Top-10 Advice for Rookies... as a discussion starter
I routinely receive DMs from Rookies and even Pre-Rookies... on TER as well as other Boards... Always asking me some version of “WHAT IS YOUR BEST ADVICE?’
I have been asked so often that, about 5 years ago, I started keeping up with what my Best-Advice actually is; and what experience has taught me.
Having done this for 40+ years... and I quickly learned that journaling Best-Advice is wonderfully cathartic and, via the magic of cut and paste, it has also allowed me to respond to more requests.
But it struck me last night, as I was sharing some advice with another Guy... all of my Top Best-Advice lists are appropriate-enough for the Town Square... for Male & Female consumption... and this TN Discussion Board stays a little too quiet. So, here’s some food for thought and discussion. Today I’m dropping BANDIT’S TOP-10 BEST-ADVICE for ROOKIES... hoping to inspire some dialogue!
I absolutely will not be offended if you don’t agree with some of my takes... I know for a fact that some Guys think I am too Pro-Provider... and I know for a fact that some Providers think I’m too much of a self-obsessed douche-bag who refers to himself in the third-person, lmao!
But that’s oaky... we all Hobby/Work differently... Grace and Peace!
I just hope it sparks some dialogue... I don’t care if you Agree or Disagree!
On Tuesday I’ll drop BANDIT’S TOP-5, BEST-STRATEGIES for ROOKIES BANDIT’S TOP-10, BEST-ADVICE for ROOKIES
1. BE A RESPECTFUL, TRUSTWORTHY GENTLEMAN... quick to smile, winsome and generous-of-spirit; and heaven will open wide for you! 2. SHE COMES FIRST, focus, practice & become skilled at ensuring she always has at least her first Orgasm before you have one; whether by oral, hand on outside, finger on g-spot or whatever... but probably oral if you’re a rookie. If you are attentive and practice, you will have more fun and you’ll develop a great reputation among many providers and heaven will open wide for you! 3. BE OPEN-TO & CONSIDERATE-OF ALL WOMEN... all sizes, shapes, ages & ethnicities; don’t limit yourself to what you think is your type... embrace all different types... and let the experience bless you! You will have more fun you’ll develop a great reputation among providers... because ladies love men who are simultaneously strong leaders and kind & gracious-hearted towards all women... if you have a reputation for treating all women like they’re special, heaven will open wide for you! 4. Be a gentleman, BUT BE A STRONG LEADER and NEVER ANYONE’S FOOL; be smart, be safe and keep your head on a swivel... to be blunt, be a gentleman but NEVER LET ANYONE FUCK WITH YOU and DON’T BE A PUSHOVER CLIENT or you will get hustled, lied to and stolen from... and have no fun. Listen to what people you trust say... even if it isn't what you want to hear; as an example, since I met her 5+ years ago, Christie L is pretty much single-handedly responsible for introducing me to the best girls and steering me away from the worst trouble... but I had to listen... even when I didn’t want to 5. ASK HER ABOUT HER, don’t ask about her personal life, ever... but DO ask her about her favorite Music, Movies, TV shows, Vacation Spots, etc.; and then listen closely and care... and heaven will open wide for you! She’s a human being and a woman... and she’s sharing a lot with you... don’t take that for granted! 6. Be a strong leader, but BE KNOWN AS A CHARMING, EMOTIONALLY-INTELLIGENT, OTHERS-AWARE GENTLEMAN; a man’s man who is likewise known to be flexible, easy-going & winsome... quick to share laughter, joy & encouragement... and heaven will open wide for you! 7. IF YOU THINK SHE’S ON DRUGS... SHE IS. So, decide now, as a Rookie, what are your tolerances? I’m a straight-arrow and don’t even drink... however, I tolerate All Alcohol, MJ, Blow & Party Drugs, like Molly, DMT, etc.; but I don’t tolerate Meth, H, Crack or Roxy... I don’t like watching people die... seen that one too many times already. 8. WATCH OUT FOR GIRLS WHO ARE PRIMARILY ON SEEKING, SECRET BENEFITS and/or ONLY FANS... before ALL of the ladies explode at me... I’m only talking about ladies who avoid human contact... most of them are either bitch-ass-crazy or running low-key hustles and aren’t much fun; don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying that if they are or have been on those sites, they are to be avoided... but I am saying if they are PRIMARILY on those sites and don’t appear to actually engage in human-contact be very, very careful. I steer clear... and I know what I'm doing. Plus, Rookies shouldn’t chase Sugars or UTRs, get a year or two under your belt first. Don’t get me wrong, I love both... but we can talk later about Sugars & UTRs later 9. BE OPEN TO ADVENTURE AND THAT WHICH LIES BEHIND THE CURTAIN; I'm amazed at how many ladies, once they deeply trust me... because I follow all my own advice above... will ask me “Would you be willing to do me a favor?”; and they don’t ask for money, but instead they want me to help them make a fantasy of theirs come true... that’s what comes from being a trustworthy gentleman who is quick to smile and generous-of-spirit 10. NEVER FALL IN LOVE... no matter what... NEVER! You can have love, care & deep concern for them as close friends, I have love for many of my Friends... but I never fall in love with them and try hard not to let them fall in love with you; it will start a destructive fire... for no good reason
Have Fun... and Help Her Enjoy Work! There ya go... thoughts, comments? Eastbound and Down,
Bandit-Rex
I agree with your advice. I’ll throw in my two cents for rookies. One, go with your gut feeling. If something seems off or risky, don’t do it. If a provider has no reviews anywhere and no online presence, be skeptical. Second, I highly recommend finding a couple of well regarded providers in your area.. Become a regular of theirs. That way you always have someone to reach out to if the desire arises and you’ll avoid making bad decisions. Also they can be a source of references if you see them periodically.