This is a great idea. I will keep in touch

I have signed up for SA to check it out. I did a few years ago and did not have much luck for the work I put in on it. This last week I have gotten a lot of responses even though I do not post a picture. A few of them look promising and I will check them out. The providers on 411 and TER, who are traveling ladies are really the best . We just do not have enough of them and they do no stay that long.  
I will post on how I do in the next week with SA.

East TN, we have been lucky enough to have Jenni Tay visit us on a regular basis since August and I can’t recommend her enough. Feel free to look at my reviews for details. I have also done multiple sessions with her and other doubles partners, above and beyond what is recounted in my reviews, and all have been equally off-the-charts.  

BTW, I take a fun-loving, easy-going approach to the hobby, but at the same time I’m a lifer, so I work hard to share sane, balanced information and, as such, I never accept discounts or freebies for good reviews or kind words spoken. If I’m saying “do yourself a favor, this young lady is worth looking into” I mean it sincerely.

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year,
BRex / Bandit Rex

East TN has been lucky enough to have Tanya Delight visit us several times over the last few months and I highly recommend her. Feel free to look at my review for details.  
Above and beyond what I covered in my review, I have also had a Double with her and another lady friend and it was fantastic as well. Do yourself a favor, Tanya is worth seeing.
Plus, she has one heck of a great sense of humor (and an insanely sexy voice).

Speaking of Tanya, and her sexy sense-of-humor, if you are thinking about seeing her... you should check out her Twitter.  
I am lucky enough to regularly spend time with a lot of sweet, gorgeous companions, all of whom have a Twitter account; but nobody’s Twitter is as entertaining as Tanya’s; it is in a league of it’s own.
She posts constantly and, since I don’t want to spoil it for you, I’ll just say this... her posts are insanely sexy and extremely amusing. Plus, you’ll find yourself thinking about pencil-erasers more than you have since elementary school... LMFAO.
BTW, I’ll mention it once again, I never post anything because a companion (like Tanya) has asked me to, I only post what I truly believe in.

One of the things I greatly appreciate about the last two decades and the rise of independent providers is the emergence of DFK. If you have been around the hobby as long as I have you know what I’m talking about.  

I bring this up because 2020 was, relative to my experiences, an amazing year for DFK; and 2021 has started on equally strong footing.

I’m not saying that DFK is always my favorite play-time activity, but it is top-3; and, on certain days, it’s number 1. More often than not, I would gladly provide consideration just for an hour or two of DFK (although a nice mosaic of DFK, DATY & FS works just fine too, lol).  

But to my point, I do love DFK, nothing grounds passionate connection like DFK and nothing transports the spirit like DFK.

But 30 years ago? 30 years ago the hardest thing to come by was DFK. That DATY, FS, DFK mosaic I just spoke of? 30 years ago it would have been extremely difficult to come by the DFK piece.  

I have a dear friend, a beautiful provider I spend regular time with, and nothing is more life giving than to kiss her deeply and be kissed deeply in return, while we are fully engaged in long, slow, FS passion.

So, it is with significant gratitude that I tip my hat to all of my friends who have so generously shared so much wonderful DFK over the last decade or so, but especially over the last year.

Bandit Rex / BRex

Hey Knoxville and surrounding areas, Mia L'Amour (P411 #P189403 / TER #278354) is coming back to visit us next week, so lets show some love! If we want gorgeous Once-In-A-Lifetime providers to come visit us, we need to act like it; just sayin'.  
If you are at all curious, please check out my review of her or PM me; she is gorgeous, kind and sexy-as-hell! And doubles friendly!
BanditRex

East TN, another absolutely gorgeous provider who visits us on a regular basis is Alyse Aniston (Ally). Not only is she gorgeous, sweet and fun, she also has a seriously wide "performative / exhibitionist" streak in her... talk about sexy fun! I have seen her more than a dozen times, her TER # is 100386 and you can find a long Review of her in my TER Review Portfolio (BRex). East TN, we can't complain about a lack of selection if we don't patronize the Ferrari-class ladies who are already kind enough to regularly visit our neck of the woods. Ally will be back before the end of February.
BRex

