I had something happen that doesn't happen often but does happen from time to time. A new gentleman who passed screening wanted a time I was not available. The reason I was not available was because I had plans with a regular that has seen me for a few years and has been very good to me. I have loyalty to my regulars.
The new gentleman offered me double my rate to see him instead. To his credit, he did not know I was seeing someone else, only that I was not available. I don't feel the need to explain myself, it does not change my availability. To his surprise, I turned him down. I understand this isn't the expected response form a lady in the hobby. It makes sense to me.
The regular is a very good client, always show up, is perfectly safe and I do very much enjoy seeing him. I gave him my word that I'll be there and he gave me his. We have trust between us. I know he will see me again and again. Cancelling on him would be stepping outside my dignity and integrity. I'm not OK with that as I know who I am and I'm not going to sell myself out for a few bucks.
The right thing to do is to keep the meeting with the regular and offer the new gentleman other times I'm available which is what I did. My mindset is on building something within the hobby with the foundation of trust, respect, dignity and integrity. Chasing the quick buck builds nothing.
I kept my word with the regular. The new gentleman was a bit taken back that I didn't take his offer. Money is great but never at the expense of what I feel is right. Relationships matter, even if it's only hobby relationships. I can sleep at night because I know I did right by someone who does right by me.
My regulars are treated with the same respect, dignity and honor as they have given me. There isn't an amount of money that can make be betray the relationships I've worked hard to build over time. Even if it were a new gentleman and not a regular client I was seeing, I would not have cancelled on him. He went through my screening and we made plans together. That would be honored.
XOXO,
Becca Blossoms
I have been on the other end of that transaction in the past and it’s pretty frustrating. I was a regular with a provider and had a date scheduled. She ended up reaching out to me letting me know that she had another opportunity to make significantly more during our scheduled time. I was disappointed that she considered it, but what happened next was incredibly disrespectful. She asked me if I was willing to match the other guest’s generous offer to confirm our time. Needless to say, I never responded and no longer corresponded with her.
So for us “average Joe’s” that don’t have the financial means to outbid someone for your time, THANK YOU!
