a wonderful time with a provider. Telling her  would probably put the person at ease to enjoy and not be so stressed which could lead to an even better time. Also if this person is on some medication or taking something such as viagra I think it best to let her know.
Also she may have experience in this type situation and may be insight ful about what to do.
Kisses & Licks.......
Mara of San Diego

-- Modified on 2/27/2003 3:53:47 PM

I have the problem stated. I broke my back in 1972 in an auto racing accident and there is nerve damage. I only very rarely ejaculate except by masturbation. (This is not all bad, I have a lot of sensation and can hit peaks -- I'm not sure if they are orgasms or not -- and not lose my erection since I'm not ejaculating.)

I make my appointments by e-mail and always include mention of my problem in giving the lady my general physical description before a first date. (I am actually more concerned that she might have problems with the fact that I am short, balding, and 65 years old). Knowing about the ejaculation problem in advance most ladies seem to take it in stride. In the session I do try to express in my body language and vocalizations that I am enjoying myself and feeling what she is doing.

I did have one lady refuse to see me after the third date without stating a reason. More than a year later she sent me an e-mail confessing that it made her feel inadequate not being able to make me ejaculate and she had stopped seeing me because of that even though I had told her in advance that I probably wouldn't ejaculate.

Could I just fake an ejaculation. Sure, at least in intercourse with a condom she wouldn't know. At my advanced age I only ejaculate a few drops even when I do ejaculate. However, when you are getting a BBBJ you can't fake an ejaculation -- not if she has a sense of taste.

If you have a problem that she is going to discover anyway, I think it is far better to bring it up in advance so that she is prepared. I feel that approach has worked well for me. Even in the case where the lady couldn't cope I think the problem would have been worse if I had not told her in advance.



-- Modified on 2/27/2003 4:51:35 PM

I have had men who couldn't finish. I felt really bad because I really give it my all. But, I realized some just can't, others it might be the medication that they are on, stress, nervousness.

I think the best thing to do is don't say anthing. Treat him like all of your clients. That way, it wouldn't be as awkward.

Shaye

I think you should inform the lady at the beginning of the session, in passing. Just so that she knows it has nothing to do with her personnally, that's not a problem for you and that you're going to enjoy the time with her anyhow. And if this time you can finish, then she'll really be happy.

I think that you should be open and honest.  If you came to see me and didn't finish, I would be feel guilty because I would think that I had a good time, but you didn't....

Just my .02

Jaclyn