my only reaction to such an experience would be extreme FEAR. fear not just for my own physical welfare and freedom, but for the well-being of my family. after all, he knows where i live and what i do, and i know not a thing about him except the fact that he's been watching me. i would be horrified, terrified, traumatized, and would not be able to regain peace of mind for as long as i lived there.
Has this ever happened to anyone?
I saw a provider. I was thinking
I have seen her somewhere before.
After the session, going home I
remembered seeing her in my complex.
Was she there on business or did she
live there? I found out later that she
did live in the complex. She was very sweet and nice, so she was a true girl-next-door.
Should I not tell her I know where she lives,
and just keep it business?
Or "Like a good neighbor Bentnail is there."
Creepy as fuck.
Par for the course.
Cuz I would have no intention of seeing you in the firstplace. No offense.
Just guessing, but I think it would scare her if you told her you knew where she lived. I expect she would assume you'd stalked her and meant her some sort of harm or unwanted attention.
Best to let it go until you see her more and she becomes comfortable with you. Even then, I would be reluctant to tell her.
Let's hear from the providers.....
my only reaction to such an experience would be extreme FEAR. fear not just for my own physical welfare and freedom, but for the well-being of my family. after all, he knows where i live and what i do, and i know not a thing about him except the fact that he's been watching me. i would be horrified, terrified, traumatized, and would not be able to regain peace of mind for as long as i lived there.
I have not been watching her.
I found it strange, we live in the
same complex.
Every provider on here claims to screen, screen screen. With all this screening, please don't tell me that you don't even know which clients live in your own apartment complex. Or are you now claiming that you dont know anything about the men you see, not even their real name and address?
I think everyone is making waay too much out of this. It isn't that difficult to work this into a conversation the next time the OP sees her. You people can't possibly be this clueless, can you? Is it really that hard to say something like "you're never going to believe this but I think we are neighbors"?
i must admit that i only skimmed the first post, and did not initially catch that he had actually been a client of this particular provider. in that case yes she sure as heck should know who he is and the fact that is a close neighbor (and i'm wondering why any provider would agree to see someone under such circumstances, but anywho). still, i believe fear would be a quite natural response to him actually confronting her with this. if she didn't mention it herself from day one (oh isn't it funny, we're neighbors!), then it could very well be that she really doesn't know. unfortunately not all providers screen, screen, screen. and it would make sense for a woman in such a predicament to be fearful, very much so. now of course she did place herself in this situation...i can't imagine agreeing to meet with someone and not knowing that they lived just doors away.
I have been screened by every lady I see, but none knew where i lived before we met (some do now). I have pleanty of references, I will give out other information, but never my address.
If I got your name and approximate age I can get your address in minutes of looking. All you need anymore to know almost anything about almost anybody is a bit of real information. Things like knowing someones registered phone number or name can get you what ever information you are seeking. Isn't the internet grand?
I have 20+ refs on multiple screening sites, and enough 1-on-1 references that I haven't given my full name to anyone in many years. No registered phone number. No place of business.
If the collection of references is not sufficient, I go elsewhere. Not in anger--a lady can request any information she wishes, I just choose to look for someone else if she wants something I am not comforatble giving out.
Does this let me see anyone I wish to? No. But then I can not have every car or cruise I want either.
but we know that isn't going to happen.
I have 30+ reviews that say I already do.
You have none. Zero. Not any.
30 > 0
When you have 30, come back and we can talk.
If the collection of references is not sufficient, I go elsewhere. Not in anger--a lady can request any information she wishes, I just choose to look for someone else if she wants something I am not comforatble giving out.
Does this let me see anyone I wish to? No. But then I can not have every car or cruise I want either.
The world doesn't revolve around your pussy. So what? One of your john's lives in your complex. You gonna freak out if you see one at the grocery store? Or at the post office? Seriously.
The world's not that big, when you think about it. And if you live, work, and play in the same city, you're bound to run into one or two sooner or later.
Don't know who you think you are, but give some of these guys a little credit. They might see you coming first, and hightail it the other direction. Know what I'm sayin'?
You're the one that checked his references in the firstplace, so you know more about his ass than he does your's.
Being sober and coherent must feel good for a change.
Not everyone lives in the desert where you may see the same scorpion twice.
I would imagine the providers and hobbyists in small town USA run into this problem at times.
Just didn't fucking lace it with 'fuck this' and 'fuck that' allover the fucking place.
This has got to be the first time I have ever seen you call a provider out, congratulations on your new found "huevos" rofl
But I'll admit, I don't call out a provider very often. Just sometimes you gots to do what you gots to do.
When you're moderated as much as I am, a lot of shit doesn't get posted. The boys are saving me from myself, basically.
BTW, don't think sweetnicole is gonna like what I told her back at the top of the thread if it goes thru. 
If the time and circumstances are right. I would not go out of my way to speak with her and I certainly would not say to her." Hi do you remember me I know you live at X" Just treat her like you would any other neighbor. Be polite and not nosey....
Shit. I don't talk with most of my neighbors now anyway. And I've seen some of them out front with their little snot factories for years.
You see a provider once, have a pleasant time, and she later contacts you and says, "I know where you live"...
how fuckin' creeped out would you be?
Would you think it was cute coincidence, or interesting or would you be trying really hard not to piss down your leg?
Quick question though...
how did you "later find out" that she does live in the same complex?
She may actually have good reason to be freaked out...
A friend which is a girl said that she had seen
her and knew she lived there.
I guess it was strange to learn we live in the
same complex. Not knowing who your neighbor is.
I do see your point. I do not want to freak her
out.
In fact I would be shocked if most of the ladies I have seen that screen don't know where I live.
One more thing I know most of the people in my neighbored and see many of them regularly. I guess I am strange.
