Hi,

.. and understanding, will give the client the Impetus to me more confident in the civvie world!! Thank goodness for those sweet souls!! IMHO!!

One of the many reasons is I have no self confidence and and have been overweight since I was about 12 years old.

I have never dated or anything. I recently started a diet which has been going well and I have lost 20 lb in just the last month but I do not want to weight the 1+ year it would take me to trim down to a good size.

I am a big guy at 6 ft tall and around 300 lb. Are most providers picky about these types of things or would most be ok with 1) a guy my size and 2) a virgin?

I am not taking anyone's virginity as a hooker. It's too much of a big thing to go paying for IMO, but you're a guy so you may not care lol. Kudos on the weight loss, and you just need to surround yourself with people who support you love. Sex is not going to improve your self-esteem, especially when it is paid for...that comes from within.

Hi,

... or If a guy is a virgin!! I'm talking from experience!! I once tipped the scale @ 400 LBS, & ugly as sin!! I still saw providers who were kind, compassionate & understanding!! I'm below 300 #'s right now, but still ugly & I still see pretty women!! Good luck to you, do some research & you'll be as lucky as I am!!

CF2

I have seen a couple virgins while in the business, and both were older than you. I did find that by stroking their "man-ego" physically and verbally did boost their confidence. One of them is engaged now and the other has a beautiful girlfriend! Good Luck!!!

is my first advice.and to be frank,you'll be surprise how many providers will be more than glad to see you as long as your,clean&well groomed,respectful and not acting like an arrogant a-hole.these are usually much more important then looks or weight,in my conversations with providers.
good luck

If you got that green, or that money, that is what counts most. Believe me, girls have seen an array of ugly ass dudes in their escorting careers, and your no exception. Think your overweight? She probably saw someone that's double your size, and has a cock the size of mini wiener. The virgin part, that's a bit tricky. You might want to invest in a high quality provider that will accommodate you. A well reviewed provider will take her time, make you feel at ease, and will guide you through the process. Or, you can just book one of those BackPage providers, get something that is not too expensive, and experiment with those girls to get the gist of things.

Just remember this, they are there for you, and you are not there for them. However, it does help the experience if you groom downstairs, take a shower before the session, and be a gentleman. Since your a virgin, don't start to develop emotional attachments to these providers because they are not your girlfriend. They may provide a girlfriend experience. But, don't get the two things mix up. When you hobby, make sure its fun. When the hobby becomes problematic, then its time to reevaluate the situation. Have fun!

Thanks sweetie

Hi,

I would suggest the OP stick w/ a well reviewed woman!!

Though I am actually trying to hook my friend up so he is not a virgin in college. Just a lonely and horny guy who is not good with civi girls.

Yes kudos to your weight loss. It will be very hard, but if you can trim your weight all the way down and start wearing clothes that fit and look great, to a physical point it may help you improve your self-esteem. *Trust me it does. Seems like your concerns are coming from your physical point of view.

I personally don't put emphasis on my "first time." In fact, it was a horrible experience anyways, so having a rather mind fucking experience as your first time may open up things for you in the future. 2 cents.

I think in general, interactions with providers may help you be more comfortable around women and be able to talk to them easily. With civi girls, the fear of her not being interested to you hinders your progress or risk taking approach, but with providers who are guaranteed to be interested in you, it may be a great practice experience.

Like others said, looks don't matter to providers as long as you are clean and well mannered.

Either way, look luck man.

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Speaking for myself I do not have any problem with a gent who is tall and weighs more.
Many gents I have seen are your size or a little bigger than you and we always have an awesome time.
I have also seen a virgin before who was 28 I had no issue with him what better way to lose your virginity than in sin city!When you feel confidence within yourself it radiates and people can pick up on it.
I love a tall man especially since I love to wear heels.
Have a great mind blowing time here and don't overthink.

