What are your go-to techniques to break the ice when meeting a companion (or client) for the first time?
I do a lot of dinner and lunch dates. So my favorite ice-breaker is simply to share a meal. If we're not eating together, I will offer a drink and/or snacks - again, a simple way to build in a pause and share some small talk.
What other ice-breakers are y'all using?
Not just in this biz, but in general.
is to begin a session with a co-ed shower. It's sensual, relaxing and intimate. Soapy touching is playful and encourages exploration of each other's bodies. Guys that take a shower at home and want to get straight to the action are missing out on a chance to bond with the lady from the beginning. This is the one sure way to dispose of any awkwardness about having sex with someone you just met.
That's my go-to if you can find a provider that will do it. It' less than a 50-50 in my experience, usually it the make up or hair as a reason. In addition to being really fun, it takes care of any remnants from the previous dudes...or at least what I assume may still be there.
we are confirming the appointment. I just tell her I like to take a shower when arriving and would really like her to join me. It seems to increase the percentage significantly, but as you say, some simply don't want to do it. I could never figure out what their objection was to being clean, but it helps me make a decision on repeating within the next week.
My skin is very sensitive, so having someone soap me all over and leave it there gives me horrendous eczema. I shower immediately before every client, but I have a pretty specific technique for minimizing the time that soap remains on my skin, and applying lotion immediately.
It also takes me about 90 minutes and three specialized products to dry my curly hair, so I don’t want to take the risk of someone getting it wet.
90min or longer dates and also ask if they would like to add the sugar scrub with it so that our skin is not only soapy clean but super smooth and then I start with a massage then head to the play room for a lot more sexy play time. I love showering together it does really break the ice and sets the mood as well.
I used to see a lady that had those exfoliating gloves. Probably accomplish something similar as a sugar scrub. It was kind of nice , one of the things I liked about her.
at managing a coed shower without getting their hair or makeup wet. You should just mention at the beginning that you don't want to get your hair or face wet. Most customers will position themselves to help you with this.
Many list their causes there and/or on their website as well. Loving animals like I do, that seems to be a great starting point for light, get to know you, convo. Many providers are into rescue pets, the SPCA, etc. Other topics are exotic locales we both might have visited like Europe or the Caribbean. Those seem to work well for me too.
I always start by asking her about her pussy.
Yes, do some homework to have the best experience. I could talk about food for days and "foody" is a keyword for me. "Travels" is another one. Go with the flow of the conversation. If she brings up politics, just listen and maybe chime in.... after the main event 😆
I often will ask about their travels and what they like to do outside of work. This includes upcoming travels, favorite places you've been, places you want to go to, and hobbies. I love traveling and am almost always doing some sort of side quest. So I really like hearing what other people do with their 24 hours. You would be surprised at the lives some people live. These topics give me insight on who someone is as a person.
I offer platonic companionship & in person meetings over a meal as a chemistry check for those that aren't ready to dive in and take the plunge.
All of my brunch, lunch & dinner dates have been really spectacular these last two years! I offer discounts for prepay for longer entertainment.
First time meetings behind closed doors...
I always have libations and snacks. I like to break the ice 🧊 by inquiring before the booking what is their favorite color & what's their likes, dislikes, etc. I will surprise them by picking out several different lingerie options for me to model for them privately!
I provide lots of fun and creative ways to achieve bliss. Adult toys are my jam, so I bring a goody bag. My gift that keeps on giving. I enjoy helping others explore their fantasies. I'm happy to help.
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Madam, I'm Adam.
In truth, I've never worried much about ice breakers. It's not like you are at a school dance and working up the courage to ask someone to dance with you. You both know why you are there, and unless she asks for me to sit and chat a bit, I'm ready to toss the envelope by the sink, and ask her if it's OK to put my clothes on the chair.
In my case, there is none. There may be a brief chat. There may not be. I feel her out. If she throws her lips on me the moment I walk through the door, I'm going with it. If she starts chatting, I will chat with her. If I sense she's a provider that prefers I make the first move, I try my best to figure this out, though with reviewed ladies you can figure this one out the easy way, by reading their reviews. The provider and I know why I am there. I'm very comfortable getting into the sex part rather quickly. I just don't want the sex part itself rushed.
a hard rap on her incall door and loud "police, open up."
That always sets the mood. Lol.
She replied that she had another appointment but that if I come back in an hour, she would be available.
So, I came back an hour later. She opened the door and said that I should split because she's expecting the police any moment.
So, I recalled that there was a costume rental company one door down the street, and I went in and got a policeman's uniform and went back up. She answered and asked what kept me. I told her I was busy chasing down some guy who was banging on doors claiming to be the police.
She said that guy had been by about an hour ago, and was glad that I collared him because he cost her a date. In appreciation of that, my date would be gratis.
This is all the God's honest truth, by the way.
Keep 'em cumming!🤪
To cut the tension is an orgasm🤠Small talk is much more tolerable when sweaty and deep topics are much more comfortable after being.... deeep.
And get down to business. We can bullshit later during recovery. I’ll get you a drink then.
You get one crack to make an impression, do it with a smile
And if possible… a warm embrace
I gently take her hand, and shove it right down my pants…
…i break the ice with humor and if you were raised in another country speaking another language, the humor often falls flat
when i make a woman laugh, that usually means she gets horny much faster
I'm just curious if you have to pay the full rate for a lunch/dinner date. If you are meeting someone for the first time, I would imagine they want paid for that time.
I once met a girl for drinks before our date and was quite surprised to find out that counted towards our time together.
customers have not yet understood that they are NOT buying sex, they are buying TIME. Everything from the "Hello" hug to the "Goodbye" kiss is on the clock. No one need ever be surprised about this.
The flip side is that, since they are not selling sex, you are not ushered out the door once you deliver your load. This way could end up costing you $500 for ten minutes. If the scope of the date is not apparent from her rate sheet, it's okay to ask questions, but not before you meet for the first time. That's why, with a first-time provider, I never bring up social time until after the time I already booked has been completed. Otherwise, it's like getting into a taxi, the driver asks you, "Where to?", and you say, "just drive around for a little while." Would you think the meter on the taxi is not running?
Naturally, she expects to be paid for her time. The only time I'd take a girl out for a meal was after we'd had our session and I knew I'd enjoy her company. Then I simply asked her if she was free for a meal, "just friends." I don't recall ever being turned down. Naturally, I paid for the food. I just didn't pay to watch her eat it.
Along with a cold bottle of good champagne to share!