The provider I'm seeing tells me about her other regular clients she sees. It's great insight to what these gals go through in this business. The stories and requests about her other regular clients is scary. I'm not sure why she tells me about her other clients. I guess she trusts me.
so I'm not look on suggestions on how to avoid this situation...
I was wondering if ladies talk about their other clients to other guys as well? There have been many times unprovoked by me, that the lady tells me about some of her clients. Nothing specific like whom has done what, but I generally here about the weird and bizzare, and down right scary things that clients have done
It ruins our time together. If I was a client, I'd wonder if she is going to talk about me to the next guy.
Negativity is not something a lady portrays. I have been blessed with the majority of great guys. The few who are not great, I just keep my mouth shut. Not something you need to know, even if you ask.
I was wondering if ladies talk about their other clients to other guys as well? There have been many times unprovoked by me, that the lady tells me about some of her clients. Nothing specific like whom has done what, but I generally here about the weird and bizzare, and down right scary things that clients have done.
I think most of the time it might be related to the conversation we are having, and they are only trying to relate with a situation from their life. Most of the time it's a piece of mundane information, these women aren't usually on the professional end of the provider scale. Sometimes I don't think they really separate this life with their real one, as if it's all one in the same.
I doubt if they talk about me, because I don't usually say a lot or do anything weird.
Why do we have to keep agreeing?
Sometimes not saying much can be uncomfortable, depends on the lady. I like at least a little conversation.
Being non-weird is a good thing, but even if you are acting weird, still doesn't need to be said. I just handle it with him 
I doubt if they talk about me, because I don't usually say a lot or do anything weird.
Dear Alex:
There should be a venue in which providers should be able to convene and discuss business. Perhaps they should have groups sponsored by organizations that are active in the commercial sex industry. That way they will have a modicum of privacy and security when they convene. This would be good for you guys because they would give you a venue to discuss those items of interest and they would insure your confidence as well.
I said I do not believe in talking about clients to others (which I agreed with him on)
He then said he isn't much on any sort of conversation during a meeting (about anything really) and I said that I enjoy at least some conversation to get to know a lil about each other and take away the nerves.
Not into discussing business with anyone, I think you very much misread what I said.
There should be a venue in which providers should be able to convene and discuss business. Perhaps they should have groups sponsored by organizations that are active in the commercial sex industry. That way they will have a modicum of privacy and security when they convene. This would be good for you guys because they would give you a venue to discuss those items of interest and they would insure your confidence as well.
I personally do not mix any of my experiences with clients. I like to keep my moments fresh and unique to the person I am entertaining.
Especially hokey players pay her a 1000 a hour well I was a cart pusher and she been doing this for 10 + years and was on on herion that she stuff up her nose and I got Into a fight with her pimp and she took off with me because all thay got was my bike the wip me 4 times with my backpack that had a bike lock in it. So nedless to say she did it for a pack a dew and a room she want a new outfit too but we got into at store and I was dripping to much blood she took off running when the store called the cops.
Taking off on a bike? REALLY? After 10 plus years she should know better.
You sure she didn't do it for Arbys, bc I love that stuff with all sorts of horsey and arby's sauce...... But I will pay for my own.
What's up with the blood, a lil vamp fantasy?
They let me get a hotel room but not get clothes at a fashion bug. Yes drugs are bad and they will make you do dumb things Like try to get with a guy on a bicycle.
You sure she didn't do it for Arbys, bc I love that stuff with all sorts of horsey and arby's sauce...... But I will pay for my own.
What's up with the blood, a lil vamp fantasy?
Could you understand one word he wrote? No wonder he does NOT write reviews. Who would understand them. And TER admin screens MY posts?
Go figure! Looks like they could do a little review of THEIR screening process and those they allow to screen.
Now it's become fun, sort of like doing a word puzzle
and he always WILL BE annoying.
Some trolls are entertaining, some even fun. He is nothing but annoying and a complete waste of bandwidth. For a while he was pretty much ignored and he sort of faded away, let's see if we can go back to those days.
Real hot air.
Not sure why I took him off, perhaps I was bored and wanted to do a word puzzle
Some trolls are entertaining, some even fun. He is nothing but annoying and a complete waste of bandwidth. For a while he was pretty much ignored and he sort of faded away, let's see if we can go back to those days.
