I find that many of us face the "how to rate" conundrum. For some, it may be easy. For me, being honest, it's only easy when the provider is near perfect. But more often than not, there may be some flaws. What makes it hard is these are people, not some product you can find on Amazon or eBay. They have real emotions and can be impacted by what we write.

 
I find myself not wanting to be overly critical, especially if she is nice and delivers in the service department. I cannot so easily be as tough with a provider's review as I can with my thoughts on a TV or restaurant. The less I emotionally connect with a lady, the easier it is. But if we connect emotionally, I'm now more concerned with how I might make her feel.

 
I once met a lovely young lady who had returned to providing after a 6 month hiatus. Her reviews were top notch. But one reviewer slammed her. In the services department, she was amazing. But in the looks department, she's what I would consider a niche that isn't for everyone. I can see how some would think she's beautiful. Yet, others would be very disappointed. And, once a client gives off that energy, I'm not certain her services can save her every time. Anyway, this review really hurt her and she became depressed over it and this is why she took time away. It was a reminder that our reviews can have this impact on providers.

 
I know some may say this career isn't for everybody and if she cannot take it then maybe it's not for her. I can't disagree more. I say this because one of the most disappointing things we encounter is providers that feel mechanical. When they lack emotion it's hard to enjoy the session. But when they feel real and emotionally connect with us, the sky is the limit. And when I meet one like this, I might inflate her a little bit.

 
I do my best to be honest. I don't just give out high marks. But I also don't follow TER's definitions. I openly participate in the rate inflation that exists in TER. And, I do so more with ladies that show they deserve it. And, while this might not be the popular feeling amongst everyone, I do this unapologetically.

 
That said, let the berating begin!

so the honest thing to do is say whether or not she looks like her photos, or looks better, or not so much.

I agree! You chose her based on her photos. Others will see her photos. If she looks exactly like her photos, or better in your opinion, you should rate her very high. If she looks older or fatter or whatever standard made you feel she was not represented honestly, then you should ding the rating.  There is no universal standard for beauty. What is a 10 to one guy is a 4 to another. So you cannot really assign a number to describe someone. At best, or worst, you can just give your opinion. It is more fair to rate her based on how she represented herself and if she delivered.

There is no point in defending my support of your post.  There will be those who adopt a 'Client Code' mentality (write critical reviews to benefit clients, regardless of the impact on the provider).  That said, In general, I believe in the 'Client Code'.  Reviews should be written to benefit potential clients.  But, they can be honest, without being hurtful.

 
There are a lot of ways to judge the quality of a session.  It is not all 'how much did she fulfill my every sexual fantasy'.  The session can be judged on appearance, expressiveness, engagement, connection, sincerity, etc.

 
I try to honest, while focusing on the positive aspects (assuming there are some).  I'll mention the things that occurred that I really liked.  And, omit things that did not happen.  And, if there are things that didn't occur in a session, or were less then stellar, the review that I write which does not praise those aspects, will provide a signal to prospective clients as well.

That’s fine. It’s the average of ratings that matters. People are always going to rate based on “how they felt” in the session(s). Your feelings for her deserves a score too. So I don’t see any harm unless you are just making things up. 8->9 is fine. 7–> 9 or 10 is not okay IM0

The only feelings im concerned about when posting hooker reviews on a fuck board is the gents that are slapping down their hard earned cash.  

My reviews are unbiased and extremely honest. Beaver stinks? Breath stinks? Ass stinks? Poor bbbj? Poor sex? Provider had a tick? Provider has tourettes and makes Brando impressions when you stick it in her ass?  

The reader is gonna know. Honest reviews are the best. Only a big pussy wouldnt write an honest review because they cant handle their emotions.

The TER review form includes a field that asks whether the photos are accurate. If we follow your suggestion, once a reviewer has answered that yes, I guess it's up to each player to decide whether the lady in the photo looks like a 10, 9, 8, etc. I kinda like that idea.

Of course, there are some ladies posting photos that don't show their faces. That would require the reviewer to make that judgment, and for the rest of us to determine whether her or his judgment is similar to ours.

I concur!

If I were to receive a 6 or lower score, I wouldn't see that client again and I'd assume the feeling is mutual. There is almost no reason for very low score reviews unless the provider is engaging in egregious levels of misrepresentation or scamming.

Typically girls who aren’t good looking charge less. So if she’s 6 on looks but great service and the guy scores her 6/9 there’s a problem with that? Maybe he’s picking her because she’s cheaper than what a 9 is charging but he wants the great service.

