To hobbyist and providers, if you have a new regular, do you expect some form of off-session communication in between visits, like "hey, how are you today?" or just keeping in touch.
For providers who do this (not to the point of looking needy), does that keep the gentleman interested, knowing he treats you as his regular or ATF?
For hobbyist, do you do this to keep the fantasy going that you have a GFE gal who you see on a regular basis? And feel she's also being a friend on some level.
Some guys who I have a very close relationship with and I know it is ok to text them or email them to say hello or little notes on how they are, or to talk about what we did for the weekend.. etc I will do that.
Some, no, MANY of the guys just can not have random emails or texts sent for privacy or discretion reasons.
But if they say it is ok and they appreciate that back and forth, then I will send little notes to them so they know that they are in my mind and they are special to me...
What? You guys think that's a lie.
Pinnochio out!!! LMAO
On the odd occasion I do but keep it to a minimum so as not to create a false sense of a situation that is not really there. And to those who I know don't have a problem with it. It's usually with guys I have a good long history with...meaning years not just a few visits.
With some ladies that I have known for a while, sure we communicate on a fairly regular basis; a text here, email there, a once in a while chat.
I have a regular who is UTR and travels around the country. On occasion, I send her an email asking how she's doing and how the trip is going. We've developed a friendship over the last few years as well as the provider/client relationship.
I have met a few ladies while hobbying that I really liked....When I say like....I mean I could see myself dating a lady like herself....But everything considered, it's just a nice fantasy....I agree with (OSP)..I have no desire to communicate, unless it is to schedule an appointment..
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I try and keep in contact with one paticular provider friend of mine,because she is my friend!
I think she would agree!(i know she would).
Unless she is a agency lady, it usually takes a few PMs a couple emails or calls,before we meet. After we meet, I don't make anymore formal contact, until next time I book a appointment or in case of reference request.
She is only my GF for the time that I am with her.Just like my Drs. are only "my" Drs. when they are practicing on me.
If she calls or emails and wants to vent about something, or see whats up, thats fine with me. I like that.
If she calls she will almost always email me first and ask when is a good time to call, or ask me to call her. Very seldom has a regular provider called me out of the blue, and when they did, they were important calls
I will occasionally send a TER PM to someone I have seen just to say Hi,and I have had some nice PMs with ladies I have never met, all over the country ,because of something she had posted, or maybe I was compelled to compliment her toes photo.Ter PM seems more layed back to me so my work etiquette rules, change a bit .
If she is a full time civvy GF I would call her every day,if she is part time provider GFE, I only call when I'm ready to play.
I would feel like I am infringing on her time if I made unnecessary calls or emails.I don't contact my Dr and ask
"Whats up" Uhhh Ribbit...
I have communicated regularly with ladies that I see regularly, and I thought that this was normal behavior. I have not initiated the communication. I just let ladies I like know that I am available to chat. Some choose to do so. On occasion, these regular chats have developed into close friendships unrelated to the hobby.
This has nothing to do with maintaining a fantasy or stroking a client's ego. Just a couple of people who enjoy talking to each other. Don't try to make it into something it's not.
I agree with Caitlyn. It all varies. I have a few gentlemen callers who are regulars and we communicate a bit outside of just scheduling a session...I even had a naughty dream about one and felt compelled to let him in on it! But these are all gents who I know it is acceptable to contact via whichever communcation method they prefer. On the other hand, the rest I wouldn't even consider texting or calling at random... Even if I don't know for sure whether their situation would allow it, I sure would never test it to find out. If a guy makes it known that it's okay, we may be in contact if I pop into his head, or vice versa. I am never put off by a sweet or maybe a sexy text message or email from a gentlemen that I know. However, never cross any boundaries with constant, over-the-top contact. That freaks us out. 
I want to make it clear that I do not call clients out of the blue. I do send them an email on occasion but calling is a whole other story. I do have 2 clients that I don't mind calling. I know they are not married and both have encouraged me to call without hesitation.
I believe this just adds to the gfe experience. We don't sit on the phone and talk for hours, but they know that I am thinking of them and that makes them appreciate my services and dare I say friendship.
However, we ladies have to know when enough is enough. Sometimes a regular can fall for a provider who he is in this type of situation with. Once that happens, it has been my experience that a good thing begins going down the drain. If you have 2 people that are mature enough to set aside ground rules and stick to them, being able to have a casual convo every once in a while is refreshing.
I leave this up to the client. I have a few regulars who do communicate often through email, this is fine with me, they have a funny story to tell me or just need to vent about their day.
Yes, it makes me feel good to know that they think of me in betwen visits.
