....that saw me on here and ratted me out to my employer, causing me to lose my day job. REALLY ??  What is so fucked up in your life that you decided to play moral police? You clearly are on TER as I keep my hobby and personal life very separate.  What did you gain by this?  Is it because I was making you look bad since I was getting stellar accolades for my work there, blowing everyone out of the water with my numbers?  I was a threat to you? What kind of person fucks with someone's job ???  Unfuckingbelievable.  But I have been through worse, you don't know my strength and you will not kill my happiness.  I believe in Karma.

Yeah, I am shocked as shit.  It would never even cross my sweet heart or mind to do that to someone.  Thanks for your support !!!

Totally fucked is RIGHT !!!!!  And no, once they got my hobby alias, they made a big deal out of it.  I mean, the job wasn't even client-facing, but it's a big industry and I certainly won't be going back into that field ever again!  Thank gosh I have this, and I will kick azzzz in whatever else I choose to do next

SOMEBODY needs to take this BLEEP out to the field and beat the SHIT outta him !!

I am sorry to hear this happened to you.  That was a huge line the person crossed.  Good luck with everything.

Fortunately she was outed "to me" and I made it "Very fucking clear" that if anyone were to give her even the slightest bit of abuse over her past, they would have me to deal with. Obviously I already knew all about her past, in fact it's how I met her in the first place.

Sorry that happened but how did someone tie your identity here to your real identity and day job?  Was it a client that recognized you? Was it a co-worker that saw you on the website during work hours?  Did you post a pic of your face?  

But wow, that's got to suck. I'm not at a day job, I do my own "hobbies", but if I were outed even in this profession - though most people know and/or just don't want to know because it's gross thinking of me having sex with people lol - I would be pretty upset by the "evil" behind it. I would also worry about my family, and if I knew who the guy was, if I was worried about my family, even the slightest harassment of my family, I would have no problem giving up my personal reputation to bring this to the law. Again - if my family or friends were threatened.

First of all, this is terrible and I'm very sorry that it happened.

If anyone outed her to me, I would likely write them up for creating a hostile work place for her. Even if I haven't met her in the hobby, or even if I had never hobbied and my wife never done what she does, I would still do so. People need to mind there own business and if it isn't effecting her job performance nor increasing my liability, and the employee is of value I don't care what they do on their own time or in their past as long as it isn't harming anyone. To bad her boss was more busibody asshole then real man. So amen GaGambler.

Some of the escorts here just never ever learn.  You practically begged to be outed and when it happens it's some guys fault.

...employee for no reason; they just can't fire someone for a bad reason (race, gender, etc.)

I am very sorry that you had to deal with this BS.  I wonder what compels some people to be such jerks?  Hopefully karma haunts him/her big time!  

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but if her boss was a stand up guy he could have done what I did when this happened in my company. I promised to bounce out on his ass ANYONE who gave her a hard time over her past.  

My biggest regret was ever telling anyone of my true name/occupation. Turned into a real hazard. It sucks always looking in your rear view mirror wondering when some asshole will drop the dime. Especially some asshole you really trusted. I spent the first year out of the hobby wondering if he would make good on his threats then I hired an Attorney and showed his ass in Court. That asshole won't be bothering me again but if I had it to do over again, not one soul I met in this arena would have been able to pinpoint a hair on my ass.  

posting recognizable pics on your internet hooker ads is every bit as risky (and foolish) as handing out your personal information to every random hooker who asks for it. IF you have anything to lose that is. Some of us, both men and women don't give a fuck who knows what we are up to. I do believe there is definitely a double standard in play though. A man, especially the boss if he is unmarried, has a much better chance of living his life without fear of any of this biting him in the ass some day than does even a single woman whose family already knows she is a hooker.

I was interested in a company's justification for termination so I read up on a few case examples where an employees off-duty conduct (illegal or not) resulted in dismissal and arbitration decisions thereafter. It boils down to wether or not the conduct in question would be harmful to the company's image or revenue.  