Too many girls get over rated in looks because of this attitude

That plays out if she recognizes she’s not a 9/10 and charges less. Sometimes, a 6 thinks she’s a 9/10 and charges higher rates. If you don’t agree with her, she’s pissed and done with you. That said, if she truly is a 9/10, but someone gives her a 6, I can understand it. Doesn’t mean he’s lying because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But I can see it not being a match.

 
What makes this even more complicated, ladies create this expectation, and like lambs one guy after another fall in line and give her high marks in looks. Then, the lady truly believes she’s model hot. And when a guy comes along and gives her the mark she deserves based off how he feels she looks, she blames him.

 
When I first moved to LA, this one providers ads caught my eye. Her reviews put her in the top 10 for LA too. I read through numerous ones and decided I must see her. When she opened the door, she was at least ten years older and put on 30-40 pounds. I should have walked away but instead I stayed. She was extremely nice, but I couldn’t get past the lack of attraction. I didn’t finish and left early. This was 6-7 years ago. She’s still using the same pictures.

This guy "slammed" her but booked her anyways? Were her pictures not available? Were they so heavily edited that the real thing was not anywhere close?  

I have a "type" and if she doesn't fit that I will simply move onto the next.  

And this post did make me feel a little sad because I don't want someone being so insulted that they have to step away from something they presumably enjoyed doing otherwise.

You've [indirectly] agreed with me and validated my line of thinking about what a "6" communicates. As a client, you believe that provider is undesirable.

 
Based on your experience with the provider you mentioned, you wish you left as soon as you arrived. So I'm thinking if you barely could get through the session and you wish you never met her, you would not go out of your way to see her again.

 
If it were the case that you were to write a review and let her and dozens of strangers on the internet know how you feel about her, she might decide she doesn't want to meet you again. You don't want to see her again, she doesn't want to see you again. Hence, the feeling is mutual.

I've given some of my atfs six in looks and I've seen dozens of times. So no, your assumption is false.

 
The ter scale goes from 2 to 10, and there is a reason to use all of it. Just because you don't see it as a seller doesn't make it so for customers. You know, people who actually write reviews.

And those reviews aren't for you. They are for other mongers.

It's so bizarre how an an ubiased and honest review is somehow turned into some "client code".

 
It's not some client code. Reviews are fundamentally for clients by clients.

Its not some kind of mutual I scratch my back you scratch mine type of arrangement.

I pay money for product or service and then I write about my experience, comparing and contrasting it to other experiences and assigning a grade to it. Taking into account things such as value.  

That's what a review is.

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He hits, this is just a faulty argument.
All sellers are people.

Restaurant owners are people. Lawyers are people. Doctors are people. Hot dog vendors are people. Janitors are people.

 
And yet they are doing a job consumers pay for and are graded and evaluated for how well they are doing their job.

If a janitor can't clean toilets well, would they be upset about bad reviews? My guess is everyone is upset about about reviews. So what? You will have toilets with shit on it because someone might be feeling bad because "it's people"?

Take your example. You admit the provider in question had kinda mid looks at best (if I misunderstood please correct).

 
So what the fuck is the problem here? Most service queens I've seen didn't have great looks. Thats part of a reason why their menu was so wide open!

Hell even I as a service lover could not go to some providers with great service just because they were way too old and flabby. And I don't have super high standards for appearance.

 
Again what exactly is the problem here? If you try to frame reviews as to not hurt the sellers feelings, you inherently hurt the prospective buyers who are relying on your review. Because what they're reading is not the real feedback, but rather a sterile, castrated version of the actual experience.

Again, if you think this is what you want to do, sure but in this case why not post a disclaimer inside the review, that you don't want to hurt the providers feelings. At least that way, the prospective client and our fellow monger who is reading the review can at least understand that your review is curated in a way to appear less critical.

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Companions (allegedly) getting "over rated" in looks is not my problem and it's not a dynamic that I care about in the least out of all the things to be worried about in 2026. I shared a practice that I would implement for myself based on what makes sense for me. Centering myself in how I navigate this work is my right. Exercising my agency is not something I need to ask permission for despite speculations about how what I choose to do may or may not affect people who I don't know and don't owe anything to.

 
All that said, YOU are responsible for you. So it's on you to determine if or why you'd want to leave a provider a 6/9 review. I can't provide a blanket answer to whether you or any other client doing so is a problem. What I can speak to is my specific perception. I can also theorize about how other people might perceive clients doing so. In fact, another client has already replied to you to share an instance about a "6" provider who he wished he walked out on because he regretted the session and didn't find it to be a joyful or pleasurable experience.