Here's the truth. SOME providers truly won't care what you look like. SOME providers will care, but you will never know it. SOME providers will be disgusted, still fuck you, and the experience won't be very good for you at all. SOME providers will slam the door in your face. We're still dealing with human beings here and everyone is different. Money does matter the most, but you want to have a fantastic time too.

The key is to do your research and find the right lady. Also, be honest about your weight upfront so there's no misunderstandings when you arrive. You don't need to tell the lady you're a virgin either. I'm sure you've seen a porn or two, so it's not like you don't know what to do.

Spoken like the veteran that you are

Or are you just the newbie that started here a month ago?

Gotta stay consistent pal

Hello,

This is rare that I would agree with London, but in this post, I do happen to agree on this one.

Serpius

tells you nice things, is about as naive as thiking every bartender who talks to you is attracted to you lol. It is always easier to talk to and feel confident when someone "has" to talk to you, than it is in real life. Half the women here would not give many guys the time of day in a bar...they do here because there is money involved. For me, I would never take a guy's virginity if he paid me..for free, yes. Don't get any ideas!

I used to run with a buddy, about 6' and 325....but had a personality and heart twice as big as that....he never hurt for attention from the ladies.

As the provider above said, it's all about how you feel about yourself....personality and charm win everytime. And don't give up hope if you have neither now. You can change how you feel about yourself...losing weight is a good start...keep it up, dude...you'll get there.

Good luck.

It really is a shame how anti social our society is becoming.

People don't want to talk on the phone or interact.  We just want to text and email.

Instead of seeing our friends, we Facebook and Twitter.

Boys are afraid to talk to girls.  High schoolers are on this board talking about hiring escorts to go with them to prom.

Now, a 27 year old virgin is considering seeing an escort as his first.  What's the problem with talking to real girls???  You act like girls will laugh in your face or be rude to you.  Don't you realize that there are real girls out in the world, who want nothing more than to meet a nice, respectful, faithful man?  Sure, if you go up to the hottest girl in the bar, she'll diss you, but go for the 6, not the 9.  I guarantee you, the 6 will be thrilled that you're hitting on her.

Have some confidence!  If you don't, pretend you do!  You will feel so much better about yourself by getting a real girl to take your virginity.  Don't take the easy way out.  Seek the services of escorts AFTER you've learned a little something about women.  It will be a FAR better experience for both yourself and the escort.

We don't want clumsy virgins or the socially inept.  It's actually not all about money.  Even escorts have standards.  Have some dignity and do it the right way.

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I would go for it.  Find a provider that sparks your interest and contact her and just tell her the truth.  Be up front that your a virgin and nervous.  Also tell her your a little overweight and she probably wont care as long as your clean.  Any good provider will put you at ease.

Good Luck

I'll buy you a drink. But I will have to use my "alternative" ID since I am not old enough. LOL

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But there's no substitute for real relationships with real women who are not being paid to be nice to them.

A lot of guys skip these vital relationships in their youth and they are really doing themselves a disservice.  

An escort should enhance your existing life, not be part of the development of it.  

If I were the original poster, I would tell my father, brother, or some older male that I was interested in losing my virginity.  He will take you out, support you, and share his life experience with you.  He will help you do it the old fashioned way.

Youll get a girl who actually digs you and youll have that foundation to then build future relationships with women.  Now THAT'S the way to build real confidence.

I hope you're not holding your breath

With the lone review and no discussions whatsoever of seeing any gals...I highly doubt that our little "preppie" will be visiting you or anyone else anytime soon.

But if you can wait till he either gets his Mom to increase his allowance...

Or the unemployment checks start showing up with larger denominations..

Then maybe he'll actually see some ladies?

because a provider he pays is nice that the hot civie girl at the bar has to be? Ummm NO! What happens when certain guys go back into the real world thinking every woman is going to treat them like the hooker he paid did? It is a false sense of confidence...period. It might allow him to approach someone, but it is not going to change how they react thus leading him right back to the easy way to get approval..from hookers. Makes no sense to me. If I only based my self worth on what you guys thought of me here, I would have killed myself long ago..what matters is how the people I love treat me and how I feel about myself.