That's the same backwards logic that says that rape victims bring it on themselves by dressing "slutty" and "leading men on". The OP is not the one to blame.  The asshole who got her fired out of spite is the ONLY one in the wrong here.

Well, besides the obvious that some people are just assholes?    It is that you are a positive can do type of person who is not dwelling on the negative.  Kudos to you and I hope you continue to kick some ass here and in whatever else you choose to do.

The asshole who actually did the firing is just as much to blame as the little weasel who ratted her out in the first place.

And an unprotected Twatter account, and probably a host of other social media that easily can be traced back to all of your personal life.  I won't waste my time doing so, but I'm sure there are plenty of folks, especially some BSC hookers who will be happy to create havoc in your personal life.

No social media at all, no unblurred photos (in fact, mine were chopped off just above the lips).  

There's enough risk for most escorts here without making it so easy for BSC people on both sides to easily create havoc.  Adding unblurred pics is among the dumbest things that anyone can do on the internet.  Those are there forever, in spite of some thinking they can delete this.  Add to that the access to social media for nefarious purposes is so incredibly easy today.

I actually agree with you 100%.

Consider this...  

Thanks darling....  I am definitely switching gears as far as civie work.  Sucks. But I gave that industry a lot of my life up to this point, and I don't fail, so their loss is someone else's gain!

Each of us has the power to make a decision.  In this world why anyone wants to put themselves at a higher risk for problems is beyond my understanding.

Spot on....

Your positiveness is amazing. I never understand people who are just out there to fuck with other people. Best wishes :-*

Stabbed in the back.

Thank you!!  Went to grab a bite to eat (and a couple margaritas!!) and came back to see all this!

It would be a very challenging endeavor nevertheless because, most people put their prejudices and judgment over the law most times.

Moron    lol  Thank you for sharing though!  NEXT ?!?!

and yes, I hate chickenshits who bow to what polite society tells them they should do and act where it comes to morality. As long as someone isn't hurting anyone, I don't care what they do. My only moral compass where it comes to sex is "consenting adults"  Now I definitely have my preferences, but that's only for my own benefit, I don't much care what others do as long as it doesn't adversely impact my life.

I never put my face out there.  And I would have never used social media as a platform to promote illegal activity.  It was so damn scary that day.  This fucker showed up in Court and dropped the Hooker bomb right before the Judge was about to adjourn.  Yep, he and his shit bag Attorney pulled out print outs of my web page that had been down for months and proceeded to tell the Judge I was a high dollar ho.  Judge replies Court back in in session tomorrow morning.  Had to go home and sleep on that.  Returned the next day with more fear inside than I'd ever felt in my life and do you know how fucking satisfying it was to sit on a stand while I was handed pics of a headless woman?  For those who thought my provider performance was off the charts, nothing compared to the performance on that stand.  I showed up looking like Mrs Doubtfire and denied every accusation thrown at me.  Not only did it go on record shit bag was not a credible witness, but the Judge said put on record I was determined not to be the woman in the pics.  Even more satisfying was the shit bag Attorney he brought with him was given a warning and told his accusations were unethical and not to ever come into a Courtroom pulling that again without hard core evidence.  Moral of the story....had my face been in those pics, I would have been looking at a laundry list of charges, and probably jail time for never paying a penny of taxes on the bank roll I earned.  So ladies, you don't have to get popped on prostitution to be facing a Judge one day.  Show up to Court with some dirt bag that knows you're a hooker; show your face and you're most likely gonna get fucked.  That experience was enough to send me into retirement FOREVER.  I thank my lucky stars I got in, and out unscathed.

next, you'll say it was "her fault she got raped - oughn't have worn a short skirt"

That sounds like some real bullshit. You will find out real fast who outed it you. Then you can file a defamation lawsuit against them. Remember what they say on this site is not real but a fantasy.

If your so well reviewed and respected WHY are you hiding behind an alias? You make the point of using an alias to deflect from the fact that you are using one. Give us some real evidence that this actually happened and that it was related to somebody on TER!!!!!!