I'm glad this came up first of all don't tell her
do you wan't to be a validated stalker,even
by accident.I my self am convinced my sexy
young neighbor three doors down on my block,
is an escort.She is beautiful and damn I would
love to see her,but I wouldn't want her or my
self to feel arkward after the fact.At first I thoght
she advertised under her real first name I told my
self never call her.Then I said maybe it was a girl
I tried to book in the past.Never with success I
new this young woman didn't use real photos but
had great reviews and I just wanted to see her to,
satisfy my own couriosity.I did set something up
once and after I got there she said she was having
problems it never went through I never thought this
until a few weeks or a month later may be the problem,
was that we were neighbors.I still wonder to this day
probably not but who knows.
If you should pass her sometime, in public, give her the same nod that you would give any gentle stranger. Never aknowledge in public.
By the same token, if you are correct & have spotted her in public... do not mention it to her. Not if you want to keep seeing her!
If you should happen to become Favs & more trust built up, she might bring it up. Ladies have every reason to be cautious about their security. Respect their space.
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If you tell her, she freaks out. If you don't tell her and she just happens to see you in the complex (it could happen right?) she freaks out. Seems to me somehow she needs to know your being there is legit. Living in the same complex it's just too easy to run into each other. Question is how to do it without causing a situation where you never get to explain. Quite a conundrum!
I can't even look at her.....she looks like the dark lord of fucking Mordor..... bitch has hateful vitriole running through her veins.
She got married again..... I don't know fucking how either. Husband is a nice Guy. She must suck the electroplating off his trailer hitch.
Goddamn she's ugly. I'd saw my arm off.
Lets trade.
His wife is, let's just say, I wouldn't fuck her with Hirogen's dick. And they have 2 kids, both mentally and developmentally fucked up. I think she was on PCP when she was pregnant both times. Short bus picks them up. Literally.
Anyway, sometimes I'd see him outside, my guess doing something constructive so he doesn't have to be inside. Fucker borrowed my snow shovel one winter and not only dug his driveway out, but mine also just so he had a reason not to go back in!
He has that look in his eye. Like 'please help me' when we talk. Then she comes out and I'm gone, 'Gotta walk the boys! Talk withya later!' lol!
Ah alreddy tole you it wuz no bigger than a below averidge clit! Thats why he acks to naughty 'n nasty 2 yew. Pleeze leeve him aloan oar isle send yew sum verry swampy panties by parcel post. They will rot ur eyeballz. Oops, gotta go! It's time for lock-down!
The drummer is pretty good.
run up to her and say..." Hey...I know you...remember me?"..Especially if she is with someone. Be sure to shout out her name...that will impress the hell out of her. For Gods sake dude...if you even have to pose the question is kinda disturbing. Forget you have ever seen the lady. Never...NEVER approach her in public. Some things are just common sense.
If so, she already knows that you are a neighbor, and I guess that didn't bother her or else she would not have let you make a date.
In any case, just avoid contact with her. There's no real up side to it, and plenty of down side.
If you pass her and she recognizes you and it seems appropriate, say hi like you would to any other acquaintance. Or if you don't want to know her, then blow her off like anyone else you've met. It's obviously not appropriate to stalk her or presume you know her just because of her job.
...just like any other acquaintance.
Seriously -- How hard is this, folks? It's just a job. We're all just people. No need to freak out over normal stuff.
This post is definitely evidence that things are different here than in Europe. There (at least where I hang out), it's just no big deal. I see working women all the time in supermarkets, on the street. If we know each other, we say hi just like any two people would. If we're friends, we chat and maybe arrange to meet later or whatever just like any two people would. If I see friends working in public, maybe I'll stop and we'll chat. But she's working. If some guy with 'the look' comes along, she'll just say something like 'Oh, wait. I have to work now.' Or something like that, as she swans out toward her mark. Normal people. Normal job. I once dated a brothel girl and used to hang out there all the time, chatting with the house mother, her husband, the other girls. All normal people. We'd talk about kids, food, etc. Normal stuff. In fact, I can't remember ever talking about sex, or their job really beyond mundane stuff -- scheduling, cleaning, etc.
I just treat the ladies I see as friends. I don't approach them on the street unless I know it is OK as some are trying to keep this part of there life secret and I respect that. But finding out you live near by should not be an issue. Outside of a sessions just be friends or acquaintances. Escorts are just like anyone else.
Now to the OP I would let her know where you live. If I was single I would do so by arranging an outcall at my place, but since I not an would never do a anther lady in my wifes bed I would bring up a eatery near where I live and you live not to far from there during the next session. That should let her know you live close to her with out shocking her that you know where she lives as some ladies are a bit paranoid about personal information. That way when you run into each other neither are shocked and she don't think your staling her.
I saw a provider. I was thinking
I have seen her somewhere before.
After the session, going home I
remembered seeing her in my complex.
Was she there on business or did she
live there? I found out later that she
did live in the complex. She was very sweet and nice, so she was a true girl-next-door.
Should I not tell her I know where she lives,
and just keep it business?
Or "Like a good neighbor Bentnail is there."
Couple of years ago I saw a posting on CL or BP. It drove me crazy, I knew I had seen her somewhere but not in her provider capacity. Sitting on my trucks tailgate in the driveway, having a beer, when I see the 'JILF', that's the jogger I'd like to....coming up the street. It was her. Led to a mutual benefiting arrangement for both of us.
Is she sweet, innocent, and blissfully unaware of how the world works with coincidences and so on?
Or is she sweet yet grown enough to know and understand that people live places; sometimes they are the same places as you?
Maybe ask to see her again, and feel her out to try and gauge her personality-type. If she is relatively normal and stable, throw it out there if she freaks out, guess what? plenty more out there. That IS why you chose this lifestyle, no?