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Feeding egos
DownBoy 1151 reads
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I have to wonder--escorts just must get a lot of ego boosting.  I mean, the man is all interested in her and is probably very complimentary, saying nice things about how pretty and sexy she is, etc.

When I'm with a especially attractive lady to me (which I mostly try to find), I have to hold back the compliments, worrying that I'll start sounding like a teenage boy (which a big part of me is...).  I suspect most men shower the lady with compliments, is that right?

Do you ladies get tired of it?  You gotta know that you're hot and men find you sexy.  Does that affect your self-confidence?

I'm betting there are few insecure escorts.

I have met *many* inescure escorts -

and I have had my ego fluffed by just about every escort I've seen - it's part of the repertoire of any savvy and successful escort. Hell - it's a natural expression of the seductive personality trait that so many escorts seem to share. It is a fantasy after all...

Yes I do compliment ladies who I find attractive. I find most women attractive in at least a few ways and I think they should feel appreciated. It is amazing to me how many ladies in this biz really *dont* feel as appreciated as they should....

and those who say otherwise are either lying to others or themselves.

If both the provider and the hobbyist get an ego boost from their association, I think that is just great.

Flattery Will get You Everywhere and Everything....lol...and besides what's wrong with acting and sounding like a teenage boy...because then I can act like a teenage girl....and ohhh those were the days...of doing it here and there and everywhere...hmmm I still do that ;)

I must say I have more confindence now in myself then I ever have( since escorting)

I do often wonder how true and sincere the compliments are..Funny that you ask this question. I find myself giving compliments to my friends and have had several say to me. "I bet you say that to all the boys"

No, As a matter of fact I don't say that to all the boys, I am not obligated to compliment you nor are you obligated to compliment me..

Please don't hold back your compliments and sweet gestures. WE/I LOVE it..

Especially since not 26 anymore and I see all these young girls coming into the biz.. I still feel 26 and still feel the need to compete with them.....

believe thay are actually enjoying this, and are not about to vomit at any second.
One can only imagine the amount of ego stroking someone like MP67 must require  LOL!  However, I'm sure if they don't he does anyway!

As for me, I have no ego.  My wife took that along with everything else!  :-(

Terps_Fan244 reads

I saw a young lady once who' in turn' later told me through further communication how she grew tired of being called beautiful, gorgeous etc....

I'm fairly certain she's over it by now. ;-)



BTW; your former too huh???? LOL

FilthyMcNasty253 reads

....he let's her know how lucky she is to be w/a hunk like him!!!

That's when a provider is really earning her $, poor thing.

I think you would be surprised at how wrong this statement is.  The ability to perform sex acts for money does not supersede any of the many human insecurities that most people experience when it comes to self-image.  Something as simple as the phone not ringing for a day, or even a few hours, as a gal waits at her in call can be a source for angst.  Ask any exotic dancer how she starts to feel after a few guys in a row turn her down for lap dances.  The insecurities exist but a pro knows how to overcome them and do the job anyway.

I have always found the ladies to be very appreciative of any compliments that I sent their way.  Of course, the ultimate compliment is to re-book.

It's a new situation each time for both of us, and the insecurities and ego boosts, at least I know for me, are there.

I usually make one compliment regarding her attractiveness when she first opens the door. Then, I let my behavior after that support that statement.

I find that the women I deal with have extremely well-functioning bullshit detectors.

It is important to me to maintain mutual credibility. Therefore, I don't give them gratuitous sweet-nothing type compliments.

What few compliments I render, then, really aren't compliments. They are, rather, my acknowledging a fact of reality.

If I say I find her jaw-droppingly beautiful, that's a fact. If I say I love what is between her ears or behind her sternum; it's a fact. If I say she is particularly skilled, very kind, etc. etc. etc.; it's a fact.

By sticking to "just the facts, Ma'am" I don't run afoul of the highly-tuned female BS-detector.

In addition, I think it is clear through the way I behave that I hold these women in high regard -- not just as women, but as people.

I know who I am, and what I look like. I do own a mirror, and I'm not exactly the "catch of the day". The ladies I see are women who wouldn't give me a second look on the street, and when I pay them a compliment, I mean every word of it. In turn, they do their best to stroke my fragile ego, and I lap it up like a puppy, every time.

I'm sure there are plenty of insecure escorts, as it is with most of us, but the ones I've met have nothing to feel insecure about, at least as far as appearance is concerned.

She has been a friend for a lot of years. One day we were discussing a very subtle birthmark she has. She said that a provider better not be sensitive about her flaws, because clients will be only too happy to point them out repeatedly. Sometimes it seem like the guys are examining every inch of the lady, cataloging every little blemish they encounter. What would cause a guy to behave this way?

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