East Tennessee, the Goddess Jezebel (TER:134945 & P411:P36133) is coming to visit us in mid-March; please help me make this beautiful, exotic woman feel welcome. Bandit Rex

Hey East TN, I hope I’m not the only one trying to make some very high-quality visiting friends feel welcome, lol; I know I’m not, but seriously, let’s make sure that several of us show these amazing ladies how much we appreciate them showering us with their company.
It has been one heck of a week when it comes to announcements about touring providers visiting the greater Knoxville area... Eliza Eishen, Brandi Highland and Goddess Jezebel (all spread nicely across three weeks).
I mean... WOW! All three of these ladies are Ferraris; and them visiting us on the heels of Christie L’amour, Jenni Tay, Sara St. Clair and Mia L’amour all visiting us earlier in February, says nice thing about our future, if we make them all feel appropriately welcome.
If we really want to experience the quality and variety that we say we do, as a good friend of mine would say, “let’s not just talk about it, let’s act on it”.
Eastbound & Down
Bandit Rex

Here’s a quick question for fun... Any favorite provider Twitter accounts?
I don’t post on Twitter and I know provider accounts are primarily for marketing purposes; so, I’m always amazed at how much I truly enjoy so many of the Twitter accounts of different providers; but I do, and I can easily think of three right off the top of my head that I routinely find very entertaining, humorous and thoughtful. But what about you? Whether you are a client or companion, what about you?  
Bandit Rex

In my book a UTR is some version of a non-advertising provider; someone who doesn’t provide FS service to just anyone.  
Maybe she only sees 3 clients or maybe she sees 15; maybe she’s a legit masseuse or maybe she’s a stay-at-home-mom; but regardless, she practices her FS under the radar.  
I have had very few high-quality UTR relationships over the last 40 years; maybe 5... tops.  
But when a UTR relationship clicks it is a rare and beautiful thing, can I get a witness?!?  
So, here it is, a beautiful spring day in East TN, the sun is shining on the mountains and its sparkling reflection is shimmering across the lake, and I am driving through one of my favorite parts of town on my way to a handsome little cottage owned by my favorite UTR of all time.  
What can I say? It is a good, good day. She isn’t my ATF provider, but she is dear to me. I’m crazy about her as a person and the unique relationship we have shared for a long time. What can I say? It is a good, good day.
Eastbound & Down,
Bandit Rex

Hey East Tennessee, pay attention...  
The fantastic and incredibly sexy, not to mention super-sweet, Goddess Jezebel is visiting us next week AND  
The incredibly well-reviewed Vanessa Glides is making a trip east, from the Bluff City, to see us the week after next!  
I can’t wait to spend time with both.
Rock On,
BanditRex

WOW!  
I just had an amazing three hours with Goddess Jezebel. I'll get a review up in the next 36 hours, but what a fun, fantastic time we had!  
Expectations were met and exceeded; she is one gorgeous, amazing lady... and so incredibly PRESENT!
Thanks Jez, thanks for responding to my invitation AND thanks for making my entire week.
Bandit Rex

