The more she likes her job, the longer she'll stay in the biz...which means many wonderful years with the ladies.
In civvie life, I always strive to make her cum first. In this life she also cums first (a little bit)...when she sees the money...after that, it's my turn.
There is an old saying that all good business people live by : the customer always cums first
My motto is: You can come while I'm there or you can come after I'm gone.
Everyone's responsible for their own orgasm.
Having had several real-life relationships with providers, many eschew (I know Conan likes that word) orgasms at work, especially higher-volume girls who may be seeing 4 or 5 customers in a day. Just like for us, O's make you tired, and they can't start out with the first customer with three O's like the guy claims and still be awake when number 5 shows up at their door.
Lower-volume girls are a different story. A girl seeing only one or two customers a day can have an O with each of them and still be at her best for both of them. Many that don't have outside SO's are just using us for their own sexual pleasure. In reality, THEY should be paying US, or at least it should be a "push" on the money. Lol
No hooker is going to "leave unhappy" if she is being paid well and the guy is clean and well behaved.
I think a lot of providers secretly or in some cases not so secretly hate it when a guy becomes obsessed about making her cum first. Instead of simply concentrating on their own needs. These women are perfectly capable of getting all their sex needs met without having to have all their clients be sex Gods.
Even in civvie relationships I don't worry about her cumming first every single time, Sometimes she will cum first, sometimes I will, and yes sometimes one or the other of us won't cum at all.
Now I will agree that giving oral first does sometimes pay it's own rewards as quite often it gets the girl into the session before you simply stick your dick into her, not to mention as long as you do it right you are guaranteed to be met with a nice wet, juicy vajayjay when you do get to the main course, but I don't really worry about who comes first.
depends on the vibe
I've met quite a lot of women that love to fuck as much as I do.
In a p4p scene though it doesn't bother me if she doesn't cum at all!
I don't care who cums when. I know I'm going to; all the better if I can help to get her there as well. Putting pressure on her to cum can actually backfire. Better to let what happens, happen.
This is the best advice so far.
My ATF (and, yes, I’ve only had the one so far after all these years), took about 4 visits before she said: “I teach you to make me come”. She had *very* specific requirements and a rather long ramp up before she could come. And she could only do it once a day.
After that I always gave her notice well in advance so we could schedule an appointment when she could get her “cookies”, too. It was well worth it. She was always high energy. But after she came there was gasping, shouting, lamps almost getting knocked over, dancing around the room, carefree laughter and just all around wild fun.
Agree with cdl, ladies that see a handful plus of men in a good day would rather focus on what the guy wants to get him off and make him happy so he’ll come back as a regular. Have been with some that if they’re getting close from oral will push me away. I respect their wishes. Have been with a few utr ladies and such that may have five or fewer appointments a month. With them it’s more like an irl gfe experience – she’d like you to make her O and if she’s close would like you to keep going. Yes, I’ve had a few of the utr ladies grab my hair/ears to keep me down there while she gets her O but the reward is worth it!
Most of the providers I've seen fake it, some are just better at it than others.
I do know there is a move that all women who have cum in real life do on me. Its when they are riding me cowgirl, and its the same move in civvie life as well as pay for play - and the reaction is the same. That is the only time I know for sure that the provider came. She basically ignores my rhythm (and me) and takes over and uses my cock as her persona dildo.
I love me some DATY and I will do it as long as the lady lets me and as long as my lips, tongue and jaw hold out. But of the roughly 250 providers I've seen over the decades, I can think of 4 or 5 who had an O. A real one. There was the girl who showed me exactly how to rub her clit and who had a beautiful orgasm when I got it right. There were a couple of duos where one lady got the other off--nothing beats a woman for getting another woman off. There was one who got herself off while I watched. And then there was the stripper I went down on in the VIP room who left a puddle after 10 minutes of TLC. All these guys whose reviews say the lady had 3, 4 or 5 Os during a one hour session are seriously fucking gullible. Or they've simply never seen a female orgasm outside of pornhub.com.
I also love DATY and have an SB who seems to not care to if I get her off or not. I have told her that it helps with my experience. So she always has an O (I'm sure completely fake) but it does enhanced my experience. The last time I saw her I didn't even try to worry about her getting off; I just enjoyed myself. She never even asked or cared about about me getting her off. Pretty sure you are spot on about this.
Don't think i've seen provider reply here yet (and for sure not by a tgirl provider 
Like many of those that i share the same plumbing with, after an O it takes an effort to stay motivated. For that reason i don't begin a sesh with my O in mind.
That said, frequently my O is a specific turn on a client is seeking during our sesh. And there's no "pretending" in the tgirl world. lolz
So when a client desires my getting off (or for that matter there happens to be a "pent up" desire on my end), i try hold off on it until the conclusion of the sesh is in sight. "Simultaneous" can be more an ultimate goal than an adjective in my world.
Happy hobbying,
Kacy TGirl
ps. if you're tgirl admirer that is in the "gotta see her get off" camp, make sure she knows that when scheduling or unlike Daffy Duck, you might run into a true "no more bullets" sitch
