recently (this week) I scheduled a session with a lady who posted in a well known online mall and on CL. Her ad promised a 20-something who was "new to the biz" and very interested in learning "the ropes" - while the ad was nothing special - I thought that the accompanying pics were hot! I found no reviews, nor did her ad state that she had any.... she also listed herself as an indy...
I called. And while it would be incredibly hard to say that she misrepresented herself - I think I learned a bit more about me! than having a session...
First, she was an indy and second her pictures were not accurate - they led me to believe that her looks would be so-so. This woman was incredibly good and wholesome looking! Big natural breasts, thin taut waist and great legs and ass. Beautiful (model) face. She also was nice but NOT GFE.... so what did I learn.
I learned that while she was nice and willing to do a lot - she had a lot of rules and these completely turned me off.... to the point of poor performance.... and as I lay there with her over me, my mind went to that place of what about me does she not like... ??? curious no? I realize that her rules ARE her rules... but I am clean - neat - and courteous... so I suspect that her rules are for everyone and this was not a ymmv.... but for me, if there is no friendliness - there just is no point to the session.... I had called a couple of other providers to try to arrange a session.... and unfortunately they were not around - but the next day one of them returned my call.... just talking to her on the phone I got a boner!
What was the difference? she at least pretended to be interested in what I had to say.
While some may only be seeking sex... I suspect that a lot of us are seeking more than that... just a little understanding - a nice word or two... an interest in our thoughts... that makes us feel special - and I suspect that this feeing or desire is a two way street...
just my $0.02
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that I can have with the provider and the memory that we make together, not about the flow of juices one way or the other. I'm not looking for a girlfriend or anything else like it, but I am looking for more than I could get out of a doll or my left hand (never the right). The beautiful thing about this site is that I can look at other experiences to see if she is someone with whom I can connect. I will never see a non-reviewed provider again.
My first visit was enjoyable- the lady was pleasant, good sex- but no connection. No negatives, just no connection
Second provider- similar to what you described- couldn't wait to get outta there.
Ever since- sought through research and reviews to find great gfe ladies and haven't missed yet! Sometimes the connection is very strong, sometimes it's minimal, but we are enjoying each other and having fun. I'll take either way- the enjoying each other and having fun hurts less after, the awesome connections have some separation pain but you can't beat the session! You really know when you are with a lady who can be open enough to connect. And we've got some mighty fine ones here!
I've had both, the nothing but sex sessions, and the ones that you remember for weeks. I'll take the ladies who you can talk with and connect with. That's what GFE is all about for me.
Some experiences have been pleasant at the time, while with a few women, I still think allot about them, and desire to be with them soon. With my ATF, just hearing her voice on the phone or seeing I've received an email from her, gives me an instant woody; not because of the performance of various sexual positions and activities when we're together, but because she can make me feel like she's as much into me as I'm into her.
Dude, I hear you... I don't think you are alone in your feelings.
I find that if I spend time with ladies who I have either met here on the boards or at a M & G, our fun is better. It is all about the connection. Physical attractiveness is important but not as much as performance.
I've been in that situation before. From what I can deduce while it could be something she didn't like about you, chemistry , apparently is VERY important. Which is sort of a negative to me, as you don't know if you'll have it going into the session.
Your best bet is to pick 8/9/10 providers in both categories. I feel those women are the best actresses of the bunch; even if they dont have a true chemistry with you, generally they'll give it all they got. Also, if she has only a COUPLE of low reviews, read those carefully, as that may be a YMMV risk. (TER reviews)
I'd stay off of CL if you don't want a crap shoot. I've never used it, but read horror stories on these boards, that make me not even want to browse it .
I wouldn't call it a 'two-way' street. IT is of my belief that an attempt to provide an equal preformance should be made, chemistry or no. I always ellude back to the fact that it's a customer service industry.
I think the phone chemistry you talked about is key also. That's always a good sampling of what's to come, if you can handle yourself well there, it's a good first impression.
-M
have been the ones in which both of us were fully present and were willing to give each other what we could. Not just pleasure but comfort, understanding, intellectual stimulation, laughter, even disagreement. That kind of 'instant' connection is only possible if we can remove as much fear as we can from the equation and that's a difficult thing to do. In the absence of fear, we can learn how special we each are. Good stuff!!