So many threads about "Have you ever fallen 'in-love' with a provider" but how many providers have fallen for their clients?

I am my own hooker when I jerk off. Ain't I ?

And just to be fair to my other self, I slip a Benjamin from one pocket of my pants to other..

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Isn't that what you want to hear?  Now that you've heatd it, can you just stop shitting on every post with your cornball routine?

You used to get beat up after school a lot as a kid, didn't you?

Nobody can love me the way I love me

As far as " loving myself", I'm like football practice in the summertime...two-a-days ya know what I'm sayin  lol

MM

how to give yourself a BJ.  Then you wouldn't need them at all!

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I am my own hooker when I jerk off. Ain't I ?

And just to be fair to my other self, I slip a Benjamin from one pocket of my pants to other..

There are boundaries for a reason.

"Love" is a game played at by many clients who want to know that they are capable of seducing a professional.
Open yourself up to it at your own peril.

Sex, fun, intrigue is enough for me professionally now and forever.

An ATF who lived in a city I used to visit 1-2 times a month on business years ago.She never actually said "I love you" to me but everytime we met she made some comments which at the time I dismissed as just "friendship." After all, I had no illusion that a beautiful, intelligent, young woman, a provider no less, could have any real feelings for a married man (with kids) who was ~ twice her age. She constantly told me how hard it was for her to give "GFE" (she was only ~ 6 months in the hobby). Eventually she told me she decided to quit the hobby because she had "strong feelings" for some of her clients. We continued to meet for a couple of "dinner dates" when I came to town; and she really looked forward to these. I never dared to even ask her back to my hotel after dinner, just kissed and put her in a cab.  In retrospect, I may have missed out on a life changing opportunity? I will never know.

It would quickly get banished to the Out of Bounds board.
They are the deepest I have ever received or written and they do get published, just not here.
I seriously doubt they could be written on such a constant basis without meaning.

Looks like a match made in heaven  LOL

an accountant and his girl. I guess stereotypes ARE usually accurate.

Depending on how "real" you are being with your feelings and what you allow...it is a risk...but in the end there must be a boundary!

I made the mistake too far once in my very early days...then never again!!!

Now I can love and let go...if you allow safe boundaries it can explode your time into a place that is so intense it's electric!!!

Although...it is playing with fire...and you can get burned!!!!  As long as everyone knows it is what it is while there and you can be friends outside...and yes you can!!!

Just my lil .02!!!

Pammy

Jean valJean

He was able to get away for the weekend after the barricades fell  

a legend in her own mind.

Legend in her own mind... Kinda like female counterpart of Ridgetucky

LOL

And I wouldn't advise you too.  I was seeing a client who became a regular for about 5 years just recently he came to see me and said that he wanted to come clean to his wife & live life closer to god. I cried my little life away ;(

Kyla

Ps
I was a amazin 5 years

Short term, I fall in love many times instantly in shopping malls, events, walking down the streets, sitting in restaurant, bar, airplane and what not.

Long term is another issue. That’s when the big brain kicks in tells me, remember all the crap you put up with your last one?

you handsome devil.

I would be lying if I said I didn't have some favorites that I feel a kind of "love" for. Is it lasting, eternal love? where we'll ride off into the sunset? No. But it is a different kind of love, which fits within the context of the relationship we can and do have. I care deeply for some of them, and think about them often, to the point where I would say that I definitely have love for them. I don't feel like I could continue doing this if I couldn't find that connection with at least one person.

what someone else is being duped into thinking is theirs. I know this may come as a shocker on a fk board, but many women actually still believe their lying partners, when they claim to love them 100 percent.  

I would never want a woman doing that to me, so I give her that same courtesy. I will fk her husband for MONEY, but for free, and just for my pleasure? No fkin way. I am borrowing his time and money, just like he is borrowing my time and my body. My heart and soul are not for sale.

I don't think about my clients, obsess over them, or worry about wtf they are doing after they leave me. It is none of my business, and I don't have that "right." This is NSA!!! Emotional strings are worse than any other kind, so no thanks. I don't need anything from a married man on my off time...nope.