As I have said before, I LOVE VARIETY... VARIETY IS MY “TYPE”!
I Love Women! All Women: Straight-Hair, Curly-Hair, Blondes, Brunettes, Red-Heads or Purple & Gray Heads; Spinners, BBWs, Voluptuous or Athletic; Kinks, Doms, Subs, Soft-Touch or Rough-Stuff; Squirters, Multi-Orgasmic, Slow to Climax or Fast to Climax; Caucasian, Latina, Asian or African-American; Big Breasts and Small Breasts; Giant Clits, Normal Clits or Shy Clits; Giant Nipples, Normal Nipples, Short Nipples or Pencil-Eraser-Nipples; American, Latina, Western European or Eastern European; 20-Somethings all the way up to 60-Somethings; Cadillacs, Bentleys and Ferraris, but also a few Used Chevys, no street providers, but Used Chevys. 40 years ago, when my papaw first introduced me to the hobby, my first dozen or so encounters were with Used Chevys, so, I have a very soft spot for those Buck-Wild Country-Girls, they might not be on P411 or TER but God love ‘em, just the same!
All that being said, if you held a gun to my head and forced me to choose a “favorite type of woman” I would choose a leggy, buxom blonde with big blue eyes and bright red lips! And if she is a tall “amazon”? Well then, all the better! I don’t even care about her age... I JUST LOVE ME SOME BARBIE! I mean after all, fucking Barbie is like fucking the Prom Queen! My enthusiasm for this “type” of woman is true to the degree that, if you were to look at my P411 Okays, almost half of my Okays are from leggy, buxom blondes with big eyes and bright red lips (not to mention my sweet, sweet wife and my ATF CC).  
But if you were to look very closely amidst all of the variety that remains among my Okays, you would also see that I have a very distinct “next-most-favorite type of woman”; AND interestingly enough (or maybe not), she is the polar opposite of “Barbie”.  
My “next-most-favorite type of woman” is a petite Latina with almond-shaped eyes! Good lord do I love those women; they are some kind of WIDE-OPEN-SEXY, not to mention so, so, so wonderfully sweet, intelligent and HARD WORKING (which also translates into GENEROUS).  
More than 25% of my remaining Okays (after the Barbies) are gorgeous, petite Latinas with big, bright, almond-shaped eyes!
AND of course, what I really, really love (and you all knew this was coming) is to curate Duos between one of my favorite Latinas and one of my favorite Blondes; and YES, of course I have indulged myself in several such Duos during the fall and winter!  
Can I get a HELL YEAH!  
Let me finish up where I began, I love women, all women; including the Red-Heads, Non-Latina Brunettes and Blue-Haired Buck-Wild Country-Girls not focused on in this post.  
In fact, let me finish up with a few shout-outs to three Brunettes... two of my very favorite local friends are Non-Latina-Brunettes: my precious Kelsey-Kel and my dear, sweet Torii; AND, in conclusion, I have to give props where props are due... of the hundreds of beautiful providers I have seen over the decades the most singularly beautiful (BOTH her face and her figure) is Sophia Soma!  
While I don’t get asked about Sophia as much as certain Barbies (Jenni Tay, Debra Hollander, Sara St. Clair, Candy Curves or Trixxxie Love) or certain Latinas (Mia or Christie L’Amour, Eliza Eishen or Jezebel) I do get asked about Sophia quite a bit; I especially get asked this specific question... “Are her pictures accurate? Is she really that pretty?”  
To which I always say “YES, in fact, if Natalie Portman, who is hot-as-hell, had a PRETTIER and SEXIER younger sister, it would be Sophia”. So, here’s to the Brunettes as well! (BTW, somebody send this to Sophia!)
But ladies... here’s to all of you! It is a hell-of-a-thing you have done for me over the years! So, in appreciation of you all, I end with a quote from my favorite song about sex, The Lonely Island's “I just Had Sex”... “So nice of any girl EVER, to let me do that thing!”
Eastbound & Down,
Bandit Rex      

I know those who travel to Dallas on a regular basis were, as you were reading my last post, already thinking this, but being back in Dallas on business this weekend, I'm reminded that... if, like me, you LOVE both bodacious blondes and big-eyed latinas, Dallas is the promised-land.
Plus, Tennessee-boy that I am, I love Texas, they're just so Tennessee.
BR

I spent two hours with Vanessa Glide earlier this evening and it was fantastic! She was gorgeous and fun and funny and sensuous and delightful. Vanessa is a voluptuous, brunette 20-something with big brown eyes and a wonderfully eager-to-please energy. I will get a review up in the next 36 hours.
Bandit Rex

If it has to do with spending intimate time with fun, gorgeous women, I'm a big fan of a lot of things, lol.  

