Personally I think its advertised by women who have truly no REAL clue, training or idea what to do...
I think sadly they use it as a ploy..
I do know there are truly a handful of sincere tantra goddesses. but you have to to find them.
here is what I know
achieving the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus solely on the grand finale...
You have to also pay attention to the "space". Soft fabrics, think cozy yet sensual?
with little clutter, music, lighting, candles, and scents.
Tantra is a lot about breathing, and trying to feel the energies. A lot like meditation...
Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. so most will have you and her Straddle each others lap and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner.
ALOT of tantra they want you both eyes open and taking each other in while you have sex. It is not as easy as you might think! IT is very intimate when you do this.
and yes it is a slow and take your time type of experience lol
A leisurely, slow build helps men control longevity and piques women’s arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.
I think each experience is different BUT I do think it is TRULY hard to reach the levels possible in tantra with a guy you have seen once, or have no connection with... this is just my opinion though
Tantra fundamentally is pleasuring each other in erogenous area of your body. It is not finger up your ass or other holes. It is always done in a very relaxed environment and requires you to forgo all your biases, likes and dislikes and let yourself go and require utmost trust in each other.
Being that said, most of the ad for Tantra is crap really. If you want to really experience tantra, there are multiple day retreats and keep in mind, it is not fucking or group sex. Most people participate in the retreats with a someone they have known and trust and have an interest in experiencing Tantra. Google and you will find some good retreats.
How much time it is necessary for a good tantra? Also I read that tantra involve sex, will be very erotic sex and awkward positions
