How would you categorize your sessions?
Well for me, fucking is between strangers with no chemistry and little interest in each other.
Having sex is with someone you have chemistry with but no emotional attachment.
Making love...it's time to move on.
Me thinks I'm in the having sex category.
My definition differs slightly from yours:
Fucking: all about me getting mine. The other person is a human masturbatory device. If they have a good time, great but that isn't my concern. I am there to cum and go.
Sex: Mutual gratification, It's about both of us getting ours, I give her a good time, and she gives me a good time.
Making Love: It's all about giving pleasure to someone you care about. They get theirs. I am there to make her feel good, to make her happy. It is a physical expression of an emotion, and love being a selfless emotion, making love is a selfless expression.
Sessions: should be Fucking or sex depending on the mood and what you want out of it.
Fucking: One night stand. Someone you met at the bar earlier.
Sex: Friend with benefits. You know them somehow.
Love: Wife or girlfriend.
And I know it's absurd to think it is, but my body mind and soul crave it.
Keeping the lines unblurred is the challenge for me; and sometimes I do, and sometimes I don't.
I know of one other guy on this board whom I have gotten to know well, and I think we share this condition, don't we? (Yes, Mikey, I mean you.)
I have experienced all three, and each carries it's own unique and wonderful buzz. It's just a question of realizing what you desire, and matching your choice of lady to the mood. All can be fiercely intense and mutually gratifying. I love EVERY lady I've had a dalliance with. I do not LOOOOOVE them, but their health, spirit, and well-being will always be a point of concern to me. We all follow clear, defined lines as to procedure and behavior here (well, most of us) - however, a clear, definitive line as to my feelings is something I have never needed, never had, and hopefully never will. I've never been a stick-it-in, pull-it-out, later-hon kinda guy, and hope I never become that ambivalent or jaded. Guess that's why I've never had a bad experience in this lifestyle.
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It does depend on my mood, greatly!
Sometimes, I want to be held and kissed; more often than not, really. There are other times, however, that I was some hair-pullin', doggy-style, chokin', spankin'; the whole nine (NO pun intended, I SWEAR!!!) and then some!
Woo!!!
Hee hee....
Honestly, though..... a GOOD mix of both is often the best time for me, really! Mmm, I love a good insidey thrashin' all whilest being held tightly and some occasional DFK.... ¡Fantastico!
dani
Now you know of two...
Agreed mrfisher, keeping the lines from getting too blurred can be tricky but sometimes that's where a lot of the fun is!
Keeping the lines unblurred is the challenge for me; and sometimes I do, and sometimes I don't.
I know of one other guy on this board whom I have gotten to know well, and I think we share this condition, don't we? (Yes, Mikey, I mean you.)
It's all good. The emotional aspect doesn't happen in 30 minutes, an hour, or one session. The connection is made on several levels, familiarity is one of them. Do not mistake love for lust.
Most men want to be pleased but want to please me as well. If their looking for GFE then a connection is sought and offered in hopes we can get to know each other better. and then there's the final act of raw passion and being able to leave with no commitment.
Kisses Haley
I am mostly sex.but I do like haileys wording.raw, passionate, lustful sex where you are both looking to please each other, but without that C word. That's where I am with one particular girl and the sex is the BEST!!
Love fuck!
Hugs and kisses
TL
whether it's sex with the love of my life, a good friend, or a nameless, faceless stranger in a dark nightclub, it is always fucking to me.
"making love" just does not connote anything sexual for me. if i had to provide examples of love-making in my own life, it would be snuggled up with my Husband on the couch, my body fitting perfectly into his, as we watch a movie. or us holding hands and giggling and smiling like goofy adolescents as we stroll in a sunny, tree-filled park. that is making love. sex is something different...it is primal, it is basic, it is the fulfillment of a drive beyond our full comprehension. it is fucking. "rutting" also works. ![]()
Fucking - Breaking the bed frame; burning a friction hole in the carpet.
Having Sex - Breaking the bed frame; burning a friction hole in the carpet.
Making love - Breaking the bed frame: burning a friction hole in the carpet, and then saying, 'gosh golly gee willikers you sure are swell.'
I think if you get your nut off who gives a fuck what it's called. My dick's extracurricular activities don't need to be categorized - file them under fun and go make sandwich.
For me, whether I have languid love making-sessions or no-holds barred insane sessions depends upon my client or my mood.
I'm capable of/enjoy both but for me the client really sets the mood from his initial communication to the moment he walks in the door and if he seems to be a relatively "blank slate" about it it just depends one what mood I'm in sexually until he expresses which approach he prefers best.
I have clients who would prefer to talk and enjoy the companionship, the sensual relaxation of it all; I have clients I've seen for years who I've never exchange more than twenty words with because they like it basic and intense.
Its all good - I think most of us are capable of being satisfied in a variety of ways when we meet compatible, skilled and uninhibited partners or at the very least partners who are really excited about being in the moment with us.
I say (for me) it depends on the client. Its always having sex to me, and the fucking part comes in when he's giving it to me so good that I have no choice but to ignore that cramp in my damn thigh? Yeah, that's what you call fucking her right. If we're on some kind of romantic interlude kind of thing and we have candles, music, champagne...then I'm trying to make it feel like we're making love because that's what he wants.