But I wanted to say a few specific words about Tanya Delight. Please check out one of my TER reviews of Tanya, I am a big fan of hers for a reason.

I'm also a big fan of her Twitter feed. I have a lot of provider friends who have really good Twitter feeds (Mia L'Amour, Jenni Tay and Sophia Soma come to mind), but in the busyness of the work-week I rarely look at them.  

Tanya on the other hand has a NEXT LEVEL Twitter feed, and I find myself looking at it on a regular basis. We spent some time together last week and, as always, she was such a beguiling mix of sexy-as-hell, girl-next-door and accomplished outdoors-woman. I have a lot of guy friends (in the real world) that love to be outdoors and hunt, but Tanya gives my most ardent outdoors-man friends a genuine run for their money! Plus, as her Twitter illustrates, Tanya makes the outdoors SO MUCH MORE FUN!  
Eastbound & Down,
Bandit Rex

Business and work in this post-shutdown economy is so on fire that I barely have time to play, much less write about it.
So, I am going to take a sabbatical from writing for a few weeks.  
But before I sign-off for a while, I want to publicly say a word of sincere appreciation to all of my gorgeous friends, especially those that have brightened my life during the winter and early spring.  
I can’t believe that so many of you have come to visit me in little ‘ol Knoxville, but you have, and I thank you.
Heaven opens wide when I am with you, and that which begins as a transactional encounter becomes something far more transcendent.
Regardless of considerations, I want you all to know that I fully understand and deeply appreciate that I have been given to far more than I have given.
Rock On,
Bandit Rex

I come from a military family and it is what established BOTH my father & my grandfather as Whore Mongers (ladies, I apologize for the vulgarity, but they didn’t use the term “Hobbyist” back then).  
My father & my grandfather taught me how to love this country, wake up early, work hard, love women and weave an extraordinary tapestry of profanity, and for all of it, I am forever grateful.  
More significantly, BOTH my father & my grandfather were combat veterans, in Vietnam & WW II respectively.  
My father’s saw the hottest action during the Tet Offensive and my grandfather saw the hottest action on Peleliu and Iwo Jima.  
More pointedly, the father of a dear friend of mine since childhood also saw heavy action in Vietnam, but Eric’s father never came home to him, whereas mine did.  
All these things taken together, every year, when May rolls around, my thoughts turn to Memorial Day (May 31st this year) and those who made the ultimate sacrifice FOR US, FOR OUR FREEDOM and FOR OUR CHILDREN.
As a quick reminder for the uninitiated, Memorial Day is, distinct from Veterans Day, a celebration of those who did not return.  
It is fully appropriate to celebrate ALL VETERANS on Memorial Day, but living veterans will always point you towards celebrating those who did not return.      
If Memorial Day has a credo among veterans, it is this... All Game Some, Some Gave All!
I mentioned that my dear friend Eric had lost his father in Vietnam; well, we have been friends for more than 47 years now, and I have witnessed, first hand, in the life of my friend, what an ENORMOUS thing it is for a 5-year-old boy to lose his dad and never get him back. But Eric’s dad didn’t die in a car accident, he died for us; Eric’s grandparents didn’t lose their only son in a car accident, he died for us, for our freedom and for our children. I suppose I may be old-school, but I think that ought to give us all heart-felt pause.
Let me encourage all of us to reflect deeply upon the immensity of the sacrifice made and the burden carried by the families of the fallen.
My friend didn’t have a dad... WHY? FOR US! FOR OUR FREEDOM, OUR SECURITY and OUR PROSPERITY.
When we think about the families of the fallen, let me especially encourage us to think about the children and the parents; put yourself in the shoes of a child who lost their dad in 2005, when they were only 8-years-old, or a mother who lost her son in 1968... can you imagine?!?  
If you have ties to the military, you have heard the contents of the Bixby letter before, it is from Abraham Lincoln, to a Gold Star Mother who lost multiple sons in battle. To my way of thinking Lincoln’s sentiment perfectly encapsulates the spirit with which we should view those who we celebrate on Memorial Day... with profound respect and bottomless appreciation. What has been done cannot be undone or repaired; the sacrifice was total & absolute and the fact that it was done for us (for ME and for YOU) cannot be altered or denied...
To Mr. Lincoln’s Letter...  
Madam, I have been informed most recently that you are the mother of five sons who all died on the field of battle. I feel how weak and fruitless must be any word of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming. But I cannot refrain from tendering you the consolation that may be found in the THANKS OF THE NATION they died to save. I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost, and the solemn pride that must be yours TO HAVE LAID SO COSTLY A SACRIFICE UPON THE ALTAR OF FREEDOM.
Amen, Mr. President, amen.
Even if you don’t have ties to the military, you may still recognize Lincoln’s words from the movie “Saving Private Ryan”, speaking of that movie, do remember the final scene from World War II, when Tom Hank’s Captain Miller said to Private Ryan, “Earn this...”, do you remember that?  
I hope we all understand that Captain Miller wasn’t really talking to Ryan, he was VERY DIRECTLY talking to us, to me and to you... to every single one of us who have lived & loved in security & freedom because of the multitudes, over the years, who made the ultimate sacrifice FOR US, FOR OUR FREEDOM and FOR OUR CHILDREN.
I ask myself constantly, “am I earning this?” Am I earning the ultimate sacrifice that Eric’s father made? Am I earning the burden that my friend Eric has had to carry, in laying such a costly sacrifice on the altar of freedom? Am I the stable, generous man I ought to be? Do I wake up early, work hard and protect the weak? Do I care for others as I should? Am I earning what has been given to me?
Let me bring this back around to the Hobby, I have the freedom, the security and the prosperity to spend an inordinate amount of time in the intimate company of beautiful women. WTF, am I dreaming?!?  
The Hobby is a good metaphor for how incredibly blessed we are in this country! Beautiful women aside, I still ought to be asking myself... “WTF, am I dreaming?!? I can’t believe what I have, and all because of the sacrifice of others!”  
In the end, I have come to appreciate that, in all likelihood, the most burdensome of all the sacrifice borne when a soldier falls... is that borne by the soldier’s mother.  
At the intersection of all of this, I want to say something with great seriousness...  
As we Hobby, if for no other reason than out of respect for the mothers of the fallen, TREAT WOMEN WELL; it matters, it is a part of earning this!
Eastbound & Down,
Bandit

