We can rate the providers but there's no way for them to rate us.  That seems like a problem; if providers don't have good information, they'll end up with incompatible clients. That's not just bad for the provider and that particular client, that's bad for the compatible client who maybe couldn't get an appointment, or worst case a potentially amazing provider gets turned off from the profession and a lot of people lose out.  
   
 I'm not looking to create the huge form TER uses for providers, just a few simple pledges that we clients can promise to abide by and providers can judge whether or not we did.  This is certainly neither comprehensive nor universally relevant; I've only got my perspective as a "nice guy" who talks almost as much as he fucks.  Read my three reviews to get a fuller picture.  There should be other versions of this. I wrote these in my home town so I'll call this version the Manhattan Code.  
   
 To the extent that this post generates replies, I'll admit I don't like the TER format and I may not read all of these.  I encourage PMs from clients and providerspp.  
   
 I also hope that providers can take up the torch and establish their own code.  
   
 To the extent that others have already done this, I give you thanks and credit for being there first.  I'm only a few months into this life.  
   
 Without further ado:  
   
 1) I promise pay the consideration in full, and to deliver it appropriately (up front, in an unsealed carrier, left in a visible but discreet place without mentioning it).  
   
 2) I promise to show up clean and fresh, like I expect the provider to be, and if I'm not, to shower on the clock (because the provider got ready before the clock started).  I will also either freshen my breath by brushing, mint or gum immediately prior to the appointment.  If the provider asks that I do either of these things, I agree to do so, or if I feel this is a ploy to shorten our appointment, I will state this and ask for my money back.  
   
 3) I promise to be on time, or if I cannot be on time, I will communicate with the provider as far ahead as possible, especially on an outcall.  If I am late, I will not attempt to stay past my originally scheduled ending time without express permission from the provider.  If the provider is late, I will not expect them to make up the time on the back end although I may respectfully ask if they intend to do so. I will not cancel or walk out on the appointment if the provider is less than five minutes late.  I will cancel the appointment if I am sick with a communicable illness.  
   
 4) I promise to read the provider's website, ad, or profile before our appointment and be familiar with the provider's list of things they do and don't do. If it's unclear, I promise to ask the provider in person about these things in a respectful way and not pursue them without explicit consent. I have the right to ask and the provider has the right to choose. I'll never force anything, that's a crime.  
   
 5) If I am hosting my provider, I promise to host her in a clean, safe, private place that has a clean working bathroom with soap and fresh towels.  I promise to not invite any guests to our appointment without prior consent, and likewise not to record our appointment in any way without prior consent.  
   
 If my provider is hosting me, I promise to treat their space carefully and with minimal or no traces of my presence.  I will only enter spaces I have been given permission to by the provider.  
   
 6) I promise to treat the provider in a dignified manner and not to use any derogatory language unless we have agreed to role play that allows it.  
   
 7) I promise to communicate what I want, and what pleases me, to the provider clearly.  I want to be satisfied, and I want the provider to have the best possible chance of accomplishing this.  I will never offer any intoxicating substances to the provider unless I have asked them if they wish to partake first.  
   
 8) I promise to respect the time limits of my visit and if time is up, pack up and go when the provider requests I do so.  Especially once I've had more than a few appointments, I will be responsible for understanding my body and minds' needs to be fully satisfied, and I will give the provider guidance up front to accomplish this.  
   
 9) If I plan to publish a review of the appointment, I will ask the provider if any activities we engaged in should be left out because she does not do them on a regular basis.  If the provider asks me not to publish a review, I acknowledge that if I publish the review anyway, the provider is within their rights to refuse to give me referrals to other providers or even to give me a negative referral.  I promise not to use a review as a tool to get special treatment from the provider.  I will never divulge any personal information about the provider, including distinctive body art or piercings.  
   
 10) Both before and after our appointment, I promise to respect the provider's time and personal life.  I will not engage in excessive communication or make requests for uncompensated time together.  I will not solicit personal information about the provider from anyone other than in the course of determining whether or not to make an appointment with them.  
   
 11) I promise to participate in each appointment in a spirit of mutual pleasure and respect.  Leaving aside any role playing, I will not treat the provider as a person hired to accommodate my every wish only to be disposed of at the end of my time.  I will treat them as someone who is willing to make me happy and give them the thanks and kindness such a person is due.  I will treat them as my moral and social equal.  
   
 12) I understand that if my provider has spent the time and provided the services which were advertised or explicitly agreed to, then if I am not satisfied, my recourse is to not go back to that provider and/or write a truthful review that may be critical. Withholding payment, threats, harassment or violence are never acceptable.  
   
 That's it, folks. Whether you think this is sunshine, rain or fertilizer, may a thousand flowers bloom.  
 

