So I have what used to be known as a mistress… hell if I know or care what the current politically correct term is I pay her a weekly / monthly retainer for her “companionship”… typically a couple days a week. Plus extras, such as her shopping trips or mini vacations for her or her dog’s vet bills…. What I get / expect in return should be obvious, and usually is no issue. Except every once in a while, she goes way over budget. I’m cool with this cause I figure it means reciprocity .. I get to go “over budget” (so to speak) as well and bang her ass a couple extra days. Usually she’s ok with it, but once in a while she starts complaining that I only want her for sex.. she wants a more ‘lasting relationship’. I have to fight saying the obvious…. “Yeah, duh! WTF do you think I’m paying you for?” Any thoughts?
A mistress is a woman with whom you’re having a continuing extramarital sexual relationship. Your relationship is for money—what is often called a “long term arrangement” or “sugar baby” arrangement.
But it appears she wants something more… maybe she wants to be your actual mistress; maybe more than that. If you don’t want more than a long-term paid arrangement for sex… danger, Will Robinson!
Mistress to Mrs. Time to find a new Mistress. Be careful about giving in. There's a reason why Monogamy and Monotony sound almost the same. Lol
FOOD FOR THOUGHT: In any other kind of contract you have in your personal or business life, are you okay with the other party unilaterally telling you one day that they are not happy with the deal they agreed to and they want to renegotiate? If you leased a car for $500 a month, how would you feel if the outfit you leased it from were to say, "We're not happy with the $500 a month anymore, and even though the car is older now and has a lot a miles on it, we want you to up the payment to $600 a month. Age and mileage usually warrant a discount, not an increase, if you get my drift. Let your big head do the thinking.
I 2nd this, sounds more like an SB than mistress. That said I've made ATFs authorized users on my Amex in the past. And made the deal it's a straight up trade. She spends 5x her hourly rate and I get 5 hrs. I don't like ambiguity in professional relationships. But every time I did it I always ended up forgiving quite a bit of spending. The reason I stopped doing this is because I prefer to give gifts myself and see the reaction (even if it's my assistant buying it lol)
1. You never actually defined/agreed on the terms of the relationship before getting started. 2. One (or both of you) has now changed what they want from the relationship.
Mistress is a pretty wide definition. It does imply a longer term arrangement -- and that you are married to someone else, otherwise she'd just be a girlfriend. But whether for money or love is covered.
Just about every story of a man and woman comes down to it. When it comes to sex, men tend to be very transactional: Here's some money, now give me some sex. Women are, for want of a better word, more nuanced. Here's the sex, but some part of you has to "love" me. There never will be a final answer to this dilemma. So. soldier on.
I was single when one of my employees came onto me about three years after I arrived to manage the department. She was married to a dude 20 years her senior.
These were the days before viagra. I suspect he had ED and she was in search of a hard cock. We fucked over two years. He got suspicious, she quit and moved away. That was over 30 years ago.
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