I feel like I should follow up “Some Gave All” with a much more lighthearted post.
So, hopefully this one has some smiles and laughter for everyone, Brother and Provider alike...
IT IS NO SECRET... I find the Hobby to be a celebration!  
A celebration of connection... a celebration of women... a celebration of intimacy... a celebration of generosity and a celebration of exhilarating living!
In that spirit of positivity and gratitude, I want to share a quote from Henri Nouwen, one that all of us (but especially Brothers) should keep carved on our souls...  
“When you give generously... with an abundance mentality, what you give away will always multiply.”
If you happened to read my post over in “The Win-Win”, entitled “and kiss many beautiful women deeply along the way”, that post was all about MY RULES; and Rule #8 is this...  
“Be Nice, Be Kind, Be a Gentleman and Care About the Other Human Being. Remember that she is GIVING you more than you could ever give her.”  
In my 40 years in the Hobby, I've been lucky and the second part of that rule... “she has given me more than I could have ever given her”, has proven to be true more than 90% of the time. But I don't really think my “luck” is luck at all; I think it all gets back to bringing an “abundance mentality” to My Game.    
Let me put it another way, to quote Aunty Mame... “Life’s a banquet, but most poor sons of bitches are starving to death!”  
And yet, I want to assure you that, Hobby-wise, women-wise, connection-wise... I AM NOT STARVING! And money has almost nothing to do with why I’m not starving. I’m not starving because I have a GREAT GAME!  
Well now, that sorta makes me sound like I’m some sort of swarthy, douche-bag lothario; but I’m not; I’m just a boring, old man... quoting movies from 1958, LOL.  
My Game is as successful as it is because ALL IT IS... is the Golden Rule. I DO want to be treated with kindness and respect and warmth and generosity; so, I DO bring those things to the Hobby table, and I’m not afraid to put them on the table first; because I know what reality is, reality is that... before its all said and done, she IS going to have given me more than I could have EVER given her. Gentlemen, it is just the truth.
So, IF life’s a banquet, THEN life’s a celebration and IF LIFE IS A CELEBRATION, THEN SO IS THE HOBBY and so is sex! Speaking of sex... I’m not just a nice guy or a kind gentleman or a generous friend; I am also a libidinous MAN...
And at the intersection of it all... women are treasurers, connection is an unbelievable gift, generosity matters, I love BOOBIES, live with gratitude AND... sex is awesome! At the intersection of it all... is my absolute favorite song about sex, “I Just Had Sex” by the Lonely Island (Andy Samberg).  
This song captures everything I feel about sex, from “treat women like the treasures they are” all the way to “good God in heaven, I do love to fuck!”.
For your smiling & laughing pleasure, here is a paraphrase of the lyrics...
Never guess where I just came from?  
I HAD SEX!
If I had to describe the feeling, it was THE BEST!
Had sex... Undressed... Saw her boobies and the rest.
Was sure nice of her to let me do that thing?
NICE OF ANY GIRL EVER! Now, SING...
I just had sex... And it felt so good... A woman let me put my penis inside of her!
I WANNA TELL THE WORLD!
So this song’s dedicated to all the girls that have let me flop around on top of them...
If you're near or far, whether short or tall, I wanna thank you all for letting me fuck you!
EVEN IF she kept looking at her watch...
DOESN'T MATTER, HAD SEX!
EVEN IF I cried the whole time...
DOESN'T MATTER, HAD SEX!
EVEN IF she might've been a racist...
DOESN'T MATTER, HAD SEX!
EVEN IF she put a bag on my head...
STILL COUNTS!
I just had sex... And my dreams came true!  
Amen Brother Samberg, Amen!
Eastbound & Down,
Bandit Rex

