maybe you could give her a bigtime rash.

Maybe she doesn't like it.  Maybe she doesn't want you seeing/tasting what she keeps down there.

Find one that likes it.  Ideally, find one that will pay YOU.

Did she give a reason, or are we to imply her reason was she was afraid you would transmit something to her?

Did her reviews specifically state that she allows DATY? If they did they write your review and let others know that this may not always be on the menu.

If not then who cares why, she didn't want it..it could have been for any number of reasons some of which may have nothing to do with you personally. If DATY is important to you then in the future make sure you do your research and choose a provider than allows that.....many do and many really enjoy it...those are the providers you should be seeking out rather than worrying about the one that didn't.

long answer:  maybe she doesn't like DATY.  Lots of providers don't, or at least don't allow it.  Unless there are reliable reviews saying that she's had DATY from lots of others, there's no real cause for concern.

Okay TMI but sometimes if I have a particularily "enthusiastic" licker as a client before I'm just too damn sensitive to allow that much DATY. More often than not I will cut it short if someone has whiskers, that HURTS!!! It's one thing for a man who has whiskers to be gentle and tender with that MOST tender of spots but some just don't know the DATY ettiquette. It's not a rough plank in need of sanding gentlemen!

Alyssa

It's hard to have sympathy without a reason . . .

You didn't give us one. Did you ask her? If not, then you really cannot complain. Perhaps your hygiene wasn't up to par, perhaps she felt itchy and thought she might be getting a yeast infection and didn't want to spoil your good time. Perhaps she doesn't like moustaches or beards (although I don't know if you have either). Perhaps she is afraid of letting you get too close to her. Who knows? Just ask her.

Hugs,
Ciara

Her quirk might not just be about std's-some women don't kiss but allow CIM or swallow.

While there is a risk of herpes from cold sores, that could be easily transmitted simply from touching your mouth with your fingers then the swimsuit area. So maybe she has more complex reasons, like myself. After being in this biz for a few years some of us find we have to draw some more symbolic lines for ourselves just to keep our identities intact and keep something sacred, just because.

Personally, I think that I'm able to give more of myself in other ways and be more receptive since erecting more intimacy boundaries. Just a personal quirk, and I can't speak for the other ladies in this minority.

If you see enough providers, you're going to find one that refuses to let you DATY. Yes, it's frustrating, and for me it seriously gets in the way of my arousal. But its not something you can force or demand.

Chalk it up to experience and move on.

She might also be near menstruation or just finishing and not want to discuss that.  Many guys are squeemish about talking about periods.
 In any event its her call. I have met some women who accept DATY but don't want fingers in their vagina.  I try to read the VIP section of a review to make sure this has happened with others as insurance information.
 I also try to mention that I get really turned on by DATY at some point when we start foolin around.
 I always figure if it doesn't happen then that is probably the least worst thing, given the alternatives.
B

Maybe roses? or perhaps a gift card to Borders? EOM

-- Modified on 6/5/2007 7:24:39 AM

Re: A provider refused

May be she just doesnt enjoy it. I for one love it

First, not all providers like DATY.  It's not a safe practice for any lady in the biz.  The human mouth contains alot of nasty germs, and the vagina (Ooo, sorry for the bluntness) is a wonderful breeding ground for many pathogens.  A warm, moist environment is perfect for the growth of bacteria.  Younger providers have the added protection of estrogen, which actually does provide a bit of protection against infection that is not necessarily an STD.  As a MILF, I don't allow DATY anymore because not only does it do little to please me, but I worry about the germs I can get from it.
Some providers, myself included, enjoy being in control and giving our clients enjoyment.  That is where we get off and what it is all about.  The time is about you, not me.  And I must admit, I get terrific pleasure from being in control.  
Not every female wants to be massaged, rubbed, licked or pleased manually.  Many, myself included, prefer giving pleasure and watching the excitment.  Nothing wrong with it, just a preference!  So ask the provider, "what do you like?"  Be prepared to accept the answer.  If she likes getting you off, then accept it and enjoy that.  If you can't feel satisfied unless you are doing something active with her in which your direct stimulation gets her off, then she is not the right provider for you.  Not all women enjoy DATY or get off on it.  But regardless, it's really not a safe practice for ladies who have multiple partners.  But there isn't a thing wrong with the lady who enjoys being in control and doing the giving!!    

-- Modified on 6/6/2007 6:17:42 PM

i loathe this activity, and make sure to tell most clients before the first meeting that it's something i really dislike. however it's not a limit, and some will do it anyway, i guess getting caught up in the heat of the moment. i would never refuse anyone daty...after all, it's not hurting me, i just don't like it. however there are some providers who will only do or allow things that they like, and will refuse the things they dislike. perhaps for future reference you could spend a little more time in the getting to know you process so that for your sake you can prevent coming across another provider who doesn't care for daty.

... so guys like you could do your due diligence and avoid providers who won't let you munch carp'