimacy and carnal  aspects of a relationship. I went though the respectable dating cites and I made one friend but it wasn't a romantic kind of thing. Anyone my age just didn't turn me on. Hell! Who gets turned on by a 79 year old women unless you have known and loved her for many years?   So with that preface. I see several younger ladies and I have had many off the clock activities with all but one of them. With her it was one and done. The others are my friends and I have affection for all of them. I do have a deeper affection bordering on a true love for another. I will do all I can, with my modest means to provide for her and her boy after I'm gone. I know all you rampant studs, exuding a trail of testosterone will scoff at this old fart, but, you know what? I don't give two farts in the wind what you think. LOL I know the fun I am having and the friends I have made, who I think will mourn when I'm gone. Even if the don't, I won't know.

But first, I'm sorry for your lost, especially in the twilight of your life. To get to the point, enjoy yourself with that luckly lady. I hope she treats you right and that the memories you're creating with her will last forever...And I'm sure the Misses understands and would want to see you happy... Now you stud, go enjoy yourself.

Thank you Happy, Many years ago my wife and I assured each other that if one died the other should feel free to marry again if we found the right person. I even joked that during the time i was mourning I''d only date black chicks.