Looking to revive the Tri Cities

I see tri cities not much happenning.Its a beautiful plave Im here all summer.

My Papaw might have been the one that introduced me to The Hobby when I was 15; but my father was also a Hobbyist and a womanizer.  
Further, very unwisely (if you are wondering my opinion on the subject), my father had allowed me full access to his vast collection of Playboy and Penthouse magazines from the time I was about 6; and it was with him, at the Tennessee Valley TVA&I Fair that I first officially became aware of the Hobby (and was made complicit in my dad’s womanizing with professionals).
It was the fall of 1971, I was 7 years old and, as we often did, we went to the Fair. The sun had already gone down and the Midway was ablaze in its dazzling, brash glow.  
We came to the Zipper (a crazy, elliptical, spinning-cage version of a Ferris-wheel) and my dad wanted me to ride it with him, and I wanted to ride it with him!  
Since it was both 1971 and the Fair, there were no height requirements for any rides (at least not in Knoxville, TN). But I had a broken arm and my mom was going ape-shit about me riding the Zipper; why? because she was a sweet, decent human being, unlike my shady-as-hell father. As you would expect, my father got his way and I was allowed to ride the Zipper with him and I loved it!
Like all Ferris-wheel-type rides, the Zipper would constantly stop and go as new riders got on and off. It was during one of these stops that I discovered the real reason that my dad fought for me to ride the Zipper with him.
Have any of you ever seen The Old Crow Medicine Show’s original video for their song “Wagon Wheel”? It portrays a County Fair based Brothel; and I’m here to testify, those were real.
As my father and I came to a stop, towards the top of the Zipper, my dad drew my attention to a single-wide trailer, tucked away and out-of-sight behind a few rides. A smiling woman sitting in a lawn chair was at the front of the trailer and a very depressed looking woman setting on a stoop was at the back of the trailer (both were scantily clad and both were smoking cigarettes); it was a brothel.
Then my father, pointing to the smiling woman, said “You see her? Your father wants to take a spin on some ‘dad rides’ and I need your help”, I looked up at him with a puzzled expression (although this was certainly not the first time he had asked me to lie for him).  
“Look” he said, “I want to go see those ladies, do you know what I mean?” And thanks to his collection of magazines, I did in fact, know what he meant. “So” he continued, “when we get off this ride, I need for you to act really upset and ask your mom to take you back over to the picnic grounds for dinner; which will give me some time to take a few other rides, okay?” Of course I agreed, it was my dad, upon my agreement he immediately punched me really hard in my good arm, I started crying and stammered “W-why did you do that?!?”, “tears will sell it better, trust me!” he said with a big smile; ah, Father of the Year.
But as fucked up as all of that was, when I watch that Wagon Wheel video, it’s like going home.  
Eastbound & Down,
Bandit Rex  