Maybe I haven't been around long enough but I read some douchebags msg saying this somewhere (not calling you one. Just familiar with this dudes douchebag mentality) and I almost pissed my pants laughing. Like, can we please examine why one would feel the need to put someone on ignore for discussion board purposes!!! I can understand for some providers or harassment through PMs a little bit but for discussion board purposes? The dude I'm speaking about had the nerve to call who he was talking about a Retard. Idk. I just saw him as one sensitive ass dude to the point of being retarded himself. I stick with that analysis!
Hey, I got to be on several people's ignore list! Lol. If not directly, indirectly fo sho! Wish I knew how many directly. Wear that shit like a badge of honor. Lol.
well except for one's own ability to ignore other posters if one sees fit. I honestly can't imagine needing a feature like the ignore feature.
and yes, I am positive that some of the "ubersensitive" folks around here most certainly have me on ignore, I can't count the amount of sleep I have lost over it.
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and yes, I am positive that some of the "ubersensitive" folks around here most certainly have me on ignore, I can't count the amount of sleep I have lost over it.
... but if I know site member has me on ignore. I return the favor, just to be an ass.
the definition of "cisgender," mtndew formulated this wonderfully concise & droll explanation that also was a sly jab at the ole IQ: "means you happy the way you came out of you mommy".
I never said I couldn't understand it, just that I would never use such a ridiculous term to describe "normal"
and I think I "might" have expressed my slight displeasure with the PC Police, and I am sure I did so with all my usual tact and sensitivity. lol
I realize my mastery of the English language leaves a bit to be desired.
Could you define macho for me ?
Machismo is not a strength I see in your words .
I must digress, I could be completely off base.
I am sure you know a Hillbilly like me has a limited vocabulary
Please explain your definition of Machomen and the color of the favorite dress you wear.
and I think I "might" have expressed my slight displeasure with the PC Police, and I am sure I did so with all my usual tact and sensitivity. lol
in the process come off like the Village People.
GaG, pulls that look off very well.
I think his keeper took away his computer for awhile.
Some trolls are entertaining, some even fun. He is nothing but annoying and a complete waste of bandwidth. For a while he was pretty much ignored and he sort of faded away, let's see if we can go back to those days.
I don't get annoyed about it. If it takes too long to get the gist I simply just move on to the next post. I take it on as a challenge actually, to see if I can completely understand his entire post. I know I will never receive any awards for my writing, but he makes me look like a literary genius. I have to wonder if he writes that poorly through his own intention, or he is actually that illiterate.
Only question is whether this will be published on its own or in your upcoming anthology ('Tweets From The Philosopher King'). Either way, I'm buying the autographed cloth bound edition.
If I am having OTC time with a dude, it is what it is. Psst. you guys talk a hell of a lot more than we do.
I was wondering if ladies talk about their other clients to other guys as well? There have been many times unprovoked by me, that the lady tells me about some of her clients. Nothing specific like whom has done what, but I generally here about the weird and bizzare, and down right scary things that clients have done.
It's always my first time doing this, don't ladies love p4p virgins?
... were mentioned for the negative stuff, like when a client tried to get the provider to go beyond her comfort zone and menu, or when there was a major hygiene problem. But a few times my atf has told me about light-hearted things that happened with a client, and mentioned his handle. And sometimes we'll discuss the goings-on from TER land, but that stuff is public knowledge.
What is of greater concern is when a guy interrogates a hooker for personal information like real names of other clients, their professions, home addresses, email addresses, or--probably most dangerous--about the names of other people in their lives like family, SO's, or any kind of professional relationships that might have been divulged during pillow talk.
Even good BCD stuff shouldn't be discussed wit identifiable information. Handles are identifiable information. Tell all stories but keep identities out of them, unless they are to keep others safe from bad stuff like a lady telling another lady of a pushy client or something.
Providers will sometimes tell me things about some of their clients that they would never dare tell a guy. Cracks me up. Girl talk can be fun, and as long as it's after our session and I'm getting ready to head out anyways, I don't mind it at all
The provider I'm seeing tells me about her other regular clients she sees. It's great insight to what these gals go through in this business. The stories and requests about her other regular clients is scary. I'm not sure why she tells me about her other clients. I guess she trusts me.
