I was just curious as I am just barely getting into this hobby. I have read many reviews and notice there are quite a few guys who mention things that suggest they have a good deal of money. I know there are all types of providers out there but in general do they tend to discriminate in favor of these gentlemen or is it more like whoever has the money at any given time will do just fine?

The reason I ask this is because if I eventually find a ATF provider I want to see her often as I can. Now with my pay, that might only be 1-2 times a month realistically. I also would probably never do multiple hours and tip maybe 50-100 extra if the service is good. Do providers generally expect more from a regular? So basically I would be worried that the gentlemen with serious money would always get taken ahead of me even if I scheduled before them. What are your toughts?

I have also noticed that many of the providers with great reviews are the hardest to make an appointment with. Obviously this is the case because gentlemen know to expect a good time from that provider. Is this also a case of where their time is taken up on vacations and generally with big money guys who take most of their time? Also out of curiosity, is the one hour session the most common by far?

Also, I personally like to keep things fairly safe but I have been thinking about the BBBJ and how great it would be. I know there is risk in doing this but isn't it minimal? I have read that although possible, the risk of HIV is pretty low from oral sex. Please educate me here.

Thanks everyone!

1) Providers may pick and choose their clientele based on any number of reasons, pertinent to them. So, some MAY pass over someone of a lesser income, and some MAY NOT. I am inclined to think you will NOT be passed over based on your income. I think once you pass the screening process and can be verified, all that would then matter is whether or not you are clean, and respectful, and a gentleman.

2) Normally, the rates go down with 'regular' visits. There is a difference between a 'repeat' customer, and a 'regular' customer. You will have to see how your lady discounts her regulars, and what that is based on. I take REGULARS FIRST, always, so they are booked with priority, repeats next, first times next - though with my schedule, scheduling is NEVER a problem. "Regulars" have the lowest fee, 'repeats' next, and of course, first timers full fare. Even my 'full fare' is on the lower end scale to accomodate San Diego's disgusting job market and hideous cost of living - outsiders get to take advantage as it's offered to everyone, but priced based for SD. Make sense?
A good provider should pretty much operate on a first-come-first served method of scheduling and not 'bump' someone because she could make more money here, or this guy is more of a high roller. But, I'm sure that does happen. Tips are not necessary, but always appreciated, especially when you see that she's reduced your rate quite a bit, and you are genuinely pleased enough that it validates a tip in your eyes. To me, the greatest tip of all IS your regular visits.

3)Don't lump that into one! We have excellent ladies here, and booking isn't difficult whatsoever! Same day is hard, sure, but what isn't hard to get 'same day'? Hard to even get a haircut on the day! LOL! No, I don't think they are booked up with vacations, etc. - they simply have LIVES. Jobs, school, kids, kids' school and other activities! Unless you're trying to book a Porn Star or something!

4)There are plenty of great statistics that you can find from previous threads regarding STD's, risks, etc. from various practices. Do a find message search to review previous threads for information.
I do offer bbj's myself, and that is about as risky as I get. I admire the ladies who ONLY offer CBJ, but I happen to really love bbbj's myself, so I just couldn't 'get into it' and would have to learn how to even do a good cbj - got the method down beautifully otherwise! LOL!

I hope this helps..

I think Sedona pretty much covered it all.
Except that according to what the CDC told me, a bbbj risk
to you or the provider is practically nonexistant.  
And I believe that you will have an easier time than you are anticipating with your ATF.  Most likely you will get a discounted rate for being a regular, and if you give just a little notice, say 24 hrs., you should get whatever time slot that you like.
The TER members are generally the cream of the crop, so I would mention that when you are making an appointment.
Have fun and good luck.

Sedona, great advice!  I've been around for about a year and a half and you are the best at giving advice.  I hope to find out about your other talents when I travel to SD this summer.

Those are me, doing cartwheels - LOL!

I will be more than happy to see you, then!

Nubee or veteren; You just can't get better advice than hers.

Be persistant on who you want to see, unless they come right out and tell you that they don't wanna see you, then find someone else. Sometime rescheduling helps a girl out when she is having a busy day.

Everybody has their own set of rules....some more than others...and you don't know what they are until you find out on your own, or do research on reviews or posts.

Corey Edwards, PhD Sexology

What does the CDC say about DATY?  I like it...but I'm a little paranoid about it. plus, i've stayed away from BBBJ because I was really scared of the risk.

p.s.
I've seen a provider or two several times...and I've never heard of any discounting???  in fact, it's the opposite, it's almost like they expect you to tip them more and bring gifts...

If you have cable tv, recommend that you check out TALK SEX on the OXYGEN network. The host is Sue Johansen and it is a most interesting and informative program. Sue is a sex educator [&RN]from Canada.

but I'll add to it just because I'm fairly new as well.

Don't stress about your income. If you have the money for the visit, you're automatically on the same level as the next guy. Just because the next guy might have a bigger wallet when it's all over, doesn't mean the woman cares.

I've been doing this for six months now, and have seen three different ladies. All very nice and very pleasant. None of them asked how much money I had left after it was all over.

Be safe, and enjoy yourself.

I'd mention it.
What seems to be the norm in your area?

Over the years I have occasionally ran across a lady who actually lowers her price for repeat visits but have found it more common to have been granted additional time without charge by being a regular.  If I was offered a discount it usually occurred as I was leaving the first date.  The provider would say something like "if you book another appointment I will the price will be XX".

What is funny about about this thread is that apparently it is ok to ask about a discount(negotiate) on the second date but not the first.  What a strange set of rules of conduct we have here.  LOL!