In my experience most of the tropes or clichés about Providers are actually true, especially the positive ones.  
Not every Provider all the time, but more often than not, I have found the following to be true... Heart of Gold? YEP; Gorgeous & Kind? YEP; and what I want to talk about today... Wife Friendly? YEP. Speaking of Wife Friendly...
Another brother asked me this question a while back and I wanted to share my response.  
QUESTION:
If I can trust what you say about yourself, you have been married to your first & only wife for several decades and she does not know you are a Hobbyist. I have also read your reviews and know many of the women you have seen. So, I have to ask, don’t you find yourself irritated or impatient with your wife after having spent an afternoon with what you describe in your reviews as a Unicorn-Class Ferrari?  
Because when I've been with a Provider who knocks my socks off, like one of our shared UCFs, I find myself thinking “Why doesn't my wife do some of the things I love? Even if it is just a decent blowjob?” And then I get really frustrated at her. Are you able to keep the negative vibes under control? If so, HOW?

ANSWER:
First, I completely understand where you are coming from. Second, I don't really know how to answer the question without sounding presumptive or cheesy; but since you were willing to ask, I ought to be willing to just lay it out there. So, forgive me if I sound presumptive or cheesy, but here’s my story...
Yes, I am still married to my first wife; we have been married for 35 years, I love her more than anything, she is my best friend and she does not know about the Hobby; or she would set me on fire while I slept! and YES, I am able to keep the agitation, frustration and negative vibes towards my wife under control.  
HOW? I’m not exactly sure, but here is what I could come up with...  
TEN STEPS TO ALLOWING THE HOBBY TO BE WIFE FRIENDLY:  
My wife and I do not have a perfect marriage. Obviously I have my issues; anyone who says he loves his wife more than anything and has slept with hundreds of other women has issues; and since I know my Hobby issue is a big deal, I remind myself that I owe her! She may not know about the Hobby, but just because she doesn't know it doesn't mean that I don't still owe her for it, I do.  
STEP ONE: When it comes to the Hobby, she doesn't owe me, I owe her.
In general, I have an intense personality; so I am on occasion pretty fiery; but truthfully she's hella fiery too; and while we aren't Irish, we act Irish... we love, love, love; we fight, fight, fight; we cry, cry, cry and we start it all over again, LMAO.  
STEP TWO: Find passion wherever you can!
We have been married 35 years, she is my best friend and she still is gorgeous; especially to me! She's almost 57 but looks like she's 45, especially to me! When I first met her, she was literally the most attractive woman I think I had ever met in person.  
STEP THREE: Always choose to see her as beautiful!
She is 5'6", weighs 120, has gorgeous blonde hair, big blue doe eyes, large all-natural C-cups and a perfect ass, especially to me! I'll be honest, even if she is only one of five different ladies that I had sex with in any given week, chances are she is either the first or second prettiest with the first or second-best body, especially TO ME!
STEP FOUR: Constantly remind yourself of her physical positives, choose to dwell on them and compliment her!
Mid-coitus my wife will still say "Stop, what are you doing? You just don't understand women or their bodies." LMAO! But truthfully, I learned a long time ago that her tendency to be sexually-finicky has been a blessing; it forced me to become a student OF HER... to become committed to studying & adapting to HER, so as to better please HER; which made me a better husband AND a better hobbyist.
STEP FIVE: Be a student of your wife and never stop studying her!
