But. How does one achieve great chemistry to begin with? Has to start somewhere. You don't just magically stumble onto your ATF.

It does take two to tango. The men have their role to play, as do the ladies. We each have responsibilities. If each of us enters into each date and session with positive attitudes, and practicing good hygiene, then both parties are already halfway home.

But it's not enough. You're meeting one another for the first time. It's like going on a blind date and working backwards. Cause let's be honest. The overwhelming majority of men are in this hobby for one reason and one reason alone: SEX. How the fuck are two people who have never met supposed to create any sexual chemistry if they're meeting for the very first time?

And that's where the rubber meets the road. It's actually quite easy to take good care of oneself (even if too many people fail to do so). It's easy to brush and floss. Easy to shave and shower. Easy to look presentable. But we are human, and we have many expectations. Not everyone will be attracted to everyone else. I don't care if a woman is a professional. If she's really good at her job, she'll fake it till she makes it. But she can't be into every single guy she meets. And from our perspective, while we may find many of the women we meet to be physically attractive, it doesn't mean that we will connect with them on a personal level once we finally meet them in person.

So many variables. So many things to consider. There is no one magic bullet answer to this query. Ultimately it depends how each of the parties involved winds up getting along from the moment they first meet, and as the sessions progresses. But if everything goes swimmingly, and everyone involved is genuinely enjoying each others company, then you might be well on your way to having something special. In my experience, the real fireworks get set off on the second date. Because now the relationship has been established. Even if it was by all accounts a phenomenal first session, the second is now officially familiar territory. Maybe more casual conversation occurs. Getting a little personal. Sharing some laughs. Feeling more connected with this person you've only met one other time. Before you know it, you're on your way to having yourself a true ATF who you wanna see as often as possible.

The best session I ever had was with a Latina lady named Pamela Villareal.  She made me feel like I was legit her man.  There was no raw passionate going at it, only soft, sensual love making.  She showed genuine affection, and seemed turned on by the fact that I was turned on by her.  The BJ wasn't the best, not even Top 10, but everything just flowed right.  After we finished Round 1, she cleaned me up, laid in my arms, stared into my eyes, we kissed, caressed one another, and that lead into Round 2.  I guess before her I hadn't had that in a session because it felt uneasy in a weird way.  But damn, that session has stuck in my brain for almost 5 years now.