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However, with the exception of providers who simply do not find men in general attractive, *sometimes* a provider WILL sleep with a man she finds attractive, has chemistry, is her "dream man" etc.
We've both seen providers post about this, so we know it isn't a made-up phenomenon. A while back I had to stop seeing a (not reviewed) provider for sessions (we still do lunch once in a while) because she had decided she was madly in love with me.
So on the provider side, while it certainly isn't always the case; there are definitely times where some providers anyway are seriously enjoying themselves and even develop emotional bonds to clients.
It doesn't have to always happen for the situations to be analogous. But I've seen enough to know that it sometimes happens.
On the hobby side -- how does this apply to a hobbyist like me who often doesn't even look at a provider's pictures before booking, and doesn't care about menu? I screen based on personality, intelligence and character.
I know folks like to think that every girl a hobbyist sees is his dream girl.
Certainly I know a provider or two who likes to think that she could steal any man who walked through her door away from his wife (if married) or induce him to marry her if she wished (if single); but the reality is that this would ultimately only apply to some hobbyists.
They aren't screening for marriage material -- they are mostly screening for hotness for sex. Men have many emotional needs, sex being only one. A lady has to hit 3-4 of his major emotional needs to seriously push his buttons long-term; and that is pretty hard to do as long as there is an envelope. (The envelope allows the guy to take everything the lady says with emotional import -- even if true -- with a grain of salt.)
In four years, so far I have only seen two women that could easily be "romantic interest" material. The others are really kick-ass "friend" material.
But -- again -- sometimes if there is genuine chemistry and stuff; and the provider starts meeting more needs than just sex and especially if the envelope goes away (something I never allow) -- yes, it can become a lot more than just sex.
So I still see the situations as equally emotionally risky in many cases. Not all. There is no hard and fast rule.
But I DO appreciate the differential you are talking about because you are right -- I never book women I find altogether unattractive. I have to find at least *something* attractive about them outside the physical to enjoy their company.
Still, both parties could come home with mono from a stranger they had kissed.
i have always enjoyed reading your answers and advice.
i will tell osp you mean business on this one. 
xoxoxoxo mto
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Maybe you and I should take young miss married_to_osp out for some drinks?
We could chat a little, talk about the weather or what not.
And I stress 'what not'!
Whattya think?
I'm really a nice guy. I just act this way to push buttons, and get some kicks out of it.
I promise I won't bite. Wait. I take that back. I do bite.
But you can certainly bite me back!
OSP has taken me(and back )to the Politics Board. He's isn't really into politics but is a very religious man. I've heard you're not. Me neither. I do respect everyone's right to religion though.
i have had to calm him down a time or two when things get hot here concerning issues of color. You don't want to be in the same room with him if he takes up as someones champion. I usually have to give him a nice backrub and cim to bring him back to normal.
he has spoken quite highly of you and your brother. Take care sir.