said a gal about a client she recently had; though she added:  "...not physically, but mentally...."

She went on to say how mental exhaustion is a lot more of a downer than physical exhaustion.  Apparently this guy was into macho head games, etc.

So, it got me wondering:  Do you gals in general find the mental wear and tear to be worse overall than the physical wear and tear?

I try to be low impact on both fronts.  After all, it is not for nothing that I've got a car with 240,000 miles on it and it runs like a top.  

8o)

I feel like the mental exhaustion is a lot worse. You can always just rest and lay down from
Physical wear and tear but mental wear and tear is when we have to take a couple days off. Screening and dealing with entitled egos gets annoying and tiring after awhile.

I would think that most of the prostitutes wouldn't have a problem dealing with the johns.

And those with their PhD's in psych have a built in client base.

I guess you are paying for a psych session.

Is this covered under your medical insurance?

What kind of car do you have?lol

I've never had a client who was difficult mentally, all my clients were very warm fun people who treated me like a queen.
I've only had one client wear me out physically. That was partially my fault cause I didn't say no I've had enough.

 

 

Year make and model please...

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Very few! I've had a few that tried to wear me out mentally but they usually get fucked off pretty quick.  Can't do the mental exhausting shit.  
I think I have sent a few out my door pretty worn out though Ahhhh. ....fun times
And yeah Mrfisher,  what kind of car is that? I thought I was one of the few that actually drove a car til the wheels fell off! Lol
XOXO,  
TL

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no talk, all traction... Someday I might let you  
do me until I almost need a full body cast ... xo

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It would be my pleasure!  I will need to get mine too though  
PLEASE do wear me out!!  
Hope you are feeling better babe
xoxo,
TL

I can agree with that.  

A physically strenuous appointment would be analogous to a normal workout routine. It can be tiring... but, it doesn't necessarily make you FEEL tired out unless you really overdo it. Dealing with mentally exhausting clients, on the other hand, makes me feel more like I've been walking slowly for two days straight with no rest and no sleep. It takes a while to recover from that kind of tired.  

For instance, I had a client I saw a few times very early in the AM for 2 hours. He was challenging physically, in that he required non-stop, prolonged action with a lot of position changes. He also liked me to surprise him with new things (toys, outfits, role play, etc). Some of those things were on the edge of what I'm comfortable doing. So the session was strenuous. But, he wasn't mentally draining... once he left, the session was done.  

On the other hand, last weekend I spent 30 hours with a client. He's not demanding physically (only likes missionary and comes rather quickly). But I'm still recovering from the mental strain.  

We were literally around each other 24/7 (I was never more than 10 feet away from him, except when I went to the bathroom). There was one time when he had to make a few phone calls, and I went into another room to read a book. I thought I'd get an hour to myself. But he came in and sat next to me, and wanted to touch me as he talked and emailed.... We slept together (his arm over me). When I ate breakfast in the morning (after breakfast in bed), he kissed me even while I was chewing. As we packed, he'd come over and pinch my ass when I bent over to put something in my suitcase. I'd taken public trans; he waited with me at the station (even wanted to make out) and then texted me after the bus pulled away. He's been emailing me over the past few days with urgent personal questions.  

(Awful thing was, he'd paid a deposit but withheld the rest, in order to "test" me to see if "we" were a possibility - alas, we are not. So I only got paid for ~6 hours)

When I got home that night, I was too tired to even talk to anybody. A really nice client did contact me for a same-day appt, but I knew I'd be a shadow of my normal self. I was in bed at 6:30PM and slept late the next morning. I still don't quite feel like myself. Just feel really beat down, and don't want to be around anybody. And haven't been going about my work with the usual energy.

mean what you say?  Or do you simply post to find out if anyone will question your poor manners and negativity?

