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Be Honest Ladies - Do you check our social media?
rdd6580 2 Reviews 2092 reads
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Many Providers require Employment verification, real name, etc understandably for their protection, but that does mean clients personal info is out there and it would be realitively easy sometimes to find facebook, twitter, snapchat etc profiles with name location etc.  
Do you ever look?  

I definitely do. I only accept real world info and real phone number so it's not hard to find. Just a quick peek to make sure they are not saying hateful things on there try to get a sense of the person and that's about it.

I only use it if it is provided to me as an added means of screening. However, If they’ve provided what I need—I have no reason to lurk their social media, as I wouldn’t want it done to me.  

Also, even if it is provided or mentioned—I’m only glancing at it but will not follow or contact on there unless I’m told it’s ok! :)

I usually have no idea what my new client will look like unless he has a huge internet presence.  I value my privacy in real life, no Facebook.  All my special real life people know how to reach me.  I have 4 phone numbers; work landline, home landline, personal mobile, work mobile.  I have more to talk about when I get together with friends.

I did fall for the Facebook hype for a few years.  And to be honest, I am much happier and have a lot more time now.  Most importantly, when making big decisions I don't want the distractions and voices of others to drown out my own voice.

I only check your social media if it's provided during screening.  Long as the client is safe to see and respectful, I feel no need to see his social media.

only if you send me the link to it for screening purposes.

For safety, get a sense of you, demeanor how you socially treat others in an online world.  I don't love checking gentlemen's Facebook it's not so discrete and honestly a little weird seeing too much family photos and such.  What I do find interesting that can add to our sessions music, travel, food, drink, sports.  

I don't think the majority of reputable women want to mingle in your personal life any more then you to ours outside of our time.  Respect & Boundaries.

There is definitely those who don't want to give so much information to ladies. That's fine do as you wish but I'd be way more skeptical of someone who doesn't want information.  

Yeah I like to get to know a person's character. I am careful though. I do not intervene and I do not ever sign into an account while viewing and I do not ever use it on a device that has ever been signed into any accounts to avoid popping up as a suggested friend to them. I can only imagine that it would scare the beejesus out of someone if Sasha Evans popped up as "someone they may know" for their friends and family to see.

cajunman34 reads

read in General  - - "When the client is also the enemy" to see her "Outing rules"

Scary!

I don't have social media accounts. Most useless thing ever invented.

Not that we're snooping into your lives, We want to make sure  you are who you say you are and what you look like so we know what's walking in my door. If you're not easily accessible on social media then you're hiding something is what I'm guess. I shouldn't have to jump through too many hoops. I love it when guys provide everything upfront and say if you need anything more contact me.   I would never do anything with your social media. Just be upfront and honest.   It makes life for us so much easier.

John_Laroche51 reads

Quite the cross-section of extremist nut jobs.

Arden_James40 reads

Like the other providers have said, I really only give your social media a cursory view. I'll check FB and LinkedIn and that's it. I don't have time to scour what I do find. Just a quick glance to verify you are who you say you are, and also get a sense of who you are -- which usually comes in handy during our sessions.

I distinctly remember once looking up a client and based on the info he gave me  coming to his social media and getting super excited. The guy was perfect. Super fit, tall, and seemed really nice..

I eagerly got ready for our session and opened the door to find a man who looked NOTHING like the guy in the picture and I realized I wandered on to the wrong social media page. The guy turned out to be really nice though and I told him all about it. When I showed him the page he teased me about how disappointed I must have been lol. The client and I to this day are really good friends and we have a great laugh over it lol.

It's part of my screening.  Sometimes this will help my decision, if I'm on the fence.  

Also, this can inform me of a previously-unknown personal connection between he and I, which I wish to avoid.  I've also declined to meet people because there was a social media connection:  I.E. he is Facebook-friends with one of my Facebook-friends.  

Honestly I’m surprised at the responses I go back to the “don’t give your irl information” advice.  I just can’t see a girl that requires this.  Political affiliation, tribe etc.  To me this ties back to is it ok to ever be outed.  NO!  Crazy to me to think a provider is lurking through my personal life for any reason!

accounts or profiles. Many have LinkedIn for business connections but no FB, twitter etc. If someone has provided enough information in the initial contact there is very little looking for me to do. I may look at a profile if it comes down to it but my searches usually need not go that far.  
The only good thing about my personal social accounts is that I keep up with the lives of family and friends and I can hang on to photos/memories. My social media for business has been great exposure.
On a last note, I would never ever send someone a friend request, or get involved in any way, not even to "out" a client that I was pissed at. If the occasional jerk crosses my path, I just let them pass on by, and never see them again. It's rare that a jerk passes through good screening anyway.

...because I refuse to see bigoted assholes. So if I find any bullshit on feeds, I won’t see them.

cajunman42 reads

You are an angry little lib bitch now aren't you? ;)

So, exactly what type of asshole uses your asshole?

God Bless now! ;)

-- Modified on 2/24/2018 4:51:58 PM

Yes, I check to confirm the info they gave me is correct and that the photo/name matches.  
 I would like to give a shout out and kudos to all the guys that give me the info I request and MORE so their screening is super easy and quick.  THANK YOU!!!!  

Xoxo
Scarlet

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