She was Telling me about One of Her clients, a Pathetic man, Who tries To win her affection By buying her Diapers And Milk and giving her Rides. He also Thinks he Is the Only one She Gives BBFS to.
But nothing specific. I know that some guys pay to grill the girls about other clients who they've been reviewed by. Which is a good reason to be careful about who you review.
I've been in this same category with a (now regular) provider. She thanked me for going the extra distance cleaning up, dressing nice ( even if casual) and making her feel special. She says to me " ...some guys out there don't give a sh*t"
D.
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Even if they are about me. My wife and does one of my favorites tells me about her strange clients it is kind of funny other times she must vent a little about the stupid things some men do. But never do the give handles or names or anything identifying so the guys are still anonymous and there secrets are safe.
One story my wife tells is of a regular of hers who pays her to ignore him and do what ever. He does't even have her strip. He just watches her and has no interaction except sometimes and only sometimes he rubs one out. Who was harmed by that tell told to me? The guys fetish is only know to him and her and my wife got to vent about a guy she finds a bit off but pays real well for what he is looking for. Plus I got a bit of a laugh.
Discretion is important. don't get me wrong. Guys are paying for that. Just everyone knows what this is and as long as no traceable information is given I do not see the harm. Everyone needs to unload the stresses at work form time to time and telling about the good and the funny makes the job that much more fun. Sometimes I don't think guys get how isolating this can be for the ladies especially if they aren't out to their real world friends and family. Who else can they talk to about work besides a few trusted regulars?
But there clearly is a line that can't be crossed. Guys are paying for discretion. The client must not be identified in these hobby adventure stories unless it is a blacklisting to warn others of bad clients. I have an issue I do not want public. Now I don't mind it if a lady I seen make generic nameless unidentifying comments about it. Key part of the is unidentifying. If my problem became totally out it would be hard for me.
One lady lacked discretion and told my tell to one of her clients using a handle from anther site. This guy know me. We help each other screen by sharing information about girls we seen. He told me about her indiscretion. He had a laugh at my expense. Now I wonder who else she has told. I am out. There are direct links to my hobby life and my real life beyond just my life. Her stories can hurt me as she used my handle to tell them. And what the fuck am I supposed to do about it?
Anyway if the stories are untraceable back to the guy what the harm. If they are well she needs to be avoided like the plague. I don't want my issues in the sack to be fully public knowledge. I am sorry if that makes me pathetic. I own that at times I am just that pathetic.
Note there is a few exceptions about the no names rule. One being blacklists for bad clients. Ladies must be warned about them. The other is references. A lady needs to know what a guy is like and needs before she is in a room alone with him. OK if she is a victim of a crime she can in her judgement go to the police. If I client hurts a lady he has zero right to expect her to not expose him to the world. Same is also true in reverse. If someone is causing real harm both sides need to be able to name names.
A provider talked about a client who's a member of this forum. She said that he wasn't to be trusted (we were talking about some drama concerning her on the regional forum). She also said his real first name is *****. I don't give a shit about him, but I didn't like that she brought all that up.
I'm not sure if these young women know about review sites. I'm sure some do, but I don't think they all do.
Others including me put out handles. I answered you question and expanded on the topic others did as well. Once posted the tread gains its own life and isn't necessarily about you situation and your post but every person who responded posts and ideas as well.
Yeah? I was just setting the record straight.
Be considerate and polite if these gals talk about another client or anything else happening in their lives. These gals are like anyone else. They need to talk to someone about things going on in their lives. So we shouldn't get mad or be critical towards them. Just listen and be polite when they talk to you. It doesn't hurt to be considerate and polite to these gals. Even though they have an unusual way of making a living.
I usually make the mistake of saying something practical/logical, and almost parental like. Only to be followed up by their awkward silence, as if I'm judging them based on their choices. Like they know I'm right, but they rather live in their state of delusion
I think it just isn't a good practice to be in. I want the time I spend with a client to be our own and memories we both will have. It shouldn't be tainted with other experiences with other people on either end. Just my 2 cents.