This has actually happens all the time.

I once, from one guy, received six reference requests from the same guy in a matter of an hour. I finally emailed each one of the ladies, "This guy has six ladies emailing me at once… just FYI. May be shopping around." Gave him a good reference, but left it up to them.

He also emailed, texted, called, left messages, etc. ten times for one lady I know going overboard about how he had me as a reference. (Umm… not something to brag about. That's what you're supposed to do dummy.) I finally told the guy not to use me anymore. I don't want to be giving the OK for a guy who is going to NCNS, though he hadn't for me. It was also getting weird as I was getting messages from the ladies telling me he wouldn't stop calling them. He'd never acted this way with me, but I couldn't say he was OK anymore after that kind of behavior.

Some guys just see a lot of gals, which is fine, but you'd think they would have plenty of ladies to use based on the amount of references they are asking for.

The only thing I can think of is… perhaps he knows you'll get back to the ladies in good timing? Some guys do give like every name they've seen too. Maybe the ladies, in that case, pick the ones they know will get back to them quickly.

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what i get out of it is, many of my long time client travel and they prefer to use someone who has been established in the Boston area  if they are traveling or if they visit with a traveling lady.
For my long time repeat clients I have no problem but I agree with the one guy I saw once 2yrs ago still dishing out my name as a refs.
I don't remember anything about him anymore accept he uses me as a refs on a reg basis.
I think they are using us also because we respond give a good refs and are well known.
I too have to cut them off and I tell them so. I ask them to use a recent refs that I will no longer give them one its been too long.

I've had a lot of guys always use me, because they knew I would respond in less than an hour, so I became the last minute reference for some of the last minute providers. I guess that's a good thing for them, but after six months, he needs to use a more recent reference. I've given one guy at least 50 over the years, and then finally had enough. You've seen 50 women since me, and not one of them can respond in a timely manner? Hmmm... how the hell did you get an appt. if that's the case?

You know the saying for every dollar bill etc...  
Anyway not a day goes by I receive from providers XYZ has given me your information can you vouch for him? I do contact the client...why giving out my information we haven't seen each other in years, I greatly appreciate you thinking of me, please use a current provider whom you've recently seen, answer is you have INTEGRITY my dear!  
My answer WOW I'm honored!
Caitlyn Kennedy YES I Feel You're Right People do Change.  
On that note: (I Will Take Your Advice)
Thank You

I provide my handle, and thus my reviews so they can check with whomever they like.  I also provide my White Lists, P411 and Date-Check account info including OKs.  It always seems to work.

I've had quite a few gents over the years who would continuously use me for a reference...even after I had been there reference for quite a few other well-known ladies....never made sense to me. In a couple of situations, the area the gent was in was remote and ladies rarely ever visited there, so I was the only "reviewed/verified" provider they had ever seen...so I understand that at first...but when the touring ladies started visiting their town, & I would give references...they would still try to use me 1-3 years down the line.  

I know some ladies are just more reference-friendly, and easier to deal with...hence, gents feel more comfortable re-using those same ladies, instead of the newer ladies they have seen....especially if they have established a friendly banter with the lady. This practice lead to me changing my reference guidelines to if it's been over 6 months (for one-time visits), or over a year (for repeat gents), then I can no longer give a reference.