My wife is still my most prolific sexual partner. I have sex with my ATF about 55 times a year and I have sex with my wife about 65 times a year; now if I could just pull off THAT DUO, LOL!  
STEP SIX: Love having sex with your wife and you will love it even more!  
MY WIFE DOES HAVE A NO-GO LIST: No BJs period and no Greek ever!  
But why should I even care? I get plenty of BJs and Greek. Plus, my wife... Is the best kisser I have ever had!! Gives these insane standing HJs (that involve her flicking her fingernails on the head of my cock) that no one else has ever been able to duplicate for me!! Loves face to face standing sex more than anyone I've ever met; and she wears these sexy-as-hell high heels when we do it!! Never says "not tonight" and if she's not in the mood she'll say, “I'm not really in the mood, but if you let me sit on your face, I bet I'll get there"!! Has a pussy that just has my cock's number! I could have just come from a three-hour two-orgasm session with my favorite UCF, where, during both “Rounds” I easily lasted inside the UCF’s pussy for 5-10 minutes across 4-5 different positions... YET my wife will still get my old man shaft hard as a rock with those fingernails and then once I’m inside her slit, that pussy just consumes me and pops my top in less than 2 minutes!  
STEP SEVEN: Make a conscious choice to relish, cherish and treasure your wife's sexual attributes! Accentuate the positive and decentuate the negative!
If I just spent three hours with a UCF and then go home, I'm not frustrated at my wife, I'm really turned on! I just got to fuck a UCF, then I get to go home, take a light shower and lightly brush my teeth (but I DO NOT wash my face or lips, so that I'm kissing my wife with the UCF’s pussy, which I find incredibly erotic) AND THEN... I’m going to fuck my gorgeous best friend while she is standing up in front of me and wearing a pair of black, stiletto, "fuck-me" heels. My wife could be short, fat and ugly (and who knows? Maybe, objectively speaking, she is) and I would still find all of that AND HER insanely erotic!    
STEP EIGHT: Find things about your sex-life with your wife that you still find to be sexy and naughty!
In many different reviews over the years, I made references to the Prom Queen, as in "fucking Terri was like fucking the Prom Queen!" Well, in the real world my wife was the Homecoming Queen AND the Prom Queen AND older than me; and I should never forget that! Forget What? That I was desperate to be with her and love her AND fuck her from the minute I first saw her; further... she put on that White Dress for me and had my beautiful children and has been my best friend AND has let me fuck her brains out more than 2,000 times in the last 35 years; or at least that is the way I choose to see it!  
You know how sometimes you make love to a Provider, as opposed to just fuck? Well, especially in your own mind, don't forget to flip that around; don't just have sex with your wife...  
FOR HER, make love to her! and FOR YOU, make sure you are still fucking her! When my wife has on those heels, we are fucking! And the truth is, it’s up to me and how I choose to see her... do I want her, yearn for her and hunger after her?
STEP NINE: NEVER forget how much you wanted to fuck your wife, and don't let go of that! WANT HER, YEARN for HER and HUNGER AFTER HER!  
I wish I could show you a picture of her, but obviously I can’t; so, just Google Image search “Mariel Hemingway in her 40s”, and that is exactly what my wife looks like today; at least that’s what I think she looks like today!  
STEP TEN: Be excited about, proud of and really into your wife.  

In final conclusion, I want to give a few of my Provider friends a shout out for the degree to which they are, as individuals, very “wife friendly”; CC and Mia and Jenni and Sam in particular, they are all ladies who I would describe as protective of my wife and family, and what an amazing thing that is! Thank you ladies.
Eastbound & Down,  
Bandit Rex