 
 We can rate the providers but there's no way for them to rate us.  That seems like a problem; if providers don't have good information, they'll end up with incompatible clients. That's not just bad for the provider and that particular client, that's bad for the compatible client who maybe couldn't get an appointment, or worst case a potentially amazing provider gets turned off from the profession and a lot of people lose out.  
   
 I'm not looking to create the huge form TER uses for providers, just a few simple pledges that we clients can promise to abide by and providers can judge whether or not we did.  This is certainly neither comprehensive nor universally relevant; I've only got my perspective as a "nice guy" who talks almost as much as he fucks.  Read my three reviews to get a fuller picture.  There should be other versions of this. I wrote these in my home town so I'll call this version the Manhattan Code.  
   
 To the extent that this post generates replies, I'll admit I don't like the TER format and I may not read all of these.  I encourage PMs from clients and providerspp.  
   
 I also hope that providers can take up the torch and establish their own code.  
   
 To the extent that others have already done this, I give you thanks and credit for being there first.  I'm only a few months into this life.  
   
 Without further ado:  
   
 1) I promise pay the consideration in full, and to deliver it appropriately (up front, in an unsealed carrier, left in a visible but discreet place without mentioning it).  
   
 2) I promise to show up clean and fresh, like I expect the provider to be, and if I'm not, to shower on the clock (because the provider got ready before the clock started).  I will also either freshen my breath by brushing, mint or gum immediately prior to the appointment.  If the provider asks that I do either of these things, I agree to do so, or if I feel this is a ploy to shorten our appointment, I will state this and ask for my money back.  
   
 3) I promise to be on time, or if I cannot be on time, I will communicate with the provider as far ahead as possible, especially on an outcall.  If I am late, I will not attempt to stay past my originally scheduled ending time without express permission from the provider.  If the provider is late, I will not expect them to make up the time on the back end although I may respectfully ask if they intend to do so. I will not cancel or walk out on the appointment if the provider is less than five minutes late.  I will cancel the appointment if I am sick with a communicable illness.  
   
 4) I promise to read the provider's website, ad, or profile before our appointment and be familiar with the provider's list of things they do and don't do. If it's unclear, I promise to ask the provider in person about these things in a respectful way and not pursue them without explicit consent. I have the right to ask and the provider has the right to choose. I'll never force anything, that's a crime.  
   
 5) If I am hosting my provider, I promise to host her in a clean, safe, private place that has a clean working bathroom with soap and fresh towels.  I promise to not invite any guests to our appointment without prior consent, and likewise not to record our appointment in any way without prior consent.  
   
 If my provider is hosting me, I promise to treat their space carefully and with minimal or no traces of my presence.  I will only enter spaces I have been given permission to by the provider.  
   
 6) I promise to treat the provider in a dignified manner and not to use any derogatory language unless we have agreed to role play that allows it.  
   
 7) I promise to communicate what I want, and what pleases me, to the provider clearly.  I want to be satisfied, and I want the provider to have the best possible chance of accomplishing this.  I will never offer any intoxicating substances to the provider unless I have asked them if they wish to partake first.  
   
 8) I promise to respect the time limits of my visit and if time is up, pack up and go when the provider requests I do so.  Especially once I've had more than a few appointments, I will be responsible for understanding my body and minds' needs to be fully satisfied, and I will give the provider guidance up front to accomplish this.  
   
 9) If I plan to publish a review of the appointment, I will ask the provider if any activities we engaged in should be left out because she does not do them on a regular basis.  If the provider asks me not to publish a review, I acknowledge that if I publish the review anyway, the provider is within their rights to refuse to give me referrals to other providers or even to give me a negative referral.  I promise not to use a review as a tool to get special treatment from the provider.  I will never divulge any personal information about the provider, including distinctive body art or piercings.  
   
 10) Both before and after our appointment, I promise to respect the provider's time and personal life.  I will not engage in excessive communication or make requests for uncompensated time together.  I will not solicit personal information about the provider from anyone other than in the course of determining whether or not to make an appointment with them.  
   
 11) I promise to participate in each appointment in a spirit of mutual pleasure and respect.  Leaving aside any role playing, I will not treat the provider as a person hired to accommodate my every wish only to be disposed of at the end of my time.  I will treat them as someone who is willing to make me happy and give them the thanks and kindness such a person is due.  I will treat them as my moral and social equal.  
   
 12) I understand that if my provider has spent the time and provided the services which were advertised or explicitly agreed to, then if I am not satisfied, my recourse is to not go back to that provider and/or write a truthful review that may be critical. Withholding payment, threats, harassment or violence are never acceptable.  
   
 That's it, folks. Whether you think this is sunshine, rain or fertilizer, may a thousand flowers bloom.