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because it touches on the most important question to ask regarding this thread - what do you mean by "fall in love"? I notice Jessica has "fall in love" in quotes, so I assume she didn't mean "true" love, whatever that is.

If you ask "have you ever made a connection with a paid date that transcends the date" I bet most of us, hobbyists and providers, would say yes. If you ask "have you ever had a paid date with someone that you'd really enjoy having an off-the-clock date with, I bet most men would say yes and many ladies would say yes as well (but maybe not AS many) and I bet that if you asked "do you often think about a specific person with whom you've had a paid date", again, I bet most of us would say yes.

If you ask "have you ever fallen so deeply in love with a paid date that you are ready to quit the lifestyle, dedicate your life to them, introduce them to your parents and family, give them a kidney, take a bullet for them, spend the rest of your life with them, etc, etc, etc" then of course you are going to get a lot fewer "yesses". but it does happen. I'd guess that there are a lot more men who think they feel this way than women, but who knows. I know that every girl I'VE ever seen in this business has felt this way. It's a curse...

that was a joke by the way, so if you are about to write to me to tell me how conceited I am,

PUT THE PEN DOWN!!!!!!!!!!

I mean, nobody doubts that you would pay $100 for a mediocre handjob...




AHHHHHHHhahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

I crack myself up.

I've been in relationships with two clients.

The first one started out as a TGTBT story. He ended up treating me like a piece of garbage, and being a complete scumbag to boot. Last time I heard from him, he was in rehab and wanted dirty pics as his facility blocked porn sites...THAT bad, lol. But it was a great first few weeks.

The second was more of a FWB relationship, but I spent most of my time with him over a period of one summer. There was always a finite end as he had a moving date planned. We still talk every few weeks. Altho whenever he comes to town, he tries to get me to promise sex and acts like it's his right. That's the kind of attitude that turned me off of provider/client relationships.

It's not fair to him b/c the expectation to take care of me would always be there. So the man I fall in love w/ will meet me on an equal playing field, not one w/ an exchange of sex for money. Plus I'd always think he was seeing escorts on the side and that's not ok w/ me. I have never been a cheater and don't want to "fall" for one. Most of the clients I've met are married, so they're cheaters. I could never fall in love w/ a cheater, but I have clients I really care about as people. Now I have clients who've fallen for me, especially the ones I do overnights and day excursions w/, but I like to maintain boundaries for the sake of both parties. That's what being professional is all about IMO.

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How much sense would it make to fall in love with a client who would stray w/ an escort for whatever the reason? Likewise what sense does it make to fall for an escort who may continue to see clients b/c you can't keep up w/ the bills?

Maybe the wife sucks in bed or won't have sex, doesn't give head right or is just a pain in the ass you've dealt w/ 20 years....for me, there's never a reason to go outside of the marriage. So I'm not trying to judge but explain that I would never want to be w/ a cheater, so I'd never let myself fall for a client b/c essentially they're all cheaters. Do you not agree?

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There's a huge difference between the two.

I've felt connections with a handful out of tons of clients. They're wonderful men. However, this is not what Jessica asked. Based on her question, no I've not fallen in love w/ these men.

I am the exact same way. What you are willing to do for money and what guys are willing to do for sex, has nothing to do with who you would prefer to choose as a life partner. It is naive to assume that a guy cheating WITH you, will not also cheat ON YOU when you start slipping.

I don't want to single out the men either, because plenty of women can be downright c*nts. It's not about cheating, which to me, is no longer that big of a deal in a marriage that is 15 years down the road. It would probably piss me off or hurt me during our honeymoon phase and that first 5 years, but hell...I've never made it that long with either of the past hubbies lol.

Simply put...what we fk  or what some pay to fk, is not always the same person we want to marry, raise/bear our children, and share a life with. It's not judgement...it's just how it is for some people. Many women think they are "better" than the wife a guy is cheating on, when in reality, she is just something "different." At one time, the wife or gf was also that "something new and different."

always deep love letters.