 
The impression I have is that a good amount of low score dispensing "hobbyists" are predominantly one time only bookers. So for the most part, I'm imagining a scenario where someone meets a provider, and afterwards he's notifying other review forum members about his time with a provider he thinks is at least not attractive based on his standards or possibly even ugly. In this scenario, it seems less likely that he would even want to see her again and perfectly reasonable that she wouldn't want to see him again after reading about all the reasons he thinks she is at best unattractive and at worst... worse than unattractive.  

 
In the rarer moments where a client who leaves a very critical review of a provider wants to go back and see that provider again, I've seen visceral examples of the dynamic devolving and I maintain that I'm personally not interested in getting caught up in a predicament like that. So my point still stands. And in fact, I'll push even further and say that anyone who perceives me in that manner and would broadcast those opinions, definitely don't try to book me a second time and kindly don't try to book me the first time. Don't reach out to me at all. Do leave me alone.

"I've given some of my atfs six in looks and I've seen dozens of times. So no, your assumption is false."

 
For many a score of 6 is low for either looks or performance and likely is both a no-repeat and a gets-filtered-out in a search for many or even most on TER. So you're claiming your assessment define what the general "market" or "consensus" take on a score is at least as false an assumption as the other.

 
Would be really interesting to see results if TER ran a poll on the question "Is a score of 6 a low score in your view?" or something similar. Or many they could look at the saved searches (if people use them much) and see what the average minimums people use are set to.

 
I always thought reviews were at least as much about providing feed back to the provider/merchant/supplier as they were for other customers.

and ask if THEY think six is a high score?  There are two things at odds here, what TER decided in the very beginning for scoring definitions 25 years ago, and what the practical aspect of what CURRENT providers consider them to be.  Even massage providers that are limited to a max of 7 do not consider anything below 7 as being a good score.  Go ahead, see more providers and ask around.  Your eyes may be opened to the current reality of scoring.  That's why I only use 4 of the 10 numbers . . . . .

 
10 = Top 10% of all providers I have seen
9   =  Above average
8   =  Average
7   =  Below average

 
Why, so you say?  Ask ten guys here what the quantitative difference is between a 5 and a 6, a 3 and a 4, or a 6 and a 7, in terms of looks or service and you will be unlikely to get the same explanation twice out of ten.  I've done this in the past and it convinced me that, regardless of what TER said during the founding of their review system, putting a narrative to the numbers is an individual exercise and there is no consistent standard for reviewers as a whole.  However, just about everyone will agree on what constitutes above average, average, or below average in either looks or service, so that's why I use numbers that reflect only these terms in my OWN reviews.  

If I give you a 6, we are not a match. I have no issues with you feeling it’s mutual.

If I give a 6, I’m waiving a red flag to everyone else to not see the provider. And, the details in my review will reflect it. And when I am looking, if I see 6s, I’m likely not seeing that provider. In most cases, I’m not seeing anyone with averages below 8.5. That said, on the occasion I see a kgirl, I will go lower. I have found kgirl reviewers to be tougher.

And I said, no, that assumption is false.

If there exists even one person who will repeat with providers they've given a six to, then her assumption is false. It is a bad assumption. It's that simple.

I couldn't give a giant rats ass what sellers think a low score is.

Just like I couldn't give a single shit about what sellers think reviews are for.  

Reviews are for me and my brethren to help to compare and contrast products and services me and my brethren (and sistern, hi lopaw!) consume.  

 
Why would I want biased sellers to tell me what they think a good grade is? I don't care about what any seller thinks of my review, my review isn't for them. Their opinion literally doesn't matter.

People who are graded, as long as they are graded fairly and consistently by the same grader, have no say in what they get.  

I don't care what they think a good grade is or what they "deserve" (imagine thinking you are entitled to a certain grade ,the gall!!)

Reviews are for us, not them.

They can think all they want, newsflash - their thoughts are irrelevant. We are the ones giving grades. It is literally the only voice we as mongers have to express our opinions about product/service and share wit with others. A six is not a low grade in my book, in fact it is average to slightly above average.  

 
Oh and I've given you the list of how grades of ter scale differ,with very detailed explanation and you simply ignored it. Because you couldn't address it.

 
On the other hand, you've equated "bashing" the girl to giving her a low score, so you're obviously biased. No one is bashing anyone. If a student can't solve a math problem, I am not bashing him/her by giving them a failing grade. I am simply giving a grade that matches their performance in my book.

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If that's how you feel and feel comfortable saying this why not put this on your website to let people know and not just on this forum with only seven smurfs left to read it?

What do you say? I mean yeah sure it's probably against ter policy but if that's how you feel, I think you should stick to your guns.

 
Also, may I note that I have some extremely positive reviews for some of my atfs where I gave them a low look score, but gave  them extremely high performance scores. Because that's exactly what they are. Their looks are average at best but they are crazy good in bed.

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