EOM

bring to the table.....that's how you love.
Or....you can just fuck yourself and be done with it since your da bomb....after all, you are looking for a mirror image of yourself.
Or....your still very upon and selfish to want someone to cater to your interest only...who knows..ha

lookingforH, boy can I relate. I was a virgin until age 26 (shy and nerdy). I lost it to a woman I wasn't all that attracted to and was dating out of desperation. We got along well and she was a great person, but I felt no passion for her. My first time is, to date, the greatest disappointment of my life. We dated a long time, I had a few other relationships of varying length (including one beautiful and fun woman I was fixed up with and started falling for who ultimately felt no passion for me), and that brings us to the present day. I truly couldn't get a date to save my life. I see providers because if I didn't I would feel so rejected, miserably lonely, horny, and desperate for female company that I would have no chance of a second date even if I managed to get a first.

Given your situation, I'm going to say it doesn't really matter whether you lose your virginity to a provider or a civvie girl. The provider will make your penis feel good, the civvie girl will give you some much needed validation (but you might not be all that attracted to her), and both will give you just a tiny bit more confidence. Don't see a provider purely for confidence though, do it to lose some desperation. Desperation is a turn off, and at your age never having had sex you're probably reeking of desperation. Find a compassionate provider who can be patient about being a teacher too. With some bedroom knowledge that'll help your confidence as well.

Good luck, I hope life turns around for you. I hear positive thinking is good for boosting your self-esteem, but it's so much easier said than done.

Then it was just a mercy fuck from a friend who was not really into it or me and let me know. Hell My one attempt to pay at that age ended with me being robbed. Thing is I did meat this amazing woman who first taught me how to get other women into my bed, than decided I was the man for her and she wanted to be in my bed. Give it time, and be confident at least on the out side. Make them laugh. Don't try to hard and it will happen. If this big fat ugly man got himself laid you can too. Have faith in yourself.

P.S. You likely will want to limit masturbating to once or twice a week and cut the porn out all together, until it does happen. Pron and masturbating programs your body to require unrealistic stimulation. You do want to be able to go when you finally get to go, don't you? I learned the hard way (I mean the "soft" way) why porn and excessive masturbation needs to be avoided when not getting any. Lets just say things just wont work as they should. Don't be a scoed the first time out.

in particularly states in the ad she is known and loves to make a new comer feel welcomed, . can"t recall name. I guess she is known for it or somthing to this in the ad, I had seen. She was a red head and over 40, nice pictures on datecheck. Youl have to do research and see newbie friendly or just inquire, . getting an add or profile up on bodyspace will help you. You can also find out meal plans and ideas.  on the body space site, its helpful to track your progress, set goals, they havea fitness planner at books stores . I lost 52 lbs past 3 years myself, { quitting cigarettes got me i went up 5 jean sizes in 12 months} I feel you it can be frustrating.   some like me i def like the experienced hobbyists. more. i wouldnt ness say no to it, but it have to be an empty email and no other options, i d def rather the older ones. and if you choose what you like too things do go smoothly. Try waiting and focus on your health and getting healthy and watch alot porn, I dont think seeing escorts , to start off with, . Is such a good call. 300 lb for 6 ft isnt really terrible. either. 6 ft is tall. its a hard call. cuz i can see you wantn to just do it. and be done with it.                       maybe try the ones that specifically mention they are good at first timers, i dont think they meant virgins i think they meant first time appts guys, but maybe itll end up helpin you feel better and heloin in personal life, tough call. but good luck with the battle at your end, and dedicate yourself to researching preparing your own food if you want to get into weight loss.  i know it sounds crazy but if tryn to monitor the fat loss or get some where you need to be, you may consider a scale, especially if your trying to learn how to have an off button when it comes to your eating habits. as opssoed to just eating n eating montioring the cal intake works fast.........but it is painful shrinkn the stomach. and hard and frustrating. once there itll be easier.