Maybe yours are, but for some its a prerequisite to keep multi-hour clients coming back over and over and over again. They want to feel loved or that they've (and their escort) have fallen in love.............so the deep amazing love letters.

of course you and your escorts could be different.

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No, because they're not all cheating. Just because this situation is what he finds best to work for him doesn't mean he's doing it to be shady. Just like us, they all have their reasons for being here. And on a similar note, not all people participate in relationships the way that you do, so who are we to say that it doesn't make sense?

I think that any moving beyond the provider/client relationship should be a tread lightly, keep your eyes open situation, but I don't think it's impossible or illogical. It just depends on the people involved.

 I'd recommend Maggie's blog "The Honest Courtesan--Commentary from a Retired Call Girl " to all.  
She married one of her clients & retired (that's her story & she's sticking to it).

Her essay "Amazingly Stupid Statements" is a tour de force on the sex trade & conventional morality.   See link below.

only one definition of cheating to me and that's straying outside of the relationship whether it's with prostitutes and civvies alike. The fact that he thinks he's not cheating just b/c this situation works best for him is why I wouldn't want to be w/ a man who sees prostitutes. For me, there's no excuse for seeing anyone outside of marriage. It's either being completely faithful or not.

the VERY THINGS THEY DO. I am not cheating on MY mate, honey, so you might want to grab your dictionary. Just because providers will fk another person's husband, does not mean we want to spend our lives with that person. That's not a hypocrite, it's a realist. If providers were on this board preaching about NOT cheating on a mate when that is what WE were doing, yea...we would be hypocrites, but that's not what this is about.

I am not the one cheating on MY husband, and then putting down cheaters...nope, I am NOT a cheater to begin with, nor would I ever fk a married man for free. I  "take part" in the game, but I don't have to play that game with MY mates. Just because I will take money from a man to help HIM cheat, does not mean I have to cheat on the one I am with...thanks.

News Flash...most married men who fk hookers would never marry one, and it does not make them a hypocrite. It is simply a preference for the type of person or character traits you are attracted to. Once again, the same things some of you might find appealing about a girl in pay for play, are not the same things you would find appealing whilst looking for a wife. It is what it is. People who cheat, rarely ever stop, especially when they are in the hobby. I know a few men who would only be with one woman, but the majority would still use the hobby when things got tough.



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Agreed. Why the fk would I send out love letters in a damn business? Good lord. Some people take this GFE shit way to far.

if we don't stop soon. Since you are such a bible believer though, tell me what your bible says about a woman who sleeps with a married man. Then come back tomorrow telling all how you don't cheat. See you then.  S64

I am not saying I play no part in the cheating, but no...I am not the one who made a promise not to fk around. I don't care either way really, but don't tell me what I have to choose for my life partner, which will never be a guy who is already lying to someone else. On that same token, I would take no offense to my clients saying they would never want to marry a hooker. It is what it is.

She is much like Kristen, Hilary, and so many other women who see nothing wrong with doing what we do, and make no apologies. Many women really do not want to do anything other than this, forever, but many certainly do. Neither is a wrong choice, but one also has to be realistic. So, she married a client...good for her. Would never work for me, but I am not into open relationships. I know many providers married and dating hobbyists, but their views on relationships drastically differ from mine.

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I understand the married one, but (and this may be just my experience) many of them are also single, widowed, separated, in open relationships, whatever. They're not cheating on anyone, so why label all hobbyists cheaters and say they're not suitable when it doesn't apply to all of them? The majority, yes. But not all. Just trying to say there are as many different people visiting us as there are letting them stop by.

IF I was to venture into relationship territory with a client, I wouldn't hold his past of seeing escorts against him unless he had been doing it outside of his marriage and his wife didn't know, like you. I honestly wouldn't even mind him continuing to see some ladies after we were together, as long as it was honest and I got to come along every once in a while. But, that's me, and I know that's not for everyone.