I had a 3 hour booking recently with a guy whose sole hobby appeared to be the purchase, painting, and playing fake battles with, teeny tin soldiers. I'm not even kidding. 2 of the 3 hours he spent telling me about various historic battles, the terrain, the uniforms, the outcomes, where he buys tin soldiers from, the paint he uses, his friends who do it.............
That long of feigning interest in something so utterly dull was so tiring I got home and drank half a bottle of wine almost from out of the bottle. It was NOT worth the money

I completely agree that head games are one way a person can become exhausted.  However, some of us are emotional sponges.  I for one, am very invested in certain gentlemen on a deeper level than just "business."  So their ups and downs are to a degree, my ups and downs.  It's awesome at times because let's say a gentleman gets a promotion or decides to find more rewarding work, I'm ecstatic for him and smiling all day because that person shared their joy with me.  What's hard about being so receptive to the emotional energy a gentleman brings to the room is when he is  sad or stressed.  Some guys share what's bothering them and other guys don't talk about it but behave very differently during their session. The conversation or the shift in energy can put a damper on the rest of the day.  I definitely try my best to help anyone who isn't in a great space mentally and emotionally by providing a comfortable environment, warm
demeanor and sometimes allowing a bit of extra time for my guest to shift gears and enjoy some GFE.

I'm sure that there are guys on the board who have been a shoulder to cry on or a kind ear to a lady and felt a bit tired after being super supportive.  To me, that's not a bad thing.  It's a human thing.  We are in a hobby that is based on mutually beneficial exchanges.  It's not just money for service. It's understanding for understanding and kindness for kindness etc.

That's Fish's ride!

Steph xoxo

How has it survived so many Boston winters

I would be a mentaly exhausting BF, I'm not into macho head games, but if you've read any of my oosts you known what I'm talking about.

i don't know, but whatever kind it is, it must have big steering problems...

around and around in circles!!

about historical battles.. and sharing all what I know myself.

I possibly would start with story about Ekaterina I ( Peter Great Wife - and in which bottle just a soldier captured this simple woman and how she made it up to  be Russian Queen ..

Then will go to Elizabeth of Russia and  Peter III passion to play with little tin soldiers and how s Sophie Friederike Auguste von Anhalt-Zerbst-Dornburg become North Star  - Nick name for Ekaterina Great .. by the way for those who knows Russian - please take look at this movie - amazing !!
 http://youtu.be/BFy1MG1adMk
 Sorry
 there is translation in English !!!! What a nice surprise .. to be able watch this movie and in English!!

 Any way .. may be I am confused .. but seems you found this date  be .. draining? Oh .. for me when when there is sharing what other people like NEVER be drawing ..  
 even if it be about. Hmmm.. let s me think what American men like to talk mostly?
 About sports? So American women.. true one American , not as I am new American just enlighten me what you are talking about with your men?

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And has mrfisher reviewed his car's service Provider? 10/10?

Get on a plane and disappear for a few days...but only after you pull the plug on that guy...

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didn't help him much IRL. It was a childish regression from reality, and likely a manifestation of an unhealthy degree of homesickness... he idealized everything to do with his native Holstein, especially German soldiers.  

Apparently, he played with the toys in bed every night, rather than engage with his pretty young wife (who remained a virgin until she eventually took a lover)

Maybe a bit less complicated and messy than the Republican primaries.

But anyhoo, I'm easy when it comes to conversations:  I just love to have you sit on my lap and we can talk about the first thing that pops up.

8o

This is the erotic review, not Click and Clack.

My PM is blowing up wanting to know how I kept this car in so good shape.

To answer your question, I keep the car garaged and run an exhaust fan for an hour after parking it so that the moist air from the car's cooling off isn't trapped in the garage.  Alas, no system is perfect, and the car's body is now in an advanced state of decay, for which I will shortly have to replace the vehicle, I hope with another Buick

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I would enjoy having you wear me out

The "test" situation sounds horrid - of course you were a shadow of yourself afterwards.

It sounds like the "tester" is one client you can do without.  Even if the $$$ is valuable, it probably doesn't outweigh the spiritual (for lack of a better word) cost to yourself.  Only you can know the answer to this question - and it may change over time.  Be honest and gentle with your one-and-only self!

xo - MM

and really, what would you all be thinking if you saw me tooling around in some slacker car

He never paid me the rest of what I was owed, so we're no longer provider/client. We're not anything else either.