If your personal business is illegal (and prostitution still is in most of this country) and it can be proven to be detremental to the company you work for, no I honey it isn't illegal to fire you.

Waiting for 2 more of my replies to get posted. Been 8 hours.... come on TER  I know you gals need a break.... but my first out of 5 comments after lunch went right through

Please don't give advice other than how to avoid BP stings. It's the only subject that you "might" have some expertise in. On any other subject, please STFU it's obvious you don't have a fucking clue.

either words or actions?

A wonderful lady from Montreal shared her story when we met few years ago.  She talked about this asshole client who was pissed off at her for whatever reason, so he reported her to ICE (Immigration and Customs Enforcement).  Shortly after, she became barred from entering the US.  She learned it the hard way.  During a planned trip to NYC, she was denied entry into the US and was essentially told why.  ICE have no authority to press any type of charges but has the ability to deny entry.  They even met with her separately in a separate private space where they confronted her with her own website!   The interesting thing is that (contrary to our patriotic moral government) Canadian government could care less!  She even file her own taxes in Canada with a job title of "personal entertainer".  Whatever that scum is doing right now, Karma will catch up with him - she believes.    

Has to separately be shown to be detrimental, even if it wasn't an at will state.  The employer would have to be a balls to the wall hooker supporter to take her side, and that would be big of him but a lot to expect.  

were large, organized groups who believe raping is righteous and if walking home was illegal.

By also reverse-outing herself?  Or by announcing to her clients that she might be in an angry or downer kind of mood for a bit?

So you took a disgruntled, former client to court for harassment or threatening to ruin your day career?  Slander?  Blackmail?   And his defense was that you're a former escort?  That's not much of a defense unless I'm missing something.  Also what kind of court did you take him to?  I assume this was a "small" civil matter.  Either way, it must've taken forever and a lot of guts by both people to even take this in front of a judge.  

Pretty much can enforce anything specified in the employee handbook, such as engaging in illegal activities.  And HR departments are pretty crafty about doing background checks.

THANK YOU !!!!! Yes, everything you said....

Simmer down buddy. Why are you so offended ? Yes I am real. But clearly you haven't caught the jist of things... I just lost a Fucking career. And it's because of being in the hobby.  Isn't this supposed to be the "safe haven" for me to vent ? Oh wait. That's right! This is for entertainment purposes only and we are all in a fantasy. ..

If you look at some of the posts you will see that ligation can be favorable in wrongful termination lawsuits.  Remember that opinions are like assholes everyone has one just like you.

and this is one of those times...I would like nothing better than to find the douchebag who outed you and give his ass a serious beating

I’m talking about those insecure types where there is no personal gain except to feed off of jealously, envy or a self-righteous belief. For example:

Why the hell wouldn't she use an alias on this thread?
This is just the type of post aliases were created for. I couldn't imagine her posting this under her provider name.

I so sorry that this happened to you. This dirtbag can't ditch the Karma debt collector forever.  And if you'd like help, I have a few ideas I'd love to share with you about how one might accelerate his demise.


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Stalking is a felony. I was already about 18 months into retired from this biz and otherwise throwing myself into a new phase and occupation. He was someone I trusted, therefore he knew my true identity.   When I retired from hooking, I just dropped off the map. For a little while still hooked up with a few faves, but he wasn't one of them. After a while the web crawlers picked me up; occupation, phone numbers, employer address you name it. When the threats and emails to me in the workplace ensued, I took legal action.  

Not paying taxes is the biggest axe a person can have over their heads.

Someone my mother knows outed me to my mother twice...once in 2008 and again in 2013...and she was throwing insults and said she would make my life a living hell...and that I need to remove every photo from the last 9 years off the Internet When I told her that's impossible, she said, "You shouldn't have done it in the first place."..then proceeded to stalk me and sent the Riverhead Police Department (NY) after me last year because I cut her off because of her antics.  

Holy crap.... WTF !!