I've known this dude for several years. He is/was a sweet guy and extremely likeable. We've done several longer dates. I never had to talk about money with him. He'd just send me a deposit, then pay me some more when he saw me. It was always more than enough (not over-the-top generous, but he treated me well).  

I assumed it would be the same this time. He gave me a deposit, without me even asking.  

But, this time, he told me that he'd paid me the deposit (about equivalent to my 6-hour rate) because it was "only fair." That was confusing to me. Then, he said that he didn't want to lead me on to think that he was 'available', because he was still married. But, that he was thinking of leaving his wife. And, he also said that one of the things disrupting his marriage was the fact that he had other romantic interests - meaning me. I was horrified. He asked my advice, saying he wasn't sure he still wanted to be married. I got the definite feeling that he wanted to see if there was any possibility that I'd want to be with him if he were single... I told him I was seeing somebody.  

I wasn't sure at that point if I was getting paid or not. As it turned out, he forwarded me an additional $300 for the room, and that was it.  

That, or some variant of that, has happened a few times, always with trusted regulars. I feel that if they don't intend to pay me, they just won't. (One guy even told me he had no money on New Year's Eve in a casino). I mean, was I supposed to march him down to the ATM at high heel-point? And, since we had never discussed a price, I had no recourse to ask for more.  

At first, I felt really badly. Now, I feel a mixture of badly and mad...and, like a sucker. He likely knew that he'd detained me in that hotel room for a whole entire day + a few hours on false pretenses... and, he also knew that, if I turned out not to return his feelings, I wouldn't be unpleasant about demanding money etc.

It was kind of torturous, actually. I keep coming back to the fact of how disrespectful it was to my time and my life in general. He kept me with him all day like I was his little puppy, a lap companion... all I did was lounge around in panties, cuddling, making out, getting my ass pinched, and taking care of his physical needs. And I had classwork and civvie work that I was putting aside!! (I couldn't even get any reading done)  

If I knew the amount of $$ ahead of time, I'd have told him I had to leave at around 10-11ish (which would have still been 14-15 hours, since he came at 8AM. Since he ended up paying less than $2k that's a bargain)

Yep.  The times I remember getting screwed (so to speak) are fortunately few, but all with clients I'd seen several times or more.  

The most memorable incident involved a guy I had stopped seeing because he clearly wanted more than a paid relationship... Then came one evening when I was restless and he reached out and I said okay.  It happened to be the night of a heavy snowstorm and seeing him involved taking a car service about 45 minutes into the hinterlands of Queens.  Once I was there (and the car service was gone) he says "I hope it's okay, but I only want to play for an hour".  In those days I had a two hour minimum - but I had just invested 1.5 hours and $100 in round trip car service, so I smiled through my teeth and said okay.  Long story short, I was there well over two hours, he worked me HARD, and when it came time to leave I had to sit with him for another 1/2 hour waiting for the car service to get back down his unplowed street.

Like you, I felt bad and mad...and like a sucker.  Humiliated, really (as I'm sure he intended).  But it was a lesson learned.  And it didn't sour me on sexwork in any way.

although only briefly...  as she was getting ready for our session and i stood in the doorway watching her (nothing so hot as watching a naked woman apply make up) i casually asked where her pet bird was.

she started to cry, and told me that it died recently, and she felt responsible for leaving it alone, even though she thought she left enough food and water for it.

(sidebar: she probably didn't poor thing).

i was touched that she felt close enough to me to share her feelings.  i hugged her and held her and told her it was just the way of the world.

and luckily she was able to get back into provider mode eventually and we had a good time.

Watch the movie it is amazing movie.

I am not sure if I want to agree.. sometime there are circumstances  as may be .. corrupted politicians and mobs running election? Any way none of my business.  
I am also easy in conversations and did learn hard  way that politics can destroy relationship  
 So no politics for me .. just love

Visited with a "provider" who had me so mentally drained by the time I actually saw her, that I needed to sedate myself with copious amounts of weed and booze.

It sort of helped temporarily, but the next day I just felt mentally drained AND